Treerose - i was so worried to be alone w/the 2 kids too, but it really was/is OK...much better than what I'd imagined anyway;) It will take much more time adjusting, esp for the older siblings, but that's why I'm trying my best to take it easy and give DS1 that time and tons of love.
We had our first visit from friends today, one that's DS1's exact age. It was not pretty, unfortunately. He pushed him a couple times and got pretty crazy at times. Luckily my friend was understanding. I feel like maybe I should get him back on schedule, but also think it's too soon! We're going to try to make a LLL mtg on Thrs and our homeschool group on Fri. but we'll see...
Ramzubo and lovebeingamw - how about letting your babe's sleep on your side instead of in between you and DH? I had DS1 sleep in btwn us when newborn until one night I awoke to DH almost on top of him and DS1 struggling a bit to get away! Yikes! From then on I slept in the middle. BFing mamas have that intuition and I don't consider it unsafe to co-sleep. I don't, however, want DH to sleep w/him. A study I read a long time ago showed all the babes that had been smothered (in the study) were by non-moms or bottle feeding moms, no bfing ones though. Even when DS1 was 18mo old and sleeping in his room it took me weeks before I didn't wake up every time he did (and I didn't have a monitor or anything in the room), that's how "in sync" we were!
It's nice to hear from everyone and how y'all are doing...makes this journey less isolating, YKWIM?