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post #101 of 174
I was 21 when I had my DD and 24 when I has my tubes tied! I am 30 now and have never regretted either decision.
post #102 of 174

29, and 33 with the second, at which time I had my tubes tied.  :)

post #103 of 174

I just turned 23 when my first was born.  (I was a couple days from turning 25 when my second was born, 26 when we adopted my third, and 28 when my littlest was born).  

post #104 of 174

25 and 30.

post #105 of 174

37

post #106 of 174

34 with first DD and 40 with my twin girls.

post #107 of 174
I was 26 when I had my first and I'm now 29 and will be having my second later this year...same as other posters smile.gif. We will be done after this. I thought I wouldn't have my first until I was 28, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
post #108 of 174

I was 29 with my first baby, who was premature and died shortly after birth. I was 30 with my second baby, and 33 with my third, who was just born 2 weeks ago. With things as they are, I think we are done having kids. But if circumstances were to change (i.e., we had more money, time, and flexibility to have a stay-home parent), I might consider one more.

post #109 of 174

I was 25 when DS was born last September, five weeks before my 26th birthday.

post #110 of 174

I was 19 yrs old when i had our first daughter ... My second daughter i was24 yrs old and my youngest our son i was 28.. I will be 30 this year and we are unsure if we are finished having children just yet. 

post #111 of 174

34, 36 and 39.  

 

Youngest child was born in a wonderful calm home birth (my second home water birth) with Down syndrome and she just turned three.  She is doing amazingly well!  (Has been on Targeted Nutritional Intervention since 7-8 months old). 

 

And....I'm not done having kids yet, no matter what the hubby says!  Still trying to get the timing right!

 

 

post #112 of 174

Annawest, sorry about your loss 

post #113 of 174
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Originally Posted by Poddi View Post
Most other people don't marry until they're 30, and tend to have their first baby at 34 or 35.  These are mostly professional people with good jobs, so I guess they develop their career first.


It's true that a lot of people develop their career prior to having kids, but it's also true that from the outside looking in, it's hard to know exactly why people are starting their families later. For example,  couple may have issues with infertility (it's more common than most of us realize) or may have other issues that are keeping them from starting their family. In the meantime, they are working, so it looks like they are focused on their career.

 

I would be a good example of that. I didn't get pregnant until I was 38, and I had developed my career to a very solid place before I got pregnant. I wanted to start a family when I was in my 20s, but my mom was dying of cancer, and I didn't feel I could devote myself to her and to starting my own family at the same time. Then a few years later, DPs father died, and her mother was thrown into a financial crisis, causing DP to spend a lot of time care giving. When we finally felt that things had settled enough that we could start our family, we ran into fertility issues, so it took much longer than we expected.

 

None of this was stuff we talked about much with anyone other than close friends. So if you didn't know me well, you probably would have assumed that I was just more focused on career than on family. But the truth was a bit more complicated.

 

post #114 of 174

19 and 21.

post #115 of 174

I was just about 42 when he was born. 

 

I've thought, in the past year, about trying to have a second but I no longer have a husband and had some infertility issues even in having this guy.  He's most likely my only one.

 

The first 9 months were especially difficult as he didn't sleep more than 1.5 hr at a time but somehow I did it!!  I do look forward to a whole 6 hours of sleep someday though - what a dream!

post #116 of 174
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My girls were mad at me when they got pregnant.  I made pregnancy look easy even in my mid 40s.  They both were sick most of the way through their pregnancies.  I never was sick.  With Dylan, I did get lazy because I could always count on the girls to help with him.  I didn't have to worry or go about finding babysitters with him.  And I took advantage of that.

 



I've never been sick. I've just had increasing issues with severe fatigue, and creeping muscle/back pain - it got worse with each one, from the third to the fifth.

 

DS1 is my first choice of babysitter, but he's very busy, so we don't get him that often. My oldest nephew (16) is my fall back. He's great with my kids, and they love him to bits, and he always felt kind of like my second son, anyway (my sister and I shared a house for about four years when ds1 and dn were little). It is nice not to have to worry about. And...depending on when ds1 starts a family (I know he wants to), he'll probably have his younger siblings babysit for him. The age gap has worked out pretty well.

 

But, I'd still rather have had all my kids when I originally wanted them....except that then they'd be with my ex, which really would have been a bad idea, in retrospect.

 

I wanted to start a couple of years (like...four) before I did, but my ex was over a year younger than me, and there were some issues with his family of origin (specifically, my ex FIL) that were easily ignored by just waiting a couple of years.

post #117 of 174

18 with my DS hubby was 20, 22 with DD, I'm 23 now, I would like to have more but I was hoping all my kids would be in college by 40 so I'm not sure. I would have liked to have lots of kids but money has been an issue :(  I like being a young mom, I climb trees with my 5 year old and if no on is on the playground to play with him I crawl through the tunnels and go belly first down the slide. I want to be able to play and help out with my grandchildren and great-grandchildren. My kids have 7 great-grandparents and 4 grandparents. My great-great grandma was still alive when I was born (died at 94). We were poor when we were first married (still are), hubby is in med-school now, so by the time the kids grow up hubby will be a doctor and we'll make enough money (and still be young enough) to travel and go on adventures. My mom is 50 and she is joinng the Peace Corps next year. Now that my youngest brother is in college. I definately want them to be in college by 45. So maybe 1 more or 2 if they are close in age.

post #118 of 174
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post



I've never been sick. I've just had increasing issues with severe fatigue, and creeping muscle/back pain - it got worse with each one, from the third to the fifth.

 

DS1 is my first choice of babysitter, but he's very busy, so we don't get him that often. My oldest nephew (16) is my fall back. He's great with my kids, and they love him to bits, and he always felt kind of like my second son, anyway (my sister and I shared a house for about four years when ds1 and dn were little). It is nice not to have to worry about. And...depending on when ds1 starts a family (I know he wants to), he'll probably have his younger siblings babysit for him. The age gap has worked out pretty well.

 

But, I'd still rather have had all my kids when I originally wanted them....except that then they'd be with my ex, which really would have been a bad idea, in retrospect.

 

I wanted to start a couple of years (like...four) before I did, but my ex was over a year younger than me, and there were some issues with his family of origin (specifically, my ex FIL) that were easily ignored by just waiting a couple of years.


I only called in too tired for work once while pregnant with Dylan and then I only took the morning and did a half day.  I didn't miss any time  while pregnant with Joy.  I didn't work out of the home while pregnant with Erica and Angela.  We started home school Kindergarten with Joy when I was pregnant with Angela.  What was hard with Dylan was the 2.5 years of reverse nursing because he didn't like bottles.  It's a good thing that we co-sleep.

 

Unfortunately, Dylan is not babysitter material.  He does ok when Joy or I am there but he forgets about the age gap and gets made when they don't play at his level. 

post #119 of 174

24

post #120 of 174

19 and 21 with DD1 & 2, 34 with DS.  I have loved being a young mom the the girls, but I have noticed that I'm a calmer, more patient mother to a baby now that I'm in my 30s.  There's something sweeter about having this little one now.  I guess I already know who I am (well, at least I have a better idea) and I can focus more completely on enjoying him, without worrying about what anyone else thinks, etc.  

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