Edited by 1babysmom - 3/19/13 at 6:32pm
We did not find out with our first and I wouldn't do it any other way. Afterall, this is the first surprise that your child will reveal about themselves! I also can't wait to know what her/his personality will be, whom they will marry, what their interests will be, etc. Worth the wait imo!
I found out with DS1 and DD1, it was a surprise with DD2 and DS2 (I stopped having routine ultrasounds). While it would be convenient to know early for room-planning (if it's another girl then we'll need to switch the boys' and girls' rooms!), but I'm going to have it be a surprise again. I loved the moments with DD2 and DS2 when I scooped them up out of the water and held them for a minute before looking to see the sex!
We really don't want to know. We want it to be a surprise, and we don't want to force the traditional gendering. We also believe that regardless of how they're born, their gender is theirs to discover and express in their individual way. Like Bradymom put it, this is just one of so many elements of who they will be, and we'll wait to discover that. What an exciting time!!!!
We will be finding out. We didn't with our first and did with our 2nd. I have to say I felt much more in touch and connected to the second knowing his sex, we were able to pick out his name. It felt great being able to call him by name.
We picked his name at 15 weeks or so and never changed. IT IS SO HARD TO PICK A NAME WITH MY HUSBAND. So once we agreed on Jude Marley, I never ever thought about names again.
Aaaannnd if it's a girl, :) I want to go girl shopping since I work at a children's resale shop (yay for employee discount!!)
We don't know yet.. in one way I have always wanted a surprise.. in another it would be so much easier to know. Im a major planner so I don't know if I could relax if I didn't know what I should prepare. Of course with my middle I preped both because I wasn't 100% confident in their guess.
Good to hear reasons for both- DH and I are having trouble on this one. I don't want to find out, but he does- and we both doubt that having only one of us know will last long. Did anybody successfully have only one of you know and honestly keep it a secret?
No personal experience, but it sounds pretty difficult to do. Didn't you ever see that Friends episode??
I loved the surprise with my first. I was guessing he was going to be a she, obviously I was wrong! Both my SIL's had babies 2 months before mine, and they both had girls. I was a little disappointed that I didn't have a girl too, but the feeling didn't last long since DS was the sweetest little thing I'd ever seen! I'm considering getting an ultrasound with this one(didn't have any with DS), but I still don't want to know the sex! I'm actually afraid of accidentally finding out if we do go for the US.
I am so excited to find out what we're having! Hopefully the ultrasound will reveal - that will be the big surprise for us, and I can't even wait that long, ha ha :)
Like others, it helps us connect in a different way. We also struggle with boys names, but we already have a girl name picked, so knowing early will help with that. We just want to be able to plan for the arrival differently, knowing if there is a wee girl or boy. We would also like to help DS get a better sense of who is coming - he's full of questions, and I have a feeling he would want to know boy or girl.
I wish I had the patience to wait until birth, b/c I think that would be really special, but we're happy with finding out :)