Chat Thread- Jan 30- whenever

[Katico]

New thread!

In which I try to keep my foot out of my mouth! 

facebook:  It's been lots of fun stalking...err... friending you all on FB 

Starling:  super impressed with that cake, dude!!

Partners who need to cope better at night: Glad to hear I'm not the only one with this issue.  It just is so frustrating because it just makes the tantrum worse/longer.  It doesn't happen very often and she needs us to put up with that tired, sad, irrational mood for about 5 minutes until it passes and everyone can go back to sleep.  Throwing her stuffed kitty cat out of bed/across the room and telling her to go to her own room?  NOT HELPING.   But thanks so much for showing up, DH.  

Snow:  It's snowing here as I speak....yay, can't wait to go out and play in it tomorrow......

I'm lying.

Bottle=screaming  So, here's a fun one - Claire has been fighting her bottles the past week or so.  I know she's hungry...but when I offer the bottle she screams blue murder.  After about 10 minutes of that she will reluctantly accept it.  WTF?  Not like I have another option!  It's exhausting for everyone involved.  

AFM  work on the house is starting tomorrow - painting, lights replaced, a whole bunch of little fixes.  So exciting. 

DD1  complained of a stomach ache tonight but so far, no sign of actual flu.  Fingers crossed.  I dread the day the whole family and baby gets the flu.  

My mother visited today.  I am still recovering.  But I just kept thinking of your MIL, liva - my mother is none-to-subtle in her disapproval of my housekeeping (which is ridiculous because I scour the place before she visits) but at least she doesn't document it on film 

Edited by Katico - 1/31/12 at 6:32am

[emmaegbert]

katico- you know this means you have to organize us into a FB group now... 

a good laugh for those of us without blog-ready homes... http://www.scarymommy.com/pin-this/

[theboysmama]

emmaegbert- thanks for sharing. That is oh so true and too funny BUT why oh why haven't I learned to not read the comments.

Katico- thanks for starting the new thread. I second emma on you starting a fb group.

Sry claire is refusing the bottle how frustrating! Maybe you should latch her onto the boob, then she will realize that there isn't much there and be happy with the bottle? Or you could just put chocolate syrup or coke in it, I have seen that done before. bwahahaha

I hope it blows over quickly.

Partners that need to cope at night- count me in. my dh is a night owl but once he is asleep is a complete a** if he is woken up. that leaves me to deal with the kids throughout the night and then get up with them early in the morning. Then when I am up with them (eitehr at night or in the morning ) if it wakes him up he yells at them or me and works everyone up. Totally unhelpful.

[not_telling]

SBIA

Emma - awesome...added the blog to my Favorites.  i so often find myself gazing dreamily at pics in pottery barn kids or whatever...and then looking around my house in dismay...

Katico - thanks for new thread, hope your home remains flu-free.

afm - i am so sick of this lingering sickness in all of us.  yesterday i finally made sure to inundate myself with fluids (hot n' cold drink, neti pot), extra vit. c...and i think i'm a bit better today...throat wasn't really sore from postnasal drip when i woke up...but still have annoying cough.

going nutty with this school decision thing.  just got back from having coffee with friend who's an alum of school #1 and is sending her kid there next year (DS and her kid go to preschool together right now and are friends).  she did the mexico exchange when she was a 5th grader and said it was awesome (and she said she was a very shy and home-focused kid).  she said school is very purposeful and thoughtful about matching kids with pen pals/ host families.  tonight i'm talking to a former colleague who now teaches at the school..she said she loves the school but will also give me the "ugly inside info, of which there is very little."  and tomorrow i'm meeting with another former colleague whose husband used to work there and whose son went there for 4 years.  am i overthinking this?  mmm...perhaps...but i know of no other way.

as for the babe, she's doing GREAT sleeping in her co-sleeper all night and my shoulders/neck thank her for it.  she always ends up turned around so she's cross-wise...which is what she did in our bed, too.  it's like she needs to feel something at the top of her head and at her feet.

[not_telling]

i meant to also say...

starling - awesome job on the cake!!  your daughter is so super cute in that photo...as i'm sure you're well aware.

[livacreature]

Emma: Best link ever!  I got you.  I used to hire a housekeeper once at the end of each term and it was lovely.  I should make myself do that now.  My big problem is finding space for odd things.  Like my giant jug of rum that sits on the counter because it won't fit in my rack, or the bag of dog food that can't find a home.  Below is my kitchen on an average day.  Not terrible, just not very neat looking/  Just visualize piles of cards and mountains of take containers and you will see  post-partum kitchen of photo infamy.  And yes, I have kitchen carpet.  It will be ripped up this spring.  The previous owners were big fans of carpet...even in the bathroom.

Katico: What are they painting?  Colors?  So nice to be getting stuff done!

[RosemaryS-F]

New thread!

fb group: As a neanderthal, I don't understand--could we still have threads? I like threads and conversations like we have here. I'm up for it, though. Why not the social group on MDC though, out of curiosity? Because it isn't private?

[Katico]

BIA

I like the forum best too - I'm rooting for the MDC social group for sure.  I know it isn't private but if we're FB friends too that will let us share pics etc we may not want here.   

I'll put my head to creating a FB group, a private one, then if we want to share something but not in an mdc thread, we can post it to the FB  group.  and, I think that you can send links to fb pics etc to anyone, even if they aren't on FB  right?  so if someone wants to see, we can pm them a link I think

if that made sense.

More later!

[Katico]

Ok, group created!  I think I have everyone I'm friends with.  Anyone else who wants in just let me know!!  I made it secret so we're the only ones who can see anything about it

[~pi]

I'm always so relieved when someone starts a new chat thread after I get behind on the other one!

Group going forward: I would like to keep the social group going for the DDC members who don't use FB. I do use FB, but it's both personal and work for me, and I try to keep those separate. I'd be cautiously up for a private group (i.e., not searchable, no one except group members knows it exists.) That's how my older DS' DDC ended up, though we spent a number of years on a little private board first that one of the members set up on proboards. I don't love FB's privacy policies, but it is at least less public than a public board/social group.

ETA: Just catching up on the last chat thread: livacreature, your MIL is a piece of work.

[theboysmama]

I went over to the fb group, beth thanks for setting it up. I don't think you can do threads but if you have a long monologue type post then it can be put in a doc. then everyone can respond to that content. I think we will be able to figure out how to make it work for us. I am not apposed to a social group as well I just don't know how it works, have trouble finding it, and prefer teh private aspect of the fb group.  So glad I have a place to show you ladies some pics:). I have been dieing to show off my family.

[tank]

can someone PM me the facebook group?  I'd like to join.

liva-  carpet in the bathroom?!  that sounds... awful.

[Katico]

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Edited by Katico - 2/13/12 at 12:28pm

[tank]

k I added you!

[livacreature]

Originally Posted by tank 

liva-  carpet in the bathroom?!  that sounds... awful.

Yep.  That was pulled up and new flooring laid as we were moving in.  It was beyond weird.  But the kitchen stuff that was immaculate when we moved in now has so many spill spots...and it has just been since the end of July.  

I am enjoying looking at everyone's pictures!  TheBoysmama, your brood is precious!
 

[lifeguard]

liva - your kitchen is lovely & big. We had carpet in one house we lived in when we were kids - such a weird idea. I still remember the day an egg got dropped...

not_telling - I would totally being doing the same thing. I am so nervous about our kids going to school. Dh & I both were bullied as kids & I just don't think I can tolerate it for my own. Kindergarten registration for Sept. is going on right now & I am soooooo torn. Ds will not be 4 until end of Oct. Add to that this ridiculous full day kindergarten ON is pushing through & I highly doubt we will actually be sending him. I know it will get awkward though as people are already asking ds if he is excited for school - yeesh, he's 37 it's 6 months away people!

Thanks for the fb group - I spend altogether too much time over there (& here).

Ok - so I hadn't wanted to consider it but I think maybe it's time to admit that dd is rather high needs. She doesn't cry much mostly 'cause she is ALWAYS on me. She does not like dh (which means by the end of 15 minutes we are all just done). She will only consent to be put down (or sat up) if I am right there interacting with her (none of the lovely put baby on the floor & sew for an hour like ds) the whole time. If she is awake her legs & arms are constantly in motion (I'm going to be running when this girl becomes mobile) & she spends most of her time grunting & complaining & grunting & whining & grunting. Even when bfing I often feel like it's a wrestling match. I love her to tears but lordy I'm drained by the end of the day with her.

[dollyanna]

OK, Facebook group - I'm in!  I'm more comfortable sharing photos there as well.  Beth, I just asked to friend you.  But I agree, we should still do the social group or whatever it's called here.

not telling - good luck with the school decision. We have a crazy lottery system here for public & charter schools here and DD ended up being accepted at a total of SEVEN schools between the time of the lotteries in April and school starting in September.  Some of the schools were automatic "no," but we had to make some hard choices.  DD is really happy where she landed, but we definitely took a chance.  Nerve wracking!

Liv - WOW.  Your MiL sounds charming.  Your kitchen is WAY more sparkling than mine is on an average day.

I actually had our house somewhat de-cluttered just before the holidays, but it didn't last long.  Once I finish working at the end of the month I want to start selling some stuff on ebay & some books on amazon.  I just don't need them anymore.  I've been trying to figure out a way to get new furniture in here. What we have wasn't bought to fit this space, and it doesn't really work.  And some of it is ugly. Unfortunately I can't really justify buying much considering my impending employment situation. Once I get rid of some books, I think I want to replace one of our hand-me-down bookcases with one of those expedit ones that are always for sale on craigslist that can fit record albums as well as books.  DH got the scooba robot that's been sitting around broken for the last 4 years working again, so that's exciting. I hate mopping!

[Leiahs]

Katico, I just sent you a friend request on FB, if you could please add me to the group when you get the chance!

I don't think I really care what format the group moves forward in... I pop in to add my 2 cents so infrequently I'll just do the best I can, wherever.  ;)

Even with a new thread, I can't keep up.  Sigh.  I can find time to read, but not really time to reply to everything.

BIA, just fell asleep after super crankiness, plus I'm dealing with my forever-favorite (NOT), bedtime for the olders without DH home.  Again.  Nights like this, I hate my life.  I want to run and escape.  As soon as they're all asleep, it will be fine, but I felt like screaming and breaking things, so I came here instead.  Makes sense, yes?

Malcolm is 4 months old (and 2 days)!  He's rolling over like a maniac now.  He did it here and there a few times over the past week or so, but started in earnest on Monday.  So fun to watch.  And yet frustrating, because he gets mad at being on his tummy after a few minutes, and we have to flip him back over, and then he immediately rolls onto his stomach again, and over and over and over.  I'll be both happy and sad when he figures out the other direction!  I adore the determined look in his eyes when he decides he wants to roll, though.  So awesome.

[RosemaryS-F]

Hold the phone! I just checked my email inbox and it was AAAAWL about facebook facebook facebook! Wow, my online time just got so much more interesting/complex. Right?

[theboysmama]

Originally Posted by livacreature 

I am enjoying looking at everyone's pictures!  TheBoysmama, your brood is precious!
 

Thank you! I am so glad I get the opportunity to show them off.

Originally Posted by lifeguard 

Ok - so I hadn't wanted to consider it but I think maybe it's time to admit that dd is rather high needs. She doesn't cry much mostly 'cause she is ALWAYS on me. She does not like dh (which means by the end of 15 minutes we are all just done). She will only consent to be put down (or sat up) if I am right there interacting with her (none of the lovely put baby on the floor & sew for an hour like ds) the whole time. If she is awake her legs & arms are constantly in motion (I'm going to be running when this girl becomes mobile) & she spends most of her time grunting & complaining & grunting & whining & grunting. Even when bfing I often feel like it's a wrestling match. I love her to tears but lordy I'm drained by the end of the day with her.

ds2 was high needs also. I like to think of it more as determined, knowing what they want, etc. He is a very fun loving, easy going, independant kiddo (at 7) that took a while but it was sure worth the struggle. ds1 was a easy baby but since he turned 2 has been a lot more challenging.
 

Originally Posted by RosemaryS-F 

Hold the phone! I just checked my email inbox and it was AAAAWL about facebook facebook facebook! Wow, my online time just got so much more interesting/complex. Right?

When fb switched to its new format a few months ago I stopped getting messages... hmmm.