Queer Conceptions February 2012

[nosreves]

WELCOME TO FEBRUARY. Let's "leap" into a slew of BFPs this month!  GOOD LUCK and BONNE CHANCE, gals! 

Waiting to O 

* CarpenterAnt

* Happycalm

* nos reves

* Hopeful22 

* Allison Graham

* SkyandTru

* lisedea 

Waiting to Know... Braving the 2WW 

* RS11

* MrsandMrs

* Cananny

* esenbee2

* invitnconceptn

* outdoorsy

* bwilliamson94

* Amt1015 

Working on IVF 

* Alphahen & DP

* FiveGrandBaby


Waiting for AF 

* Gellybeangrl 

* EmilyandCathy

* Wishin'&hopin'

MIA/Taking a Break/Figuring Things Out/Waiting to be Ready 

* kgulbransen

* Carmen 

* Pokeycip

* AnnaNotherThing

* TineyDreams

* NAMW
* RainbowValleyMama
* MaxK
* IrishBabies 
* AmandaMom
* Glados
* Serepartera (February 2011)
* Miss Scarlett
* Milletpuff
* Chiquitayy
* Lyndzies1
* Want2bePapa
* MeghanC
* Yeledov
* Handerson
* BunnyLullabye
* cnmk14
* Maybeababy
* 2moms3kids
* OwlandTurtle
* jennytuck
* JennP85
* Habitat
* EmandJoHeil
* MrsPP 

* Hoping2bemoms

2012 Graduates! 
 

February  *MidwifeStephPDX  *SouthernBelle24 

January * Planet  *Dandylez

2011 Graduates! 

December * DesertSunsets 
November * Aljm41910  
October * Vienna79  * KSDoulaMama  *Pleasantlyfurious  *SwtRainbowBrite  * Go_Vegan 
September * Smilingsara  * Ad Astra  * Mumquest 
August *Prettyisa 
July * Onemommyonemama   * Southern Fried Karma  
June * CrystalPerez * Qmama42 
May * KellySF 
April * want2bmumx2  * Indigoscot & DP 
March * Graceie  * Seraf * 2ezforyou  *Mommy55 
February * Escher 10/24/11 *SharriKitColorado* DAWNMP1
January * Starling&diesel 10/2/11

2010 Graduates!

November * Mizyellow 7/25/11 * AmyPDX 7/30/11 * AmandaHope 8/3/11 * Cejae 7/4/11
September * Solejean 5/19/11 * Painefaria 6/5/11
August * Bttrflygypsy 4/10/11 * 2happymamas 4/15/11 * LibraryLady 4/15/11
July * Beastie 3/21/11 * Gumshoegirl007 4/2/11 * Wehrli 4/1/11
June * Coco & DP 2/14/11
May * Burg 2/4/11 * Korey 2/1/11
April * Calimeow * Mtnlisa * Kimlyn32
February * Mistral * Quasar & smartycat * Monarchgrrl * Erthe_mama & DP
January * Lyndzies * FtMpapa

2009 Graduates!

December* Osker * Megan sacha * Mkpgoddess
October * JJNoho * Mommies 2 Be * Megincl & Ktcl
September * Elismum1908 * KSDoulaMama * Pleasantlyfurious
August * Chicagoml * Wishin'&hopin'
July * Hbog
May * Indigoscot's dp
April * Kelmendi * KJM * Whoabethy * Carmen
March * Scalpel * Katwomyn4
February * Deny_zoo29
January * Jodybird511

Edited by nosreves - 2/28/12 at 9:53am

[nosreves]

don't forget to let me know if you need to be moved by placing your request in bold.

i don't have time for personals right now, but let's go ahead and get this party started!

[Amt1015]

Thanks Nosreves for the new thread! May the threadkeepers luck shine on you like so many others.

[AnnaNotherThing]

thanks for the lovely new thread nosreves!

Let's rock February, y'all!

[Hopeful22]

Nosreves- Thank you for a bright new thread. This will be a wonderful place to announce lots of BFP!!!

Happycalm- Thank you for all of the wonderful information about OHSU. I really appreciate the feedback.

Allison- Sorry your DW had a hard time with your friends pregnancy announcement. I haven't been trying anywhere near the amount of time you two have and it's already been hard on me to hear other peoples announcements, so I can only imagine what she is going through.  About your question- we aren't telling a lot of people that we are TTC, just a few close friends. We may change that and tell a few family members as well but I'm nt sure I'd be able to handle all the questions and "advice" we would get from them.

  &  to  for

(posiive vibes and baby dust to all for baby making!!!)

[AnnaNotherThing]

So far we've told our parents (and our donor's parents) and all our siblings know of our plans.

We've also met with our donor's parents to talk to them about some of their concerns (they were having a bit of a hard time adjusting to the news when he told them) which has been very interesting and worthwhile.  My parents have met KD as well, although before they knew of our plans, so they met him as our friend (which he is).

We've told them all this may take some time, (like 6 months or more) and asked them not to pester us about it for now, which they've been really good about.

When asked 'so when are you actually starting??' we've given vague answers of 'in the next few months or so...' 

Last weekend we had dinner at my parents' house and my Mom hesitated just for a fraction of a second before offering DW wine, so she's thinking about it...  

We've decided not to tell anyone else for now.

I don't think any of our friends or family will be at all surprised when we tell them, though.  People have been asking us for years 'so when are you two finally going to have some kids??!'...

[mrsandmrs]

Thanks everyone for fielding my questions in the Jan thread.

My mom knows we're actively trying. She's so desperate for grandkids that it seemed cruel to hide that hope from her. Fortunately (?) she struggled with infertility when she was younger, so she's super sensitive about not asking too much, not offering advice, not pestering me. We did share a laugh comparing what Clomid cost 30 years ago compared to what I paid for it. A few of our closest friends also know we're trying, but not many of them... just the people who won't ask too often how things are going, or offer unsolicited advice. I don't really have much patience for people's questions and advice right now. 

TWW of Torture marches on. I swear, I used to be a rational, calm, logical person before this started. True or false: trigger shot can make your breasts grow a cup size 8 or 9 days after you have it?

[esenbee2]

Re: Telling ppl about TTC, we asked my cousin what she thought about us having another baby, just to judge how my side of family would react to the news of me being pregnant, and she said that she didn't think it would be a good idea because our daughter "wouldn't be able to handle having a baby around"... So we took that as they wouldn't be too thrilled and we skipped on telling them anything about us TTC. However my male cousin just had a baby and his girlfriend wrote on my Facebook that she had a dream that we were pregnant. It was literally the day after we had decided to start trying that cycle. So I sent her a message saying that it was quite funny that she had that dream, cus we were going to start trying. And I told her that we were keeping the news to ourselves and to keep it hush hush. Her reply was, "Yay! Another brown baby!" (she is full Native American and we are using 1/2 Filipino spermies like my DSp is.) We did tell DSp's mom, dad and brother. They have always been supportive of us together. We have also told my DSp's work friend who recently went through the whole TTC process and got pregnant in December. And 3 others. Total of 9, which seems like a lot when I count them up with us trying to keep in on the down low, but the main thing was keep my family out of loop to not have to deal with their negative opinions.

[TineyDreams]

OMG! Ahhhh!! We got it!!!!!!

[esenbee2]

CONGRATULATIONS TINEY DREAMS!!!!!

I'm so happy for you!!!

YAY! for the first BFP of February!!!!

            

             

             

[TineyDreams]

Thank you SO much Esenbee! We are ecstatic!!!

[DesertSunsets]

Holy Crap!  CONGRATULATIONS, TineyDreams!  That's amazing, wonderful news.  And a great way to finish off the month.  Hooray! 

[nosreves]

Tiney!!!!!!! you just sneaked in under the wire for January!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS, FELICITATIONS y FELICIDADES!!!!  

                

                             

              

                           

                

                             

i went ahead and moved you to the graduate section, btw!  thanks for getting us off to a great start!   who's next???

 

[outdoorsy]

Congratulations TineyDreams! I'm so glad it's happening for you!

For me, what a day: DW and I are sick with bad colds that have gone to our chests and caused nonstop coughing. My boss was disappointed in my work. And within the last five minutes, AF arrived. Blah.

[AnnaNotherThing]

oh yay!!

                                   

                                 

                                  

                                      

                                  

                                  

that's so awesome!

Congratulations, tiney!!

[Cananny]

Congrats Tiney!!!

Afm.....AF showed up .....after a bfn yesterday ....
So I'm trying to be a little hopeful my body is trying to get normal ...AF showed up on her own, no meds needed, and on time....so its looking like I might be working in there after all.....

This was hard this month...I'm going to change a few dietary things...limit the carbs, no soda...lots of water and vow to walk more .small changes can make big differences our RE said ....so I'm going to try to change things I can control......

[carmen358]

Congratulations, tiney!!!!

Wanted to add that none of DP or my parents are alive anymore so there was obviously no decision to make there. I would have absolutely told my mom...she would have been an amazing support system.

[Hopeful22]

Way to go Tiney!!!! Congratulations!!

Would you mind sharing the details about your winning cycle?

Edited by Hopeful22 - 1/31/12 at 4:44pm

[nosreves]

outdoorsy -- ugh...i'm so very sorry to hear about the chest cold, the bad day at work and most of all about the evil red auntie rearing her ugly head   .  it was a terrible tuesday for me, too, so it must be something in the air  .     i know you're disappointed, but personally i'm hoping this means that i'll have the honor of adding you the graduates right at the end of my tenure as threadkeeper.  take good care of yourself and get a lot of rest.  hugs and healing vibes coming your and your DP's way. 

amt -- thanks for the good wishes!  i know you aren't going to be jumping back on the ttc rollercoaster for another month, but i'm still happy that you're around and cheering the rest of us on. i hope your DP is still doing well.  i don't think i've ever told you how gorgeous i think your family is....you all just exude happiness.  this will probably sound strange, but i have a feeling that the next member of your family is going to be a little girl.  regardless of the sex, i hope another little one is in your near future!

anna --   how's the TWW(T) treating you and DP?  what dpo are you at now?  

mrsandmrs --  if anything will make a sane person crazy, it's the TWW(T).  i'm not particularly rational or logical, but i do tend to be pretty calm and laid-back.  those facets of my personality seem to have gone into hiding ever since we started this process, and fertility meds (clomid and estrace) seem to amplify all the unwieldy emotions.  how did you respond to the clomid (both physically and emotionally)?  i've heard others say that their breasts got bigger after an hcg trigger, but it could also be a sign of pregnancy....  ah, the rollercoaster!  hang in there and keep us updated.  only 5 more days until you test, right?  fingers crossed 

cananny - i just saw your post over in Jan QC.  blah and boo to AF .  i am so sorry.  i know you thought this was it (and from the sperm count and your symptoms, it certainly seemed like it was going to be your month), and i know you're probably feeling pretty low right now, but please don't lose hope.   just a few months ago you weren't even ttc because you thought pregnancy was out of the realm of possibilities for you.  now you've got an RE who believes it can work out and you're responding to the stimulation.  you've really come a long way since you joined this forum!   believe me, i know how hard it is to have to break out the tampons/pads/mooncup yet again at the end of a hope-filled TWW.  i can't help but feeling that your baby is there waiting for you, though.... s/he is a bit blurry at the moment, but sure to come into focus and become a reality sometime down the road.  i hope it's sooner rather than later. 

rs -- sorry, gal.  the sensitivity to odors definitely sounded promising, so i'm sure it's even more disappointing that AF showed up before you even got to test.  please let us know what happens with the RE on thursday, and in the meantime, i'll be thinking about you and sending you good vibes. *hugs*

allison -- tomorrow's the big day, right?  is it you or your DP who is trying at the moment (sorry, i can't remember )  good luck with everything, and let me know when you want to be moved!

afm... well, i'm on cd8 right now, and i *finally* got my follistim!  as usual, though, there was a small catch.  my doctor forgot to prescribe the follistim pen that is absolutely necessary for the injections.  this means that i have make another appointment with doctress jeckyll-hyde.  meh.  luckily, the pharmacist is this lovely lovely person who has gone out of his way to help me, and he went ahead and ordered the pen for me and told me to bring him the prescription whenever i get it.  so.... if all goes well, i will be injecting my first dose tomorrow evening.  this wasn't part of my original treatment, but i've been reading a lot about hybrid cycles (clomid/femera + injectables), and i think this will give me a better chance of having mature follies on both ovaries than clomid alone.  surprisingly, i have had absolutely no "cloments"  this month.  i started estrace yesterday, though, so all bets are off for the rest of the week.  friday is the follie scan.... i really hope there's a decent-sized one on my right ovary and that i have thick enough lining  .   DP got a visit from AF this morning, so it looks like we might be going to belgium twice in the next two weeks. anyone have any suggestions on sicknesses to fake so that i can get a medical excuse? 

as for the question about who we've told...  at first there were only a couple of close friends who knew that we were ttc, but in the last few months, we've started telling more of our friends.  i think we both needed to vent about all the BS we've experienced, and i also believe that the more positive vibes we have coming in, the better.  in my family only my little sister and my aunt know (my father once told me that he doesn't think gay people should be parents, and my mother said she didn't want me to have kids when i came out to her.)  when i got home tonight, if found out that DP had finally told her parents everything.  they are both in their mid-70's and extremely traditional, but they had a very positive reaction.  DP's dad even made some comment about how the laws in France will change as soon as the socialists get into power.  AND DP's mom insisted that we tell them if we need any financial help for the IUIs or possible IVFs.  i started crying when DP told me that...  

anyway...it's bedtime here in froggyland, and it's also officially February!  

[librarybooks]

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