I think there's a lot more validity to the "looking like father" argument than you all give credence to. A boy WILL see his father naked early in life (though, obviously, not later on), and he'll develop his early feelings about sexuality and his sex organs from comparing himself to his father. Having a penis that looks like his father's penis is very different than a little girl not having breasts; she can be told she will grow them later, and that they are a distinguishing feature of a mature woman. In the same vein, a boy obviously doesn't have the same size penis as a grown man, but knows he'll get there. A fundamentally different-looking penis, however, can impact his feelings about his genitals. Similarly, having a penis that looks different from those of most of the other boys in the locker room (when he's in school) might make him feel uncomfortable. MOST middle class, white boys are circumcised in the US (whether this is right or not), so uncirc'd boys in that demographic are in the minority. In the end, what bothers me is that circumcision is a much bigger deal for an adult than for an infant, and what if I don't circumcise him and he later wants to have it done?
Please provide resources on what you've stated.
With death being a very real possibility I don't see why looking like daddy would matter. So he could look like daddy in a casket? Seriously that may seem harsh but 117 babies DIE and that's an under-estimate (b/c not all are reported as relating to circ even if caused by it) every year in the US for NO REASON.
Not for nothing, but I don't think this tactic is terribly helpful. Dying in childbirth (even, gasp, homebirth!) is a very real possibility and yet....