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Wait - I've been to Williamsburg and Jamestown settlement!  Chris and I also love going to Busch Gardens.  Oh, we should meet up with the kids!!!


Yes! It would be so much fun. Ok, I have to check this with my mom, but maybe we could use her timeshare in Williamsburg. She can usually get more than one apartment. She has a ton of points. One apartment sleeps 8-10 people, 2-3 bedrooms and a fold out couch plus a full kitchen. The rooms vary, like 1 room with a king bed, 1 room with a queen or full and one with 2 twins plus the sleep sofa or some other combo. I'm sure they also have cots and cribs. The complexes have pools and playgrounds and discounts on local attractions.
post #262 of 407

That would be so much fun MW! I love timeshares, especially ones that have good kitchens/dining areas so you can cook your own food. So much cheaper.

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I loved the Air and Space Museum! and the Museum of Natural History. There is so much to do in that area. I've never been to colonial williamsburg, but we have done Old Salem in NC.

 

I've been to Busch Gardens, but I liked Kings Dominion better. I loved Water Country USA . . .but I love water, period. Kids would have so much fun!

 

Sidelying nursing. I don't pick DD up at all. I turn her to face me, because sometimes she needs help. and if I get stiff and don't feel like nursing from the top boob (which isn't all that comfortable a position for me anyway), I either move her to my other side, or move myself, depending on where there is room in the bed.

 

Also dont change diapers in the middle of the night. We probably do DS more because he's a heavy wetter and sometimes it wakes him up.

 

Every day is a little bit better. I know coughs tend to linger, but she's in much better spirits. Love the nosefrida, even if she doesn't!

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Ooh we had a rough night last night.  Makes me appreciate the good ones we've been having!  I also took some cold/cough medicine before bed b/c Im coming down with a dry cough/sniffles, and I figured what little sleep I got would be deeper.  Well.  It just made me groggy.  So - coffee is necessary this morning!!

 

Side-lying, I might feed him from the same boob twice if the other one isn't uncomfortable.  Usually though, the top boob is rock hard and ready to go.  It'll just be a leaky mess if I don't pick him up and switch him to the other side.  I do it in a body hug kind of way so he doesn't completely wake up.  I don't worry about not holding him/picking him up for that long.  He's held and played with all day long, I don't think he's suffering or needing anything.  If he needed something, he'd tell me (as Ava would tell you, Annie).  

 

PS Annie - I keep meaning to applaud you on your exclusive pumping with Ava.  I can't imagine waking up a bunch of times during the night to pump.  Somehow, I didn't realize (or maybe I did and forgot) that when she wakes up, you need to pump right then and there.  Duh - I don't know how else you would do it - but still.  I think you're a breastfeeding rockstar.  You're doing the work of both a bottle feeding mama and a nursing mama - there is a whole new category of dedication, I think, for a mama like you.

 

Is anyone dealing with an acrobatic nurser lately?  Finn is all over the place.  If I weren't a staunch bf'ing advocate, I could almost see how a mama would think about giving up about now.  His latch can be a real mess and he likes to chew.  Once he's on, he head butts my boob (which is usually painfully full of milk) and man, that hurts.  Then he yanks his head around this way and that, scoots down my lap or kicks with his legs upwards, throwing his weight around.  He can't sit still!  He's constantly wiggling or flailing, shoving hands in my mouth, or even worse PINCHING or scratching my boob, back, or arms.  

Nora didn't do any of this.  I *thought* she was an acrobat based on the description, but no way.  This kid is a wiggle monster! 

Usually once the milk is flowing he gets a little quieter.  But not always.  Sometimes he still keeps going nuts and chokes and sputters, popping on and off to look around the room.  He's super distractible!  It's insane.  Totally insane.

Makes it hard to be discreet!  I end up shielding his face with my hand or trying to engage him by singing softly.  I hold his free hand or offer him a soft toy to hold.  I mean, I have tricks but it's just so different now than it was even a few weeks ago.

post #265 of 407
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Oh, yeah, once baby stops pooping all the time during that newborn stage, I stop changing diapers at night unless he's soaked or poops.

Carrie ~ Dylan does the same thing but maybe not quite as much. He kicks his legs and twists his head this way and that. He grabs my face and pinches and scratches. It's so hard to keep his nails clipped. He doesn't really throw his whole body around. He even does it at night while we're all trying to sleep. That's why it's been so hard for me to get good sleep most of the time. He never settles and lays still to nurse. I bought a nursing necklace the other day to see if it would help. He hasn't shown any interest in it at all.

OK, if you guys really want me to try to set up a timeshare, we'll have to work out a few things first. I can go whenever and stay however long I want. Whether or not Sean would be able to go is anyone's guess. I usually just plan things and then invited him. I would like to wait until he's home and has checked in at his new job and see if he can get a set time that he can take some time off so he could come.

So, I'd need to know from all of you when and for how long you could go. I'm pretty sure you can make reservations for either 4 or 7 days (or more). Off-season is usually easier for short-notice. I don't know when the off-season is at Williamsburg, if there is one.

The next question is how much space/how many apartments we would need. All of my family would most likely stay in one bedroom. But if there are other older kids, my boys might be happy sharing a room full of kids. (Not sure we'd be happy with that when they stay up half the night giggling. lol.gif) I'm thinking 2 families with older kids would work in a 3 bedroom apartment and 2 families with littler ones would work in a 2 bedroom apartment, depending on what the beds are. I think we could ask for specifics, like no twins if everyone plans to bedshare.
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Norah is very distractable - pops on and off - part of it is due to her runny nose - but she is going to be an acrobat. as it is, she doesn't lay still; she likes to lay twisted out.

 

MW: I am pretty flexible time wise; but for us we would probably want to do like the end of summer ish or early fall (need to save up $$!) I don't know when is good for anyone else? space wise: we are fine all in one bedroom too, though Gabe is prettty flexible about where he sleeps. He hasn't slept in bed with us in months, but might be willing; otherwise he can set up on the floor or a couch.

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Is anyone dealing with an acrobatic nurser lately?  Finn is all over the place.  If I weren't a staunch bf'ing advocate, I could almost see how a mama would think about giving up about now.  His latch can be a real mess and he likes to chew.  Once he's on, he head butts my boob (which is usually painfully full of milk) and man, that hurts.  Then he yanks his head around this way and that, scoots down my lap or kicks with his legs upwards, throwing his weight around.  He can't sit still!  He's constantly wiggling or flailing, shoving hands in my mouth, or even worse PINCHING or scratching my boob, back, or arms.  

T isn't acrobatic yet, but I can totally see her being so once she's able to move a bit more. Right now she's just nasty with her hands, and the last week she's been horrible at sucking for 5 seconds, letting go, sucking for 10 seconds, letting go, etc etc. She'll go like that for 5-10 minutes, and by the end of it, my nipples are on fire. She's still slightly teething, so while she's opening her lips nice and wide... she's clamping down with her jaw, and teething on my nipple. Not a fan. 

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We had another good night.
JJ ~ Can you get those? If so, you have got to try them. They work wonders for Dylan.


Yay sleep!

 

I checked out a couple of the colic type tablets last time I was at the health food store, and they all said 6month+ on them. I've got to do more research. If she was closer to that weight wise, I'd feel better, but she's really not. We did pick up some of the hylands teething gel, and that seems to help when it looks like her gums are bothering her. 


 

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JJ - how hard is it to ship food to canada?  I have access to TONS of good dairy free chocolate.  I wish I could just ship you a box!!

Usually super expensive :( We're going shopping tomorrow, so I'm going to check in the 'whole foods' section to see if they have something dairy free. I'm sure they do. If not, the health food store will for sure. It's just nice to go with brands that I know other people have tried, since some of these more healthy options tend to taste like chalk! lol And then they're also twice the price, so now you have expensive chalk! lol

 

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I'm going to get my new stroller for my birthday next month.  I'm just going to bite the bullet and get the new 2012 Bob Revolution.  I just want to find a coupon or a deal so it doesn't hurt as much.

My reasoning is that here I am looking for a cheap used one or a cheapER stroller, and DH decides, oh I need/want a new macbook air laptop.  Boom.  $1000 on a laptop w/o thinking about it.  If he can do that, then hell yeah I can get a good stroller!

Yay new stroller! I agree. I put so much thought into my purchases and feeling guilty about spending money, etc etc, and then DH will be like "But i really wanted it," or "it was a good deal" and not feel bad. ie right now, I keep hemming and hawing over a new carrier, feeling bad, because as DH pointed out, we keep buying and trying new things for her, and they don't work, so we're spending so much money for no benefit. And I get it... but... at the same time, something has got to work, right? Anyways, so he had voiced his hesitation at spending another $50-80 on another carrier... but then went out and bought a new tool off ebay that was $75, just because it was a really good deal. So I'm pretty much telling myself the same thing-- if he can buy tools, I can buy a new carrier!

 

Of course, now just to decide on which one...


 

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I had a great time in college.  I read great books, had such fun, lived on my own, found out who I was.  I held jobs and just had a good time.  Was it worth the student loans???  Hm.  I think about that every time I make a payment.

I wanted to just go to school for esthetics.  My mother didn't like the idea, so I applied to Rutgers College and Douglass, both part of Rutgers University.  I got wait listed at Douglass, so in the meantime I went to register at our community college.  Right before choosing classes, I was accepted into Douglass.  I made the choice to go there and deal with the cost and looked very forward to moving out.  My home life was so unhappy and stressful.

ITA. I'm not a fan of uni/college just as an expectation, ie I think you should go into it with an idea of what you want to do. DH knew what he wanted to do, and it didn't involve university, but his mother basically made him feel like dirt for not going, so he went anyways. Worst year of our combined lives. It was a waste of money, and even in classes that he knew backwards and forwards, he did very poorly. It was a waste of money, and terrible for his self esteem. On the other hand-- for me, university was a huge growth experience. I went to the local uni, with a huge student population, which was very different from my school experience, and it was terrific for me. I feel like I really learned how to be an adult, and responsibility, and it's opposite from what they tout as being 'good', but I loved being a face in the crowd. Especially if you get the dorm experience, I think college is very good educationally, but also socially. 

 

I didn't do dorms in uni, but I did spend grade 12 at boarding school, where I was an RA, so I had a lot of freedom. It was hands down the most transformative year of my life, and has been a big discussion in my head about what to do when our children reach that age. I would love for her to have that experience, but at the same time, cringe at her being away from me. I was like Carrie at that age, where home life was just... not pleasant, so for me it was a good thing to be away. 

 

And if you're smart (in many facets of the word), school doesn't have to be that expensive. Mine was around $4000 a year with books, give or take. I took out a loan first year, but didn't take out any others, and with what I got from scholarships, bursuries, and then my own part time jobs, I was able to graduate completely debt free. Now I had help in that I lived with family for free, and received $300 a month from my parents for groceries/to chip in with bills, but still. It's doable, especially if parents are able to contribute. 

 

Speaking of, I'm guess that most of you are not setting up college funds then? I've always been of the opinion that if we can help, great, but if not, I don't think it's a parent's responsiblity to help with college. But I was doing our taxes last night, and one of the 'helpful hints', was to take your child care credit and put it into an account for the child themselves. Here we have two big child credits-- the general child tax benefit, which is based on income, but right now we get abour $97 a month, and that goes I think until she's 18. And then you also get a child care tax benefit, which is a flat $100 per month, and lasts until age 6. So if you put just the child care benefit in a bank account for her, that's $7200 by the time it's done. Almost 2 years of school...  We're going to do it, and then add in little bits when we can. 

post #268 of 407
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JJ ~ That doesn't make sense that colic tablets would be for 6+ months since colic, by definition, is not supposed to last beyond the first 3 months. My Hyland's colic tablets have directions for children up to 2 years and then children over 2 years, so you can safely give it to newborns/infants. It's homeopathic so there aren't any side effects or contraindications, as far as I know. They are tiny sugar tablets that dissolve instantly in the mouth so there's no worry about choking.

I don't know much about college savings funds. My FIL said he would pay for Ryan's college after the fact but when he spoke to his financial advisor, he was told not to save ahead of time in a specific college fund because it would preclude Ryan from getting the most out of financial aid. Too much saved in a college fund could mean you are not eligible for grants or loans. I'm not sure about scholarships. I do have regular savings accounts for all my boys. I put money in every month (It's not much at all) plus any additional money that they or we get that no one wants to spend.

I would like to pay for any and all of their college educations if they choose to go. I do think it's a parent's responsibility to pay for college, especially if they are the ones pushing their kids to go (which most do), if they can. Totally unfair to tell your child you expect him to go to college and then tell them they are on their own in paying for it. I don't think people should come out of college in debt. I'm not sure exactly how we'll do that since we aren't financially independent. They might have to get loans and then we'd pay the loans as much as possible. Grants and scholarships would be a nice bonus but I am not going to count on them.
post #269 of 407
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talking about being distracted while nursing, dylan nursed around 8-8:30 this morning then slept until about 10-10:30. i tried to nurse him when he got up but he was too busy watching ethan and kellen so he wouldn't. we went out for a bit and it was about 12:30 when we were ready to head home. i knew dylan wold fall asleep in the car so tried to nurse him again before driving home. he still wouldn't because he was too busy looking around, even in the car. sure enough, he fell asleep in the car and napped for about 2 hours. he just woke up and nursed for maybe 5 minutes. so he went about 6 hours between nursings and still didn't nurse long. what gives? shrug.gif
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I know, it didn't make sense to me about the colic remedies, but I had Tenley with me, and didn't have time to talk it out with the worker there as to why they wouldn't be good for younger babies. 

 

Ok so I know we have Boba owners here-- Beco anyone? I'm liking the mei tai, but Rob still thinks it's a lot of work to put on, and wasn't comfortable at all. He felt like the straps dug in too much. So... *sigh* hunting again possibly. I found a Beco Butterfly 2, for $90, which seems like a good deal to me. I know they come high recommended, but it's always different hearing personal reviews, you know?

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JJ: different mei tais have different straps. I love all the things Kindercarry makes, both mei tais and full buckle carriers. Beco runs small, will fit T for now, but not for very long. Try a few brands within a style of carrier to find what works for you.

I started using teething tablets around 3-4 months. Even helped Gabe in the car.

I don't plan on doing college savings funds. I also don't have the expectation of college. If they go, great, if not, ok too.

Now, who knows how things will be set up when our kids are in school, but right now there are some scholarships available for state residents with good grades.

I almost thinkmGabe is trying to give up his nap. I really hope not.
post #272 of 407
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Oh, yeah, once baby stops pooping all the time during that newborn stage, I stop changing diapers at night unless he's soaked or poops.
Carrie ~ Dylan does the same thing but maybe not quite as much. He kicks his legs and twists his head this way and that. He grabs my face and pinches and scratches. It's so hard to keep his nails clipped. He doesn't really throw his whole body around. He even does it at night while we're all trying to sleep. That's why it's been so hard for me to get good sleep most of the time. He never settles and lays still to nurse. I bought a nursing necklace the other day to see if it would help. He hasn't shown any interest in it at all.
OK, if you guys really want me to try to set up a timeshare, we'll have to work out a few things first. I can go whenever and stay however long I want. Whether or not Sean would be able to go is anyone's guess. I usually just plan things and then invited him. I would like to wait until he's home and has checked in at his new job and see if he can get a set time that he can take some time off so he could come.
So, I'd need to know from all of you when and for how long you could go. I'm pretty sure you can make reservations for either 4 or 7 days (or more). Off-season is usually easier for short-notice. I don't know when the off-season is at Williamsburg, if there is one.
The next question is how much space/how many apartments we would need. All of my family would most likely stay in one bedroom. But if there are other older kids, my boys might be happy sharing a room full of kids. (Not sure we'd be happy with that when they stay up half the night giggling. :lol) I'm thinking 2 families with older kids would work in a 3 bedroom apartment and 2 families with littler ones would work in a 2 bedroom apartment, depending on what the beds are. I think we could ask for specifics, like no twins if everyone plans to bedshare.


For me to stay any length of time, it would need to be fall at the earliest. I used all my PTO with DD's last hospital stay but I always have Friday-Sunday afternoon off so DD and I could drive down Friday morning and stay until Sunday morning if you guys wanted to do it before then. I probably wouldn't bother trying to coordinate a time when the other kids are home because that's too much of a moving target plus we would need a whole unit just for those guys. They are so funny about sleeping in the same bed together...drives me crazy when we travel! But DD and I or DD, DH and I can share a bed.

 

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Ooh we had a rough night last night.  Makes me appreciate the good ones we've been having!  I also took some cold/cough medicine before bed b/c Im coming down with a dry cough/sniffles, and I figured what little sleep I got would be deeper.  Well.  It just made me groggy.  So - coffee is necessary this morning!!

 

Side-lying, I might feed him from the same boob twice if the other one isn't uncomfortable.  Usually though, the top boob is rock hard and ready to go.  It'll just be a leaky mess if I don't pick him up and switch him to the other side.  I do it in a body hug kind of way so he doesn't completely wake up.  I don't worry about not holding him/picking him up for that long.  He's held and played with all day long, I don't think he's suffering or needing anything.  If he needed something, he'd tell me (as Ava would tell you, Annie).  

 

PS Annie - I keep meaning to applaud you on your exclusive pumping with Ava.  I can't imagine waking up a bunch of times during the night to pump.  Somehow, I didn't realize (or maybe I did and forgot) that when she wakes up, you need to pump right then and there.  Duh - I don't know how else you would do it - but still.  I think you're a breastfeeding rockstar.  You're doing the work of both a bottle feeding mama and a nursing mama - there is a whole new category of dedication, I think, for a mama like you.

 

Is anyone dealing with an acrobatic nurser lately?  Finn is all over the place.  If I weren't a staunch bf'ing advocate, I could almost see how a mama would think about giving up about now.  His latch can be a real mess and he likes to chew.  Once he's on, he head butts my boob (which is usually painfully full of milk) and man, that hurts.  Then he yanks his head around this way and that, scoots down my lap or kicks with his legs upwards, throwing his weight around.  He can't sit still!  He's constantly wiggling or flailing, shoving hands in my mouth, or even worse PINCHING or scratching my boob, back, or arms.  

Nora didn't do any of this.  I *thought* she was an acrobat based on the description, but no way.  This kid is a wiggle monster! 

Usually once the milk is flowing he gets a little quieter.  But not always.  Sometimes he still keeps going nuts and chokes and sputters, popping on and off to look around the room.  He's super distractible!  It's insane.  Totally insane.

Makes it hard to be discreet!  I end up shielding his face with my hand or trying to engage him by singing softly.  I hold his free hand or offer him a soft toy to hold.  I mean, I have tricks but it's just so different now than it was even a few weeks ago.


Since it's all I've ever known, it doesn't seem so extraordinary to me but I do get a little jealous sometimes when you guys talk about just rolling over, nursing and then going back to sleep! If I don't already have milk pumped and waiting, it's a minimum of an hour that I'm up pumping and then feeding DD. If she doesn't go right back to sleep, well then we're up for HOURS. That's when it stinks. I've tried in the past defrosting milk but my milk doesn't do well sitting out defrosted after it's been frozen and it takes longer to defrost it than to just pump fresh milk. But since I've increased my supply again, I can keep ahead of DD and just pump after I feed her around 4 AM.

 

You know, I was thinking about this today. I think we're all rockstars. This parenting stuff is HARD! We all have things going on that are hard. MW is having to be a single parent. Baby_Cakes, you slept on your couch for MONTHS! akind1 is living with her inlaws. JJ has a screamer. Annie has a baby that hated nursing. I mean, good grief! We are all awesome for dealing with this crap!

 

Oh and the acrobatics stuff? That's what DD is doing but with her bottle. The only way she will eat for more than 30 seconds at a time now is if she is laying in her bed or our bed and doing side-lying eating. Silly babies. Don't they realize they need to be still for a few mins to eat?!? orngbiggrin.gif

 

Oh I was thinking about something else today. So right now, I pump both sides each time I pump. But it sounds like you guys only nurse on one side at a time? So theoretically, your right side goes 4-6 hrs between feeds? When I do the SNS, I'm going to need to do both sides because there is no way one side can go more than 3 hrs w/out being emptied at this point. I guess I could nurse on one side and then pump the other?

 

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I nurse from both sides at each nursing as much as possible. sometimes i switch sides more than once. the only time i only nurse from one side is if one of us falls asleep.

i was going to ask Carrie how one side still gets rock hard. that doesn't happen to me anymore, although i do still leak most times.
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You know, I was thinking about this today. I think we're all rockstars. This parenting stuff is HARD! We all have things going on that are hard. MW is having to be a single parent. Baby_Cakes, you slept on your couch for MONTHS! akind1 is living with her inlaws. JJ has a screamer. Annie has a baby that hated nursing. I mean, good grief! We are all awesome for dealing with this crap!

 


 Agreed!!!

 



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I nurse from both sides at each nursing as much as possible. sometimes i switch sides more than once. the only time i only nurse from one side is if one of us falls asleep.
i was going to ask Carrie how one side still gets rock hard. that doesn't happen to me anymore, although i do still leak most times.


Finn is a one boob at a feeding kind of guy.  I can rarely get him to take both boobs.  I think he must get at least 5 oz at a time.  When I pump a full boob I get 5 oz each time.  So, thats about right, you figure.

I still get full during the day.  It'll be like 4-6 hours at a time since he only does one boob at a time.  If I feed him from the right side at 7, then he gets the left at 9 ish, and the right one he won't get again until almost 12.

 

I got something in the mail today from our pediatric group and I cringed.  I thought it was a bill, even though I've payed the copay every time Ive gone (save for nurse visits).  It was actually a check reimbursing us the copays for the well visits.  I didn't know our insurance covered them 100%, and apparently neither did the drs office!

I have to get Finn in sometime soon (hopefully next week) for his well visit. 

 

 

Oh - and I'm not sure about the trip!  I do want to go, I'm thinking the fall might be nice!  I doubt DH would come.  Me and the kids could all fit in one bed no problem.

We are thinking of going somewhere beachy and tropical this spring (all my fingers and toes are crossed). 

Has anyone travelled/flown with 2 carseats and 2 littles?  I can't figure out the logistics of it.

 

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You know, I was thinking about this today. I think we're all rockstars. This parenting stuff is HARD! We all have things going on that are hard. MW is having to be a single parent. Baby_Cakes, you slept on your couch for MONTHS! akind1 is living with her inlaws. JJ has a screamer. Annie has a baby that hated nursing. I mean, good grief! We are all awesome for dealing with this crap!

This is awesome! It reminds me that everyone has struggles. They may be different but they aren't any less struggles. A good thing to remember.

I really don't like to travel without dh. I don't know if I'd want to take a trip/vacation like that without him. I really need his help.

We flew from Hawaii to LA with Ethan when he was 2.5yo. We didn't use his carseat. He probably had his own plane seat because the military paid for it. It wasn't hard but it was just one LO and two adults. Ryan was 15.
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When it was just Nora, we got her a seat and brought her carseat on the plane.  I wore her, and DH pushed her stroller w/the carseat in it.

 

If we have both kids, Nora can walk thru the airport, I can wear Finn, and each of us can push a stroller w/their carseats, I guess?  We'd gate check the strollers but take on the seats.  I don't think I want to not have a seat for Finn.  If he's 9 or 10 months old, even a 3 hr flight is going to seem like a 10 hr flight with him fussing on my lap.

I've heard horrible things about renting carseats from the car rental places.  I just don't think I could od it.  I think I would rather deal with the hassle of bringing each kids seat with us then take a chance on something like that.  You know?  The cars down in the islands aren't the best to begin with.

 

Virginia for me is just a long drive.  It would be about 4 hours or so.  Doable w/o DH.  I have never flown by myself though, and wouldn't like doing that either!  I don't know what to do in an airport.  I'm always following someone!

 

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I really don't like to travel without dh. I don't know if I'd want to take a trip/vacation like that without him. I really need his help.
 



I take the kids on trips all the time w/out DH. When we went to Atlantic Beach two years ago for spring break, it was just me w/the younger three for most of the trip. DH had to stay behind to work and to put DSS 17 on the bus for the school trip he was taking. He came down for a couple of days but the trip there and back was just me and the kids. I actually prefer to travel w/out DH because he causes more work for me! biglaugh.gif

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I take the kids on trips all the time w/out DH. When we went to Atlantic Beach two years ago for spring break, it was just me w/the younger three for most of the trip. DH had to stay behind to work and to put DSS 17 on the bus for the school trip he was taking. He came down for a couple of days but the trip there and back was just me and the kids. I actually prefer to travel w/out DH because he causes more work for me! biglaugh.gif


my feelings on that probably have a lot to do with my dh being gone so much. we are separated so much because of circumstances out of our control that i don't like to take time away from when we can be together (meaning, when i don't have to do everything for everyone all the time, very selfish of me winky.gif). my dh does almost everything when we travel aside from packing suitcases. he packs the car. he drives. he shops and cooks. he chases after the boys, takes them to the park and swims with them in the pool. i haven't visited anyone since I had Dylan because I can't do a long drive by myself. I have to go to the bathroom too often. Trips seem to take twice as long when you have to get 2 or 3 kids out of the car by yourself every couple of hours to use the bathroom, especially when 1 or more are sleeping.

of course, after he's been home for a few months, i might be ready to get away for a bit. lol.gif

He is so fussy tonight. I think it's because his afternoon nap was only about an hour long. But, he won't go to sleep again. Is this what fighting sleep is? IDK but it's driving me crazy. He's not happy with anything.
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my feelings on that probably have a lot to do with my dh being gone so much. we are separated so much because of circumstances out of our control that i don't like to take time away from when we can be together (meaning, when i don't have to do everything for everyone all the time, very selfish of me :wink). my dh does almost everything when we travel aside from packing suitcases. he packs the car. he drives. he shops and cooks. he chases after the boys, takes them to the park and swims with them in the pool. i haven't visited anyone since I had Dylan because I can't do a long drive by myself. I have to go to the bathroom too often. Trips seem to take twice as long when you have to get 2 or 3 kids out of the car by yourself every couple of hours to use the bathroom, especially when 1 or more are sleeping.
of course, after he's been home for a few months, i might be ready to get away for a bit. :lol
He is so fussy tonight. I think it's because his afternoon nap was only about an hour long. But, he won't go to sleep again. Is this what fighting sleep is? IDK but it's driving me crazy. He's not happy with anything.

Well, that's probably the difference then! DH is like taking another kid on vacation. I do make him responsible for his own clothes, usually, but for the most part he just has to get in the car. I plan where we're going, when we're leaving, how we're going to get there, pack our food for the ride, plan our activities while we're there, do the grocery shopping, meal planning and cooking. He does supervise in the pool or while they are out playing on the playground but for the most part I'm running the show. I'm a planner though so I love to do it. Definitely understand about stopping w/kids though. I don't leave the older ones in the car by themselves so they have to come in if I do. I just try not to drink too much while I'm driving. I'd probably be ok flying with them alone also but I love traveling.

 

Yes, that's fighting sleep! DD has become a master at it! She will pretty much only fall asleep now up on my shoulder with me patting her back.
 

 

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