Now I realize my mom and brother have ASD

[RJ11]

I've spent the last year learning that my 5 year old son has Aspergers. Now I realize that my mom and brother do too. My family is not close so not my mom, dad, sister or 2 brothers have been involved or realize there are any issues with my son. We all live in different states and only see each other about once a year or every 2 years. My brother, who I now believe has AS or HFA, is 39 and lives a block from my parents. He is a janitor and holds down his job fine but my parents help him with weekly grocery shopping and staying on top of laundry and bills. I love my brother but he is often hard to talk to. We do stay in touch on facebook. As my parents age both my sister and I have begun to worry about my brother's future. I think if he knew he had AS he could find support groups and eventually friends his age and that would make his adult life more enjoyable especially when my parents are too old to help him anymore. I love my mom too of course but she is extremely difficult to talk to about any problems and I know she would be beyond offended if I tried to talk to her about ASD. She is on medication for anxiety and seems settled in her golden years so no need to rock her boat. My dad is easier to talk to and I think I can bring up ASD to him and maybe discuss how to talk to my brother about it. Any advice???

[HarperRose]

I'd just tell my brother, "Hey, have you ever considered that you might have Asperger's/ASD?" And go from there. Tell him you see certain behaviors that are classic signs of it. 

My brother was NOT receptive when I suggested it to him, so I let it go. Go slow and be gentle.