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post #301 of 543

Sigh. We had to bring Oren into the ER at Children's today because of his current illness. Poor guy was either inconsolable or super sleepy/spacy, and he was having wheezy breathing along with his really deep chest cough.  Normally he rarely cries, and is such a smiley, happy dude that it just broke my heart to see him like that.  Nothing they could do for him though - and we're on high alert for worsening symptoms. Apparently the illness should peak tomorrow, then he'll start getting better. I don't know how I'll sleep tonight.  

 

I'm SO done with illnesses. DD had this same thing a few days ago and had a 104 fever and laboured breathing, and a super high heart rate as well. We brought her to Children's ER on Valentine's Day (but of course, her fever broke while we were there, and the night air helped her breathing, so we left before seeing the doctor.) Today was the first day I left the house in 4 days. DH and I are both sick too, but with just plain old colds. Well, DH has a man-cold.

 

DD (approaching 3) asked me tonight "Is cold and flu season almost over, Mama?" LOL.

 

 

post #302 of 543
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Nicole!!!!!  So good to hear from you!!  We were just talking about you in the baby pic thread, hoping to see pics of your twins soon!  smile.gif 

 

As for running and mummy tummy, I wonder if there is a point at which the gap is just too big to be helped with running.  Probably you have to start with the exercises and then running will help keep things in line.  Nicole, have you tried using a splint?

 

Planks... when you guys say this do you mean like yoga plank pose?  Just holding it for a while?  Or is there a variation that is better for the mummy tummy?

post #303 of 543

Jaimee- just plain old planks, yup!  I think any variation (knees on floor, etc) would work.  

post #304 of 543

Hi mamas! Just checking in... I'm SO tired.  KJ and I drove from Eugene to Oakland, CA to visit my family and DH's parents.  It was a friggin' NIGHTMARE.  By hour 7 or so we were both crying.  So awful.  I don't know WHAT I was thinking.  We have to drive back up on Tuesday and I am absolutely in a panic over it.  I've tried to work it out so someone could drive back with us and then fly down (won't work).  Or that we could return the rental car here and fly back (also nope).  Seriously guys, what the hell was i thinking?!?

post #305 of 543

Awww Katie, ((HUGS))!  I just thought you were really, really brave.  Or that KJ was a miracle baby in the car..... DH can't fly down and drive back with you?  I'm sure you thought of that already..... I'm sorry!  Could you break up the trip at all into two days or something?   Drive at night?  I'm not helping am I.....

post #306 of 543
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Awww Katie, ((HUGS))!  I just thought you were really, really brave.  Or that KJ was a miracle baby in the car..... DH can't fly down and drive back with you?  I'm sure you thought of that already..... I'm sorry!  Could you break up the trip at all into two days or something?   Drive at night?  I'm not helping am I.....


Yeah, what about starting a couple hours before bed time. Then, you could stop for dinner and nurse her and get her to sleep. Maybe then she will sleep the rest of the way? I'm sorry... Good luck!
post #307 of 543
Katie, that is a long trip. I don't know if you can bus or fly or take a train but those might be easier. I try to leave the house at 3 AM when I travel with the kids so we get 4 hours out of the way while they sleep. Good luck.
post #308 of 543

Hi!  I am Carey, adopted mama to Kaleigh, age 11, and birth mama to Luca, born Nov. 2011.  I was on these forums a loooong time ago, when I was a new mom, trying to figure out what being a parent was all about, grasping at any ideas whatsoever that might help.  I'm back.  I feel much more informed, and patient this time around, but also much more tired!  And I realized lately that I am in need of support, ideas, etc., when it comes to things like painful breastfeeding and having a higher needs baby. 

 

I spent over a decade with my first husband, trying and failing to conceive.  With my current partner, getting pregnant was a little too easy.  Nevertheless, I am rather thrilled to have a baby, and am enjoying the experience thoroughly.  We had our baby in a birthing pool in our living room, due to a last minute change of plans.  I am completely thankful for the experience of such a lovely birth. 

 

I'm a mostly stay at home mama, though I work in season at the farmers market, selling sprouts and veggies.  I am a writer, permaculturist, and collector of mostly defunct skills, such as canning, fermenting, and so on.  My daughter is unschooled and is the most social person I have ever met.  I am fairly new to the town I am currently living in, and I don't have nearly the support system of the last place I lived.  I'm looking forward to the virtual support I may find here.

 

Looking forward to getting to know you all!

 

carey

post #309 of 543
Thread Starter 

Welcome Carey! wave.gif  It's always fun to see people on here that I've met IRL!  I think you'll find this group a wonderfully wise and supportive bunch!

 

Katie... that sounds horrible!  I'm so sorry! I second the advice to drive when you can get KJ to sleep and when we travel, we always break up the trip into much more manageable chunks.

post #310 of 543

Welcome Carey!

 

Katie-  you poor thing.  I know the anxiety that you feel...its the worst, and Im very sorry you cant find a solution that can resolve that for you. 

 

 

So um...being as my husband is getting his vasectomy I decided not to refill my birth control prescription and to just use a different method of birth control until after his post surgical SA.  I was told to expect a period while taking the pills and I did not have one.  Then I was told to definitely expect a period after stopping the pills and I still have not had one.  The doc said that I might quit having cycles after the separation bleeding from stopping the pill...but I never had separation bleeding.  Now, I took it religiously- I had a timer set, and took it at the EXACT same time every night so I knew it would be its most effective.  And I am breastfeeding.  But this lack of period is freaking me out, man.  I wish my mind could will my body to work properly.

post #311 of 543

Katie- yes the train!  can you do that???  that way you can hold her.....  

post #312 of 543

All is going well here. Life is getting easier w/2 babies too. I rarely post since I am busy but wanted to say hi. Question on thumbsucking. DS1 never sucked his thumb but one of my twins do. What are everyones thoughts on this? Is it okay? The more needy twin does not suck his thumb but the one who rarely cries does.Both babies seem very happy and content.

 

post #313 of 543

totally pro thumb sucking! My older 2 found theirs at 3 months and tapered off around 6-8 months. Evan hasnt developed a preference for thumb yet, just whatever finger(s) he can get! I like that thumbs are baby led vs paci is parent led. thumbs are never dropped, lost, or forgotten. And the best, thumbs prevent use of hands. So its great for soothing in the car, sleeping, or relaxing in a carrier. But to play with a toy, or crawl, thumb must come out! So while a paci might encourage a habit of "24/7" use, thumbs make babies choose: mobility and playtime, or sucking? My babies always chose to play! Paci=always available (unless its lost/forgotten) and thumb=always available if theres nothing better to do

post #314 of 543
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totally pro thumb sucking! My older 2 found theirs at 3 months and tapered off around 6-8 months. Evan hasnt developed a preference for thumb yet, just whatever finger(s) he can get! I like that thumbs are baby led vs paci is parent led. thumbs are never dropped, lost, or forgotten. And the best, thumbs prevent use of hands. So its great for soothing in the car, sleeping, or relaxing in a carrier. But to play with a toy, or crawl, thumb must come out! So while a paci might encourage a habit of "24/7" use, thumbs make babies choose: mobility and playtime, or sucking? My babies always chose to play! Paci=always available (unless its lost/forgotten) and thumb=always available if theres nothing better to do



Yes yes yes.  I've never before heard someone so pro-thumb-sucking :-)  Great points!  D is starting to suck his fingers- usually his index finger haha!  I am pretty excited for him to figure out the thumb.  Older DS was a paci baby/toddler.  It was hard to get rid of it.  REALLY hard.  And you're right- it was totally parent led.  He was attached to it, for sure, but who was REALLY attached?? ME.  I gave it to him.  I wanted him to have it out of convenience or whatever.  And I didn't want to take it away because I was afraid it would ruin his sleep and thus my sleep.  But it's gone now!  Whew!  

Good point re: them wanting to play instead of suck.  And as a parent of a paci child who spit it out and thus woke up screaming every 20-45 minutes let me tell you- HELL YES to them sucking their thumb in the middle of the night.  It requires NO intervention from me and I LOVE that.  

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My daughter just quit sucking her thumb at the age of 5, despite us working with her on it for years- and Im still pro thumb sucking for all the reasons Rachel and J mentioned!  I wish baby B would find her thumb but she is really dependent on the paci (which I refuse to let her use at night).

post #316 of 543
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Pro thumb sucking here as well.  Rachel put it well.  My 5 year old dd is still sucking her fingers at night or when she's tired/sick.  But it's not like she walks around sucking them.  I figure she'll give it up when she's ready.  Studies have  shown that the need to suck does not diminish in some children until around age 7.  I know that I sucked my thumb until I was a bit older as well, but gave it up when I went to my first sleep over.  Peer pressure!

 

Ds1 sucks his thumb and Avery can get his fist or fingers in his mouth sometimes now.  It's a good thing for sleep!

post #317 of 543

thumbsuck.gif  My two year old sucks her thumb and it's been great for her and for me.    I think she started at 5 months and she seems to do it mostly just when she has her blanket like I did as a kid.  It actually became a problem for me and I sucked my thumb into my early twenties!nut.gif  I really don't want her to have the same problem I did.  I think 5 is a good age to quit.  Audrey just found her thumb and she is three months!joy.gifI'm getting rid of the pacifier asap.

post #318 of 543

Hi everyone and welcome Carey!

 

About running.  I would like to start running, but my breasts really hurt when they bounce.  Does anyone have ideas for support?  What do you wear to run?

 

 

 

 

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How do you keep your babies' skin from getting chapped and dry when thumb/hand sucking? Sora sucks on her fists right now and has really dry reddening skin on her thumbs/pointer fingers because of it, but I'm not sure how I should moisturize them because I don't want her consuming the lotion that I lather on... you know what I mean?

post #320 of 543
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About running.  I would like to start running, but my breasts really hurt when they bounce.  Does anyone have ideas for support?  What do you wear to run?

I am smaller chested so this may not work, but I wear multiple sports bras over each other and that really holds them in.  I also make sure to nurse prior to running so that they are not as full.

 

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How do you keep your babies' skin from getting chapped and dry when thumb/hand sucking? Sora sucks on her fists right now and has really dry reddening skin on her thumbs/pointer fingers because of it, but I'm not sure how I should moisturize them because I don't want her consuming the lotion that I lather on... you know what I mean?

This is really only a problem during the winter.  I just make sure to moisturize periodically if there appears to be a problem.  For my older two I use weleda and if it's really bad I'll use a petroleum product (not great, but sometimes the only thing to prevent open, bleeding skin when you have eczema-prone kids).  With the baby it hasn't been an issue yet and hopefully by the time he is sucking regularly it will be warmer and more humid.   But I would use a natural oil to moisturize as needed.  Also, pat her hands dry when she's not sucking on them.
 

 

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