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[seraf]

Amanda, I have had luck unlatching Shay when he's deep asleep.  I put my finger on the breast beside his mouth, push toward the middle so the nipple pops out sideways and then I leave the nipple against his mouth for a couple more minutes.

[Abraisme]

I'm not sure if it's my baby's personalities or if it's my approach, but I always unlatch my baby as soon as they stop swallowing.  I've never had a problem with non-stop comfort nursing, which could just be luck of the draw?  Coralie does nurse every 30min-2 hours all day long, then she sleeps in long stretches at night.  I don't mind nursing all day if it means less nursing at night. 

[seraf]

I keep making milk and letting down while he nurses and he keeps swallowing.

He is a pretty great night sleeper, but if I forget to unlatch him he will still be nursing when I wake up.  Or when he wakes me to pee. 

[Jaimee]

I think it's luck... none of my kids have needed the boob in order to stay asleep.  I usually had to unlatch dd, but she would pop her fingers in her mouth and be happy.  Ds1 would pop off and start to suck his thumb.  Avery will pop off and pull away.  Both the boys seem(ed) like they actually do not want the nipple.  In fact, Avery will gag on it when he's done.

Dr. Sears recommends what Sarah said, try to unlatch when they are in deep sleep (usually a good 20 minutes after eyes have closed).  You can tell b/c they will stop sucking and their limbs will be floppy.

[seraf]

Haha, Shay is out after about 5 minutes, but I think he's the exception.

[TalkToMeNow]

I will probably unlatch him eventually. It's a new thing, so I'm just letting him do it for now. He doesn't do it at night... He usually doesn't wake for the first time at night until 4 or 5, (if i feed him at 11) but when he does wake, he wants to nurse from then on. Last night, he woke at 12 because dh called. Grr!! So I didn't sleep well.

I don't really mind all the nursing now. I'm in no rush to get up and do stuff. I like the excuse to sit on the couch and read! But I just know I won't always feel that way, so I don't really want to start a habit I'll regret, you know?

[Mal85]

Yeah, no repeat last night. She was in bed with us a little after 11 and required being held in my arms to stay asleep most of the night. My arm was numb all night. I've noticed she sleeps less during the day when she's with a sitter and I'm working, but then sleeps a lot better that night. It's the reverse when I'm home with her on my days off. She naps better and longer, but doesn't sleep as well on her own that night. I really shouldn't complain. We've yet to have a night up with her, walking the house trying to calm her and get her to sleep like we did from time to time with DD1. Greta really sleeps well almost every night. Just sometimes it's in her crib and sometimes it's in bed with me. I just happen to sleep better on my own.

Katie-- How'd it go with your husband's grandma or have you had the conversation yet? It'll feel so nice when you guys are on your own and it's not a concern anymore. I have a feeling we'll be staying with my parents for a little while when we decide to move out of this house. We'll need the profit from this house to buy another and my parents have already mentioned letting us stay with them during the in between phase while we look for a house. That could be a few weeks or it could be months depending on what we find once we start looking. DH and I both get along with my parents pretty well though, so I think it'll go okay. We do intend to pay some sort of rent while we're there, though, so hopefully we'll actually be helping my parents out financially while we're there.

[Paigekitten]

My family just got back this week from a month with my parents and siblings in california.  While we were there we met with an occupational therapist my mother is friends with and she gave more credit to my suspicions that my four year old is on the autism spectrum.

Sigh.  We can't afford to get resources anywhere except the school district, so I need to call them and find out how to get an official diagnosis.  Meanwhile, I feel incredibly validated that I AM a good mother, and it IS really really hard.

Wish I could spend more time online, I miss adult conversation.

Plus my husband decided that he wants to move back to our hometown, something I was planning to do until September, so I'm super excited about that, but just very very overwhelmed with life right now.

I wish we could live with my parents! We probably will for a while after moving.

Eowyn started getting a 5-6 stretch of sleep at night, and she's supporting herself during tummy time, and rolling over from tummy to back and occasionally from back to tummy, everyone who see's her thinks she's four months old.

As for unlatching, I tend to unlatch mine after they stop swallowing because they would eat forever and then just spit up all the extra. 

[KaliShanti]

Yep, this is Enoch too. He has rolled over 3 times but that was weeks ago- like before he was 4 wees old so it was just a fluke. Otherwise he does this or cries at tummy time. I don'yt worry- my other two hated tummy time rarely had it and were both strong healthy and on track with milestones.
 

Originally Posted by Jaimee 

This is what tummy time looks like for Avery...

Phonics:

With my DS, age 4 currently, we do Stafall.com and clicknkids.com. H started starfall before he was 1 year old and by 18 months he knew all letters and phonetic sounds. He reads on a 3-4th grade level- but that's just him, he's weird. ;)

[Abraisme]

That's not weird, it's smart.  ;)  My DD1 knew all the letters by 18mo and the phonics just after 2.  A lot of what she knows was from the iPad, but some of it was just because of her inherent interest.  My DS didn't know his phonics until 4yo, but he barely sat and looked at a book until he was 3..
 

Originally Posted by KaliShanti 

Phonics:

With my DS, age 4 currently, we do Stafall.com and clicknkids.com. H started starfall before he was 1 year old and by 18 months he knew all letters and phonetic sounds. He reads on a 3-4th grade level- but that's just him, he's weird. ;)

[LiLStar]

I need to whine. I'm tired, and SO ready for bed, first of all. My sil had surgery on monday and tues-fri i was at their house watching their kids.  7 kids total but lots of fun since they play well together in a big house with a fenced yard so in a way it sort of lightens the load! And the big kids (8 and 11) aren't really extra "work" anyway and are at school most the time. Anyway, that was fine and I was happy to help out and I love being around my niece and nephews. Awesome kids. We were on our way over this morning, first to pick up my nephew to take him and dd to preschool (same class) when my bro called to say my nephew had thrown up, so to not pick him up. Silly me still could have decided to *not* go into their house today. Bro works from home so it wouldn't have totally screwed him over if I backed out, ya know? So against better judgement, I still went! And now I feel... not too awesome :( I'm actually starting to feel some hope that I won't throw up, which would make me *so happy* but man, the "I might throw up" anxiety is about as terrible as actually throwing up! I feel mildly superstitious against lying down. Kinda like gravity is the only thing saving me right now and if I lay down, I'll be doomed! This morning, before getting the phone call, I took my probiotic and some vit c. I've been majorly slacking on the vitamins lately, so this was actually sort of out of the ordinary behavior. I wonder if the probiotic especially offered some protection. Because I could be worse *shudder*. Had a tummy bug christmas eve and it was brutal and made me think i'd met my "quota" for the season and was invincible! Sigh.. just having a "no good deed goes unpunished" moment. Anyway.. actually feeling a little better while typing. Maybe I'll try and sleep!

[Jaimee]

Rachel, I feel the same anxiety as you about throwing up.  I HATE it and will do just about anything to avoid it.  I hope you didn't catch it and are feeling fine today!

[Jaimee]

So here's something weird...  I was contacted yesterday by a casting guy from A&E about doing a docu-TV show on in-laws.  He had gotten my name and contact info off of API's website and was specifically asking if I or anyone I knew would be interested in trying out for the show b/c of unresolved issues we might have with our in-laws due to our parenting style.  I guess they don't have the easiest time finding families that are willing to be part of the show and he was branching out to see if any AP families might be interested.  Anyway, I know on here the topic of in-laws has come up quite a bit!  He says the show was a positive experience for everyone last season and they have a professional who works with everyone to try and resolve issues.  This could be an interesting experience and it could be good for publicizing AP or it might not be.  It's hard to say!  You would be compensated for your time as well.  To try out you don't have to travel, just send in your story and they'll get in contact with you.  If you're interested here is more info:

CASTING NOTICE:

Powerful New A&E Series Is Now Casting Couples Who Need Help With An In-Law!

In-laws: most people have them...and sometimes, they can be a whole lot more than a couple bargained for. A&E Network shines a light on married couples dealing with in-laws as they try to make peace with the help of an unconventional, no-nonsense relationship expert in the new original real-life series "Monster In-Laws".

 

“A ground-breaking new series that explores the complex relationships between married couples and their in-laws.”

Are you struggling to maintain a relationship with an out-of-control in-law?

Is a cultural or background divide challenging your relationship?

Does the statement, “When mom/dad says no, ask grandma/grandpa” ring true in your family?

Does your mother or father-in-law still baby your husband/wife, challenge your parenting style or openly disrespect you?

If you’re desperate to repair your relationship with an in-law before it’s too late, we want to hear from you! Families who appear on the show will have the opportunity to work with a professional relationship expert who will help them to identify their issues and repair their relationships. Families who appear on the show will receive a generous financial honorarium as a “thank you” for their time and commitment to the show. There is also a finder's fee for anyone who nominates a family who makes the show.

To apply, please email us with your name, contact information, a brief description of your current in-law situation and a family photo to:

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212.564.2607 x 2608

More questions? Brian Puentes <[e-mail]>;

Show website: http://www.aetv.com/monster-in-laws/
Casting Application: http://www.leftfieldpictures.com/in-laws-casting/

[seraf]

Man, I've only seen ads for that show.  Some of those families seem scary.

[Jaimee]

Yeah, my first reaction was that it could be really good to have an AP family on a show like that, trying to get their in-laws to respect their parenting choices.  But then I thought, it's TV and they might choose to find a way to spin it so that the AP family looked a bit crazy.  It's hard to say really.  But getting breastfeeding, babywearing, gentle discipline, and non-CIO tactics even discussed/shown on TV would be pretty amazing.

[seraf]

Haha, I often ask myself if the people on TV are crazy or just being spun that way.  Like on the picking shows they refer to people as collectors and on hoarders, well.. (I see a lot of TV at work)

[Jaimee]

Hoarders... I've only seen it once, but wow!  Yes, they looked totally crazy.   But that issue is probably stemming from actual mental illness.  This in-laws show could be just about respect, opening communication, etc.  I wish they didn't call it "Monster In-Laws" b/c that makes the in-laws out to be, well, monsters, and unresolved conflict is not necessarily from "monster behavior" but just normal, everyday differences of opinion.  I suppose this type doesn't make the show, though, huh?  I've actually never seen it.

Anyone considering applying???? 

[seraf]

Haha, yeah, total mental illness. But then on the other shows they're rifling through their junk and buying it so they portray them as really cool (and yes, some seem cooler than others) so I started thinking about it. 

My in-laws are peaches so I'm good. 

[Jaimee]

Mine are pretty good, too. 

[jbk21]

I personally wouldn't be interested in being on a show like that, even though I do have major in-law issues.  We live so far away that we never see each other anyway :-)