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post #61 of 543
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I personally wouldn't be interested in being on a show like that, even though I do have major in-law issues.  We live so far away that we never see each other anyway :-)  


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post #62 of 543

Katie - If it will make you happier, you really need your own place.  Hope the conversation with grandmother went well.

 

Jaime - Sounds like an interesting idea for a show, but I can just imagine how much they would dramatize it to death to suck in the viewers.

 

Storm rolled the other day for the first time and has been trying to grab things.  I am thinking about making him a baby playmat/gym out of wool scraps and using thin pliable tree branches to make arches to hang some organic cotton or wool toys from the branches.  Wish there was a weeping willow in our yard.  Really, I need to concentrate on making some recycled sweater longies today before I begin the toy project. 

 

Sad news to share. My mom has cancer.  She has two small spots in her lungs and they also found cancer in her abdominal region near her liver.  We are all really upset, but I am trying to be positive and strong for my mom.

 

 

post #63 of 543
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Mommy2Sage (I don't know your real name!)... I am SO sorry to hear about your mother's cancer.  What is the prognosis?  It makes me think of the the show The Big C.  We are here for you any time you need to vent.  grouphug.gif

 

 

post #64 of 543
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Sad news to share. My mom has cancer.  She has two small spots in her lungs and they also found cancer in her abdominal region near her liver.  We are all really upset, but I am trying to be positive and strong for my mom.

 

 


(((hugs)))  So sorry...

 

post #65 of 543

Okay ladies, so I'm trying to avoid having a paci addiction over here.   I don't want Dylan to be reliant on it in order to fall asleep, because I don't want to be replacing it all night long.  He doesn't necessarily need it 100% of the time as it is (to fall asleep- he doesn't have it when awake), but it does seem to be increasingly necessary.  If he's in the carrier, he *usually* doesn't need it.  I obviously can't always put him to sleep in the carrier though (or can I?)  He also hasn't quite figured out the thumb/hand sucking yet, though that does seem promising once he's more adept at getting his thumb in his mouth.  

So regarding wearing him down to sleep in the carrier, would that be a bad thing to try?  Like, always wearing him to sleep and then placing him on his mattress (which is next to our bed on the floor).  I am just wanting to break the paci habit, so I am thinking if I do the things (carrier, sleeping with him on me at night) that allow him to fall asleep without it, that we can then take it away.  BUT then there is the obvious issue that he *needs* to sleep on us.  Right?  Is that an easier habit to break?  I'd like to have this figured out before the 4 month sleep regression, which is also when habits start to form.  I'd like it if the paci wasn't part of his sleep habits.....  Any advice?

post #66 of 543
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Sad news to share. My mom has cancer.  She has two small spots in her lungs and they also found cancer in her abdominal region near her liver.  We are all really upset, but I am trying to be positive and strong for my mom.

 

 



hug2.gifSo sorry to hear this! I hope her prognosis is good...

post #67 of 543

We have a paci-addiction here too.  She doesn't use it at night at all, but she cant fall asleep without it and needs it when I'm wearing her or holding her.  When DH holds her she is fine without it eyesroll.gif  She also requires it in the car.  She plays without it, and uses her hands to soothe herself a lot.  DH just brought up yesterday that he thinks she is too dependent on it and I need to use it less.  Easy for him to say, since he is not the one trying to keep the baby calm and parent 3 children during the day...

post #68 of 543
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Honestly, I think the only thing you can do if you don't want a child to be dependent on a paci is to not use one or greatly limit its use to dire times (like the car).  Not using it will force you and baby to come up with other ways of doing things.  Avery doesn't care for a paci and neither have my other two.  So for me, this often means baby is in the carrier to fall asleep.  Otherwise either dh or I will rock him, giving him our pinky finger to suck on (like for bedtime).  He has also put himself to sleep a few times by sucking on his hand as long as his hand is pinned against his mouth (like in the carrier or when he's on his tummy at night).  I assume that has he gets more competent with his hands, he'll start to suck his thumb/fingers almost exclusively to fall asleep.  Right now he rarely falls asleep at the breast.

post #69 of 543

The homemade playmat/gym sounds awesome!

 

I am so so sorry to hear about your mom, that is terrible news.
 

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Storm rolled the other day for the first time and has been trying to grab things.  I am thinking about making him a baby playmat/gym out of wool scraps and using thin pliable tree branches to make arches to hang some organic cotton or wool toys from the branches.  Wish there was a weeping willow in our yard.  Really, I need to concentrate on making some recycled sweater longies today before I begin the toy project. 

 

Sad news to share. My mom has cancer.  She has two small spots in her lungs and they also found cancer in her abdominal region near her liver.  We are all really upset, but I am trying to be positive and strong for my mom.

 

 



 

post #70 of 543

Greta likes her pacifier, but really only to soothe with. I'm kind of loving it. My first would never take one and the only way she'd go to sleep until she was over a year old was for me to hold her while she cried herself to sleep. Neither of my girls have nursed to sleep unless they are completely wiped out. Greta takes it to go to sleep, but once she's out she doesn't seem to need it. DH grabs it when he brings her into bed with us when she wakes at night. I'll nurse her then give it back to her and she's out. She spits it out at some point but when she wakes again, I'll nurse her and give it back to her. I don't really feel like I'm searching for it all night. It helps that she generally only wakes twice to eat before we get up for the day. She still loves to chew on her hands, but when she gets upset or sleepy it's the paci that helps.

 

Today I noticed that I can see two bottom teeth starting to come up! There aren't bumps yet or anything. I can see them pretty far down in her gums still. If I rub my finger on the front of her gums (not the top) then I can feel them. Crazy! DD1 got her first tooth right at 4 months old, so I guess Greta's could start coming in soon too. She is 3 months old now! I'm a little sad to see the toothless grin go. I have yet to capture a good picture of her smiling (she gets very serious when the camera comes out). Now I'm determined to capture a toothless smile before it's too late!

post #71 of 543

Yeah, he spits it out at night and is usually fine, but I fear that it will slowly turn into him needing it all the time (again, at the 4 month mark once habits form, etc.)  I think it was addressed on another thread regarding sleep cycles and then them needing whatever it is (i.e. paci) that helps them fall asleep once they go through each sleep cycle (every 45 minutes).  My older DS did that.  It was awful.  That's why we don't have an issue now, and I am trying to head it off before it becomes an issue.  He doesn't nurse to sleep- ever- so I guess I will have to use the carrier?  Jaimee, if your kids usually fall asleep in the carrier, how do you "break" that habit?  Is it an issue?  

post #72 of 543
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Jaimee, if your kids usually fall asleep in the carrier, how do you "break" that habit?  Is it an issue?  

With ds1 it wasn't an issue at all.  Organically it changed.  As he got older and his sleep started to regulate onto a schedule of naps, he started falling asleep in my arms after feedings and I would put him down in the bed instead.  I sort of assume this will happen with Avery as well.  I can get him to sleep in my arms, but it takes longer and requires it to be quieter, which isn't always an option with two other kids running around and needing things.  But I figure ds1 will get older as Avery gets older and he'll be able to be more entertained by things longer so that I can get Avery down in quiet when that's what is needed.  We'll see!  I remember setting dd up in front of Sesame Street to get ds1 down for his naps, but she was older and would stay put and quiet.  Sigh...

 

post #73 of 543

I think that it's fine to do whatever your baby needs now.  All of my kids have needed some sort of help to go to sleep and all progressed passed it on their own.  My DS slept on my chest for the first 4mo, then never needed to be touching me at night again.  He moved easily to his own bed at 2yo and never gets in bed with us.  My DD1 needed to be nursed, swaddled and then bounced for the first 7mo, then one day she just didn't need it anymore. 

 

Coralie rarely falls sleep while nursing and also doesn't take a paci, so I almost always bounce or wear her in the carrier to fall asleep.  I suspect that as she gets older and starts napping alone that things will gradually change.  I'm not worried about it at all.  Both of my daughters have been very dependent on white noise as well..  I put Coralie in the carrier, turn on my hood fan and bounce her for every nap.  It's our routine and it works well.
 

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Yeah, he spits it out at night and is usually fine, but I fear that it will slowly turn into him needing it all the time (again, at the 4 month mark once habits form, etc.)  I think it was addressed on another thread regarding sleep cycles and then them needing whatever it is (i.e. paci) that helps them fall asleep once they go through each sleep cycle (every 45 minutes).  My older DS did that.  It was awful.  That's why we don't have an issue now, and I am trying to head it off before it becomes an issue.  He doesn't nurse to sleep- ever- so I guess I will have to use the carrier?  Jaimee, if your kids usually fall asleep in the carrier, how do you "break" that habit?  Is it an issue?  



 


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post #74 of 543

I guess I'm not worried about 4 months. If my kids had a sleep regression at 4 monts I don't remember it. I remember some night time issues with DD but those were early on. My kids have nursed to sleep and grew out of it.  None woke every 45 minutes. 

post #75 of 543

Sora has consistently been sleeping 7-8 hours straight (and then 2 more hours past that) every night for 2 weeks now. thumb.gif I'm so thankful that she has adjusted to sleeping comfortably in her nursery so I'm getting really solid sleep in my room. We have our bedtime routine down to a science. It's too bad that she's fussy when DH tries to do her bedtime routine, though. She's so used to me putting her to bed that she's not as comfortable with him doing it. Hopefully she'll become okay with either of us doing it.

 

She's growing like a weed right now. I just boxed up her 3M clothes to put in storage. It made me so sad! I'm so sentimental. I love some of those clothes so much, I hope we have another girl in the future to wear them again. smile.gif I'm excited to put her in the bigger clothes now, though! It's a whole new cute wardrobe every time she grows, haha. It'll be nice to have clothes fitting much better over her cloth diapers too.

 

In other news, the baby is eating a lot faster but I'm still mentally stuck back in the earlier stage of breastfeeding where I imagine my breasts taking 17 minutes to empty. I've sat pumping extra long because I still think more is going to come out. I haven't adjusted. l'm not quite sure how long it's taking now. I've been too out of it to time it while pumping at 4am lately. Anybody able to give me feedback on how long it takes for your breasts to empty around the 11-week mark? 

post #76 of 543

This is totally subjective to you, the pump or the baby.  It takes me about 7 minutes to fully empty an engorged breast.  Coralie rarely empties a full breast (7-8oz), so I have no idea how long that would take, maybe 10 minutes?
 

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In other news, the baby is eating a lot faster but I'm still mentally stuck back in the earlier stage of breastfeeding where I imagine my breasts taking 17 minutes to empty. I've sat pumping extra long because I still think more is going to come out. I haven't adjusted. l'm not quite sure how long it's taking now. I've been too out of it to time it while pumping at 4am lately. Anybody able to give me feedback on how long it takes for your breasts to empty around the 11-week mark? 



 

post #77 of 543

I get about 4 ounces in the first 5 minutes after let down. I can't get much more than that ever,tho. Shay nurses forcomfort a lot so he 

stays on the breast much longer. 

 

Im glad to hear Sora is sleeping so well. 

post #78 of 543
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I was going to say the same thing.... it's really individual, but it would take me about 5 minutes from letdown.

post #79 of 543
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Mommy2Sage (I don't know your real name!)... I am SO sorry to hear about your mother's cancer.  What is the prognosis?  It makes me think of the the show The Big C.  We are here for you any time you need to vent.  grouphug.gif

 

 


My name is Michelle (think I should add my name to my siggy).

 

My mom had cervical cancer 6 years ago and then last year near her stomach.  She beat cancer twice, but has been through so much with surgeries, radiation, and chemo and had so much radiation the first time that radiation is no longer an option for her.  The doctors in the hospital just told her that they are hoping she will only need Chemo.  She will have an appointment with her cancer doctor soon and then we will find out more.  The type of cancer she has will keep coming back.  If she wants to live, she will have to keep on fighting it.

 

Thanks hug2.gif

post #80 of 543
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Michelle... wow, your mom has been through a LOT!  It must be so difficult finding the strength to keep fighting and fighting.  I really feel for her and for your family.  I will send positive thoughts that chemo will be sufficient for her!

 

 

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