Valentine's day - gosh, I'm terrible for remembering & doing something for these things. Something I need to work on.
I had my first ever bfing run in today. I brought ds & dd swimming with my mom. Dd was getting fussy so I sat on the edge of the baby pool & nursed her (I even put a small towel over my breast so that not so much flesh was exposed!). The lifeguard watched me but didn't say/do anything until I finished & got back into the pool & then she told me that I needed to go to the eating area to do that (at least she didn't specify the bathroom!) to which I simply replied "no, anywhere I can legally be I can legally bf". She wasn't pleased with me & then told on me to the male lifeguard that was coming over. He shouts across the pool to me (which was totally unnecessary as it was just the small baby pool & it was not busy) "maam, I need to speak to you". I simply replied "No thank you, I am doing nothing wrong" (remember at this point we were well done with the bfing). He stared banging his whistle on a post & shouting "Get Chris!!!". At this point my Mom looks at me & remarks at how totally worked up they are getting about this. The manager came out of the office so I got out of the pool & approached her myself & simply said "they are not happy because I breastfed my baby". The male lifeguard was just beside himself. Turns out even the manager wasn't completely sure of their "policy". She initially said I needed to be 6' from the water but after actually going & checking on it she came back & talked to me & clarified that in fact they just asked that no one bf in the water (so in fact what I had done was not an issue). Guess there will be some notices going around to the staff now making sure they know what they are doing - goofs.
The manager was actually very professional & good to speak to but the lifeguards were totally out of line, not only with trying to enforce the wrong policy but also in how they spoke to me. I hate, hate, hate conflict & have felt awful ever since. I keep replaying whether I did the right thing or not but there were 2 other mothers with young babies & felt I needed to make a point for all of us. Sigh. I still feel shaky about it all. I am thinking about sending a follow up e-mail to the manager thanking her for her professionalism but complaining about the way in which the lifeguards approached things. Thoughts?
In other bfing news: dh defrosted some bm the other night but then I got home & dd never drank it & we put it in the fridge. Tonight I decided I would give it to her just so it wouldn't go to waste but she wasn't interested & just chewed on the nipple so I put it on the table. Ds picked it up & asked if he could drink it & I said yes, & he downed it, looks at me, says it was good & asks for more!