I'm in a situation with my workplace and it's come to the point that I think I might just need a lawyer, because it's become ridiculous. Here's a little back story, but this thing has turned into one complicated mess.
I'm a bus monitor on a special needs bus in a public school district. My job is to watch after the children on the bus, control behavior, etc. My bus driver has made a lot of comments towards the children that I felt were inappropriate. I began telling them to my sister after work when I'd vent, but didn't know if the comments could actually be something considered worth telling on him for. My sister is disabled and in a wheelchair and in university studying to become a paralegal and after a few conversations she told me I needed to complain to my boss because it was starting to become inappropriate, so I prepared to last week. Unfortunately my boss went out of town Thursday and Friday and I wasn't able to speak to him. I had to wait until Monday.
Now on another side of this situation I had a conversation with my bus driver and asked him to please stop speeding over the speed bumps about a week previously. I told him it was jolting me (and I'm pregnant) and the children and in particular a kindergartner on the bus had hit her head against the window numerous times. He didn't say much, but brought me a cushion to sit on the next day and I relented. On Monday (this week) he hit a speed bump. All the kids yelled and it was so fast and hard, I did shout out, "Oh my god". When we pulled up to our transportation department that day, he stopped the bus before letting me off, came to my seat and told me that I needed to sit up straighter in my seat and when speed bumps came I needed to stand up and use the seat to brace myself. I tried reasoning with him and saying that perhaps he should watch the road for the bumps, because we go to the same place with them four times a day and they are painted yellow and had signs in front of them with a caution sign. He disagreed and started to become aggressive and saying that he didn't need to watch out for them and that sometimes he'd miss them and I needed to be prepared by bracing the seat. He didn't let it go and we couldn't come to a conclusion.
I went into my boss after that. I complained about both issues. He didn't seem too concerned, but said he would look into them. I was upset with his lack of help, but I figured once he looked at the video he would see my point of view. I asked him to please look into it without mentioning it to my bus driver because I didn't want any drama.
The next day at the end of our route, we were preparing to switch buses, so another driver could drive me back to the Transportation Department and my driver could take another route. While we were waiting for the other bus, he came to the back of the bus and asked me whether or not I had a problem with him. He seemed visibly upset, so I said no, because I really didn't want a situation. He asked me again and again and again. I finally said, "Well, it depends, I have a problem with what happened yesterday." He then started on me that if he has a problem he talks to the person he has the problem with. I explained him that I tried to talk to him, but we were unable to come to a mutual conclusion. He then started to become very angry and completely started to go off on me. He started demanding that I start sitting up in my seat completely straight and stand up to brace for speed bumps, he told me I wasn't "fulfilling his needs", he told me that my pregnancy had nothing to do with my treatment at work and I wouldn't be getting special treatment, he told me he doesn't complain when he goes over a speed bump fast, he went on and on. He mentioned that his only job was to get the children safely to and from school and that doesn't include me and when I mentioned the fact that our kindergartner was hitting her head on the window on the bumps, he said that was "irrelevant". He told me he was my boss when I'm on the bus and he was in charge and I had to do what he says. Then he leaned over the seat and got in my face and I started to FREAK OUT. I asked him to step back, he wouldn't. He stayed in my face for about roughly two minutes. I even pulled out my phone and considered calling the police, because it was that "in my face" and started to scare me to the point I was shaking really bad. Luckily the bus that was going to trade with us pulled up in the nick of time and he backed off and started to leave. As soon as he got off the bus I burst into tears.
I got back to work and the boss told me that he spoke with my bus driver and felt that the incidents I reported weren't very big deals after investigation. Keep in mind: He insinuated that he SAW the comments on the video surveillance and after talking to my bus driver he felt they weren't big concerns. Even though he told me that sexual comments were absolutely 100% intolerable and one of the situations was the bus driver teasing one of the high school students in front of all his peers for watching "late night movies with girls in them" (porn, obviously) and that is why he missed the bus that morning. His reply to that was, "The bus driver says he has that kind of relationship with the student and they often joke about girls." He then started turning things around on me. He told me that I needed to sit up straight in my seat at all times and mentioned a post I made on facebook mentioning my bus driver (not by name) and a conversation he had with the children. I liked the children's response to what my driver had said, so I posted it. My facebook is private and I thought it was sweet and no names were mentioned. It did make my driver look like an ass, but nobody on my list knows my driver's name and I've never mentioned it. So basically my boss dismissed all of my complaints that I had for the past two to three weeks and told me he'd look into the video of my bus driver yelling at me and getting in my face. I felt a little wronged, especially for the children. He said no parents had complained, but the problem is that on my high school route ALL of the children have mental disabilities and sometimes his comments might not be completely understood. I personally still think that doesn't make them right and that is why I'm so fired up for them, because I can protect them when they might not be able to protect themselves.
Today, I waited until my boss had left and decided to speak to the man who is in control of video surveillance and discipline. I wanted to find out if he watched the videos. Come to find out... the last three weeks of video aren't there. The camera hasn't been working for three weeks. I have no proof and he said that it's a "he said, she said" and I should accept the outcome.
The outcome is that I've been switched to monitor another bus. I was switched with my bus drivers wife, who asked me last week to switch with her, but I refused because I'd lose about $300 (I only make about $600-700 now) a month because the hours weren't as good.
And on top of this, both my boss and bus driver are friends outside of work. When I first met my bus driver he invited me to a get together at the mason lodge. I was curious about masonry as was my husband so we decided to go. Our boss was there as well, invited by him. He's a mason as well, but he's from a lodge out of state, so he's begun visiting the local one after being invited by my bus driver.
Does any of this seem fishy? Do you think I should pursue this? I'm a little outraged and mind-boggled right now. The driver hasn't been written up, reprimanded or anything. And I've ended up being the victim. And now that his wife is on the route, I worry about what will happen with the children, because I honestly don't see her complaining about his attitude towards them. And I want to keep this short, but the children have been totally talked down to by him on numerous occasions. I might reply to this thread with a few examples, but I'm not sure how wise that would be if I really end up taking this farther?
(I guess I could also mentioned this man is a total sexist as well, but I let a lot of his comments slide, because I though, "oh, he's just an old man, I'll let him be")