We've told a few people so far- our parents and some close friends mostly. While everyone is now happy for us, some comments (from friends) after initially hearing the news were pretty off-base. Most include "Whoa, were you planning this?", but some folks laughed at first and were like "Wow, really?" as if we would bust out laughing too and say, "Naw, just kidding". This has really hurt my feelings and is sort of sticking with me. I can't get their reactions out of my mind and just let it go. I feel defensive when the "was this planned" question arises- like: "it's none of your business, but since you asked, no, but we're still happy about it, here let me convince you why it's ok"...Blech.
Now I'm anticipating telling my boss in the next month. She A) has no filter, B) has no sense of boundaries, and C) acts a bit wounded when she's left out of the loop (i.e. I need to manage her feelings sometimes- awesome). I'm anticipating her asking a bunch of inappropriate personal questions. I should mention that I work for a small nonprofit and everyone's together ALL the time- there's no real distance.
So, I guess this is part vent and part question.
Q- how to respond to people who ask nosy questions without seeming defensive