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post #21 of 34
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Originally Posted by 1bighappyfam View Post

I just wish someone would come up with something original for once. Been hearing the same things for a looong time now.


lol.gif  But.. don't you know how that happens?!?!?!?!?!  duck.gif

 

post #22 of 34

I feel comfort knowing that others are going through similar things, but it makes me sad at the same time (for all of the reasons already mentioned.)  I'm only on my second child and I already got comments from my family like "oh boy... here we go again" or laughing and saying "oh no!!" as if a 2.5 year age gap between my kids obviously means that this baby is an accident (s/he was very much planned.)  I think the weird thing for my family is having kids any closer together than maybe 5 years apart.  In fact, when my son was only a few months old, I was lectured to a few of my aunts about how it's best to space them more than 4 years apart so they aren't in college at the same time.  I quickly replied that we'd get more financial aid having two kids in school at the same time, and I wanted my kids to have siblings as their playmates and friends (something I never had), so we'd probably space them closer together.  And yet I still got that "oh wow that's crazy" response.   Siiiigh.  I don't even want to know what they'll say if we get to numbers higher than 3. 

post #23 of 34

Just you wait until we are all 8.5 months along... "Are you still pregnant?" "When are you gonna have that baby?" "Is that baby ever going to come?"

 

The worst is when people I don't know (outside of MDC) call me mama....like a woman in the grocery store in that certain way...it's so annyoing. I'm a woman, not an infant thank you, please speak to me like I am a woman with a learned brain.

 

man I could smack people.

post #24 of 34
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Originally Posted by RoseisRose View Post

Just you wait until we are all 8.5 months along... "Are you still pregnant?" "When are you gonna have that baby?" "Is that baby ever going to come?"



Don't forget: "Are you sure there is just ONE in there?!"

post #25 of 34
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Originally Posted by Lauren82 View Post



Don't forget: "Are you sure there is just ONE in there?!"


That was the worst.  DS was 11lbs and I was HUGE.  I got that a lot.

 

post #26 of 34
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Originally Posted by Kat_shoshin View Post


That was the worst.  DS was 11lbs and I was HUGE.  I got that a lot.

 



DS was 9lbs and I was big so I heard that a lot.

 

"Oh. Are you carrying twins?" - (me) "No. I'm just grossly fat. Thanks for the blow to my self esteem."

post #27 of 34

Yep, definitely heard it all, and I am not really showing yet. I dread to think what I am going to hear when its obvious I am pregnant with six other children, let alone when they find out its multiples. *sigh*. All you can do is smile and let it roll off your back. And find a safe place/ persons who will be understanding! :)

post #28 of 34
Momtoafireteam, my worries about reactions to our fourth, pale in comparison to what I'm sure you will hear about triplets with six others! lol.gif And I had missed the announcement that you have triplets on the way!! Wow!!! Congrats!!!

We have started telling a few close people, we were on vacation with two couples we are close with, people who know about my other losses, and I told my sister because I am standing up in her wedding in June. She is going dress shopping with my mom, her soon to be MIL, and two other bridesmaids today. She needed to know that I was going to need a maternity dress.

I have been surprised that people have been pretty positive. Even my sister, who is young, and I expected to be irritated that I will be pregnant and her matron of honor, just laughed. She said "really?" about 10 times, and laughed! She said she called it, which she did, she has been saying for ages I would be pregnant at her wedding.

Of course, this is why we are selective about who we tell at this point. These are our closest friends, and they all shared positive stories of friends with four, the tale that going from 3 to 4 is no harder than 2 to 3, once you learn how to manage being "out numbered" by your kids! They said congrats, laughed at my blaming my DH, shared their story of their surprise pregnancy. I feel better about this all having started to tell people.

In fact, I have to call my mom here in a few. She is going dress shopping WITH my sister. And my Mom is a very talented seamstress and needs to be keeping an eye on potential alterations to fit my 5 1/2 month pregnant self!
post #29 of 34
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Originally Posted by MacKinnon View Post

Momtoafireteam, my worries about reactions to our fourth, pale in comparison to what I'm sure you will hear about triplets with six others! lol.gif And I had missed the announcement that you have triplets on the way!! Wow!!! Congrats!!!


Thanks! It was originally twins (all they saw at first) and I did announce that, but the next week they saw three babies/ heartbeats and I didn't bother making another post- I didn't want to bore people. :) We are totally shocked and scared but I think its getting better..... Thank goodness pregnancy is long! 

post #30 of 34
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Originally Posted by momtoafireteam View Post



Thanks! It was originally twins (all they saw at first) and I did announce that, but the next week they saw three babies/ heartbeats and I didn't bother making another post- I didn't want to bore people. :) We are totally shocked and scared but I think its getting better..... Thank goodness pregnancy is long! 



 

Oh my triplets! How exciting for you and the triplets' older siblings!!

post #31 of 34
WOW....THREE what are the chances. congratulations on three more.
post #32 of 34
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Originally Posted by momtoafireteam View Post



Thanks! It was originally twins (all they saw at first) and I did announce that, but the next week they saw three babies/ heartbeats and I didn't bother making another post- I didn't want to bore people. :) 


As if that crazy, exciting news would BORE US!  So is it a set of identicals and a fraternal? or 3 frats? or 3 identicals?  Just crazy!  (And you are scaring me a little since my u/s at 6w1d only showed one...but I am so much sicker than with any of my other pregnancies!)

post #33 of 34
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Originally Posted by momtoafireteam View Post



Thanks! It was originally twins (all they saw at first) and I did announce that, but the next week they saw three babies/ heartbeats and I didn't bother making another post- I didn't want to bore people. smile.gif We are totally shocked and scared but I think its getting better..... Thank goodness pregnancy is long! 

THAT is not boring at all!! Holy moly!!! In fact, I think I will go make you a congratulations thread! I hope you don't mind! I'm being excited for you!!
post #34 of 34
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Originally Posted by PinkBunch View Post


As if that crazy, exciting news would BORE US!  So is it a set of identicals and a fraternal? or 3 frats? or 3 identicals?  Just crazy!  (And you are scaring me a little since my u/s at 6w1d only showed one...but I am so much sicker than with any of my other pregnancies!)



Right now they are saying its two ID's and one frat, but the ID's are mo/di so one placenta and two amniotic sacs? They can only see one placenta now, but something might change with it so we will see. :) And don't be scared! At 5w5d we saw three "somethings" but he could only see fetal poles/ yolk sacs etc in 2 and the other was really tough to see, so they said it was probably a SCH. Then 10 days later there was 3 sacs, 3 babies, 3 heartbeats! Crazy is right!!

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