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Life is full of surprises. Preparing for a potential job loss

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Hi

 

Well, you know what? I refuse to stress about this. The Lord always provides.

I was told today that our department was being elliminated and they havent decide who will be transferred to another department or let go. And we dont know when they will tell.

 

I am a single mom to my fantastic 4 year old boy

My ex takes care of him half of the time and I know he will not let his son go without, my son is covered.

 

I was making substancially more than my ex, so I get a laughable child support of $24 a month. And I hear courts are not likely to modify unless you are unemployed for a bout a year

I believe unemployment is like $100 a week.

 

I have no family near by or friends where to stay.... soooo What are my options

I wont worry about debt, I will go back to reducing that when I find a job again

I need to review my expenses and elliminate anything non critical which I think is:

 

A place to live. Do I need to go to a shelter?  If I do then my son would stay at his dad every night I guess. Am  I being too dramatic?

Electricity and water. If shelter this is typically included

Food

Gas (I need to look for a job and see my son)

Toiletries

A Phone, I think I can get one for free somewhere.

Car insurance, car payment so I dont get the car taken which I need for job search and see my son.

I am also due to do the cars front transmission which is $600 and if I dont do it the vibration will break other stuff on the car.

 

I might be a little numb with the news, you know what, maybe this is the way I will finally figure out how to make money from home.

Anyway, any compassionate advice and word of wisdom is appreciated

Somehow I feel this is a crazy good thing!

post #2 of 3

Sounds like good planning and preparation. You do what you have to do. I was faced with this a few months ago. I have the same custody sharing situation and I knew that I could hold on to my house for a few months before I got evicted, so I said the same things you are saying, "How can I get by?"

 

And you know what? We do get by. Fortunately, my job was spared this year. Next year is a different story, but I won't worry about that either.

 

I think after you go through a divorce and shifting to part-time custody with your babies, you realize that you can handle whatever life throws at you. It's hard sometimes, but there is a lot of joy in letting go of the illusion of control and having deep faith in God and the universe to put things back together again after they come apart. Change is the only truth in life.'

 

Sending you light and love mama.

 

Mo

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Mo,

Thank you so much for your response, it moved me!

You are right, after the right amount of adversity, you realize you can indeed handle whatever comes and gracefully! I think that is why I have the peace I have.

And, oh my God, so right about the joy that comes from letting go of the ilusion of control.
I have been working on surrender, and i struggle, but it does pay off!

Blessings Galore,

Paula
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