A scene just happened...
My daughter (3) and son (5) were playing a game together and she did something in the game that he didn't like. I heard him talking in a very angry and controlling voice to her and when I looked over he was laying on top of her body and holding her head down to the floor with his mouth right up to her ear.
It happens all the time. He seems to have no boundaries and no limits to what he will do. He is constantly screaming at us, saying mean things, trying to control everything in his environment and when I step in and set limits I get even more disrespect. He won't just play with his sister. He has to control everything about the game. I hear the whole thing. It starts with him telling her exactly which toys she can play with and exactly how she has to play. If she doesn't follow his exact rules he starts yelling at her, or taking things from her or physically abusing her.
Today I went right over and pulled him off her. I told him firmly that he needed to go sit on his bed for 10 minutes and we would talk after those ten minutes. He immediately started a screaming and hitting temper tantrum. Is it normal for a child this age to not connect at all that they are the cause of the result?
I just keep wondering when he is going to see the negative impact of his actions and actually think before he does something. Or at least accept the consequence...
I woke up this morning to immediate nagging and whining. He is incredibly persistent even when everyone around him is obviously burned out and done with it. I can't even walk through the room and get a cup of tea/wake up properly without being immediately thrown into his nagging/whining/persistence/naughty behaviour. It starts first thing in the morning and ends only when he is asleep.
I am so sick of it.
I am so tired. I am burned out.
Sometimes I feel like "gentle" discipline just doesn't work for him. Nothing works!