I posted a general introduction, but I thought I should post a thread here as well. I'm about to become an adoptive parent, actually I'm picking up my boys from the foster home tomorrow! At this point, if time were moving any slower, all the clocks would be running backward. Lol.
I've always wanted to adopt older special needs children and started the process last April when I realized the godson I'd raised for nearly two years would soon be going off to college. After several failed matches, I was matched with 11yo twin boys in December. We've been visiting and preparing for transition for the last month. Both boys have emotional special needs, as you'd expect for children this age coming out of the foster care system. At this point, I've researched both the generalities of older child adoption and these boys' specific histories to the point of exhaustion, and really feel I'm as prepared as anyone in my position can be. I've come to care for both Casey* and Devin* a great deal during our visits and they at least claim to like me and want to come live with me, which is a start.
I want to join the community here because you all seem much more positive than my local adoption support group or the other adoption support groups I've found online. I am honestly tired of people predicting worst-case scenarios based solely on the twins' age. I'm not naive and turned down earlier matches because I believed the children were beyond my (and perhaps anyone's) ability to help. Obviously I believe Casey and Devin are different.
Anyway, I'm greatly looking forward to getting to know you all and sharing our journeys through this unique type of parenting.
*not the boys' real names, as I want to preserve our anonymity. One of them may want to run for president one day, after all.
Edited by ForeverFather - 2/3/12 at 1:16pm