I am completely at a loss here. Our DS1, who potty-trained in a matter of days just before the age of 3 and has never had an accident since, has had a series of accidents over the past few weeks - all, as far as I can tell, related to his realizing he has to pee, but not getting to the bathroom in time. I'll hear the thundering little-boy feet, the crash of the bathroom door, and then a wail: "Moooooooommmmmmm!! I need heeeeeelp!" - meaning, he didn't get his pants down in time, or to the toilet once the pants were down, and he has peed on himself.
Then today I got an e-mail from his first-grade teacher, telling me that he wet himself at school today and had to go to the school nurse for a change of clothes. She mentioned that occasionally she'll see him doing "the pee-pee dance" and will remind him to go to the restroom, but today was out of the blue - particularly as it was during a time when the kids are free to go and don't have to ask for a pass to go down to the bathroom.
I've had UTIs myself an worried that might be a contributing cause, but a culture came up negative. I honestly think he gets distracted and doesn't heed his body's messages until it's too late - but the worst part is, he won't discuss it. At all. I've tried reassuring him that it happens to everyone at some point - I even reminded him of when I was in labor with his brother and managed to pee on the floor of our bedroom (he finds this hilarious), but he just backs away from me, shaking his head and waving his hands and going, "No, no, no, I'm not talking about this, it was nothing, it didn't happen...!" I know he's mortified but clearly there's something going on here, and I want to help him figure it out!!!
Ideas? Anyone BTDT?