I need some advice, some guidance, some something! My 16 yr old son is stressing me out to the max! We have 2 main problems:
1) grades--His grades are terrible!! His last report card he had 3 D's and 1 F. When I saw detailed grade reports in these classes, it reassured me of what I already knew. He is smart but lazy. His test grades were 80-100. His homework grades were mostly 0-50. I have tried everything I can think of. We have taken away all privileges, including driving, thinking that would get his grades up with no luck. He just doesn't seem to care. He'll do better for a couple of weeks and then slack off to nothing again. When discussing this with someone else, they suggested he may be on drugs. I take him to school and pick him up. He is always at home with us. I'm pretty sure he's not on drugs.....And I'm not obsessed with straight A's, but he's just a few points from failing several required classes!
2) chores/family participation--he cannot seem to do a few basic chores each week and this drives me crazy! Each week he is to clean his own bathroom, clean his own room and do his laundry, and unload the dishwasher each night. I don't find this to be unreasonable. I've even offered to pay him for a doing a good timely job. He still can't seem to get it done. He just meanders around the house aggravating his siblings, watching whatever we are watching on TV, etc.
Add to this his constant crappy attitude and disrespect and I just don't very much enjoy being around him anymore. I'm open to any and all suggestions as to how to make this situation better.