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post #41 of 49
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hugs shinyredstar. Really that is the last thing you should have to worry about, but I know there are those people out there. I too often wonder if I'm being too sensitive but I think if you think you sense the fatphobia, you probably do.

I hope she gets the hell out soon and you get a supportive care team! Good luck with your labor and I hope you get to meet your little girl soon!
 

post #42 of 49
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Congrats on Juniper's birth! See the July DDC for her birth story :)

post #43 of 49
I'm so glad you posted in the DDC, Boots! I actually had forgotten that I'd posted on here at the early part of the labor! It ended up going fairly well because I decided to just let it go and not let someone else's issues interfere with my labor and the nurse actually ended up bring pretty decent. I has told her at one point that I was concerned with the pushing and she asked why. I said it was because I worried that I was too out of shape and couldn't do it and i'm sure that fed into her feelings about it. But in the end it was essentially a 2.5 hour labor with just two easy pushes at the end! I still felt a lot if anxiety about body/weight during my stay but also felt a little vindicated by my quick labor and quick recovery so I'm going with the part that made me feel strong and confident. Wishing you the same with your upcoming birth!
post #44 of 49

That is awesome. I love your birth story... sounds like it couldn't have gone better. Congrats again!

post #45 of 49
Thank you! Looking forwarding to reading the stories from this group, too! smile.gif
post #46 of 49
Thread Starter 

Well, at 38 weeks wearing an empire waist top, strangers/aquaintences finally feel like they can ask me if I am pregnant. What a long wait! I wasn't very social all summer but still I got NO comments until I went back to work for a conference (teacher) this Friday. It was nice. It also helped I'm sure I was walking around with my coworker who is 39 weeks.

So anyway, I got some hugs from my coworkers and a few belly rubs and congrats from random people, and it felt good! I don't know that I needed to deal with for the entire pregnancy, but at least even at 320# it happened eventually.

I have said before I get so depressed reading all the ladies on the babycenter plus size board (which is very mainstream and young) whose main concern about pregnancy is showing, hiding their b-bellies, etc. But I do know that it's a sensitive time body image wise and I have had my own issues. I feel pretty good about my giant bump lately, even though it's definitely still got a belly button indent and an apron. I am hoping I can maintain a good body image post-partum, does anyone have any thoughts about this?? I've been fat my whole life but I didn't think about how pregnancy would change the way it was distributed, etc.

post #47 of 49

Now that I'm at the end, I am having people frequently ask me if I am having twins. This is new for me as usually people think I am just fat, not pregnant. I think it's because i have a ton of extra fluid this time. I don't feel that big, but I guess in certain clothes I look it! I am mostly just tired of talking about the shape of my body with strangers. My doula reminded me that even though I hate being asked about twins, that in my last pregnancy when I was about this far along (37 weeks) we were out shopping one day and saw some old people debating whether or not I was even pregnant.

post #48 of 49
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Originally Posted by bootsvalentine View Post

Well, at 38 weeks wearing an empire waist top, strangers/aquaintences finally feel like they can ask me if I am pregnant. What a long wait! I wasn't very social all summer but still I got NO comments until I went back to work for a conference (teacher) this Friday. It was nice. It also helped I'm sure I was walking around with my coworker who is 39 weeks.

So anyway, I got some hugs from my coworkers and a few belly rubs and congrats from random people, and it felt good! I don't know that I needed to deal with for the entire pregnancy, but at least even at 320# it happened eventually.

I have said before I get so depressed reading all the ladies on the babycenter plus size board (which is very mainstream and young) whose main concern about pregnancy is showing, hiding their b-bellies, etc. But I do know that it's a sensitive time body image wise and I have had my own issues. I feel pretty good about my giant bump lately, even though it's definitely still got a belly button indent and an apron. I am hoping I can maintain a good body image post-partum, does anyone have any thoughts about this?? I've been fat my whole life but I didn't think about how pregnancy would change the way it was distributed, etc.

 

I feel pretty negative about my body right now... it's mainly the apron and stretch marks. (Seriously, my belly was already floppy, there wasn't enough room to expand without tons of new stretch marks? Hmph.) I am hoping over time I'll get more accustomed to it and am trying to focus on what my body accomplished rather than how it looks now. I know it's important to accept myself as I am now, because I've gained and lost enough weight over time that it's unlikely my belly will "snap back" at this point even if I got really serious about working out (ha).

post #49 of 49
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scowgirl, I am right there with you now. I am in a weird situation. I have lost about 50 lbs but only one pants size, I think because my ab muscles are still so stretched out. I have weird feelings about my weight before and now, and I want to keep losing weight even though I feel like it's impossible to do so as quickly as I did in pregnancy. Also I feel like maybe people can't even tell I lost so much weight.

I have been on drugs that kept my weight up in the past, both SSRIs and steroids for asthma, now I'm terrified to go back on either, but the body image stuff now and an uncertain career path right now is making me feel more depressed.

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