My Dad is turning 80 in April. I'm in charge of planning the party but I've been sweating it bcs the party is in SF (where we all grew up) and to fly my family of five out there would pretty much wipe out my emergency fund until our tax refund hits.
He had mentioned at one point that he would be sending for everyone, but hadn't mentioned it since, so I was in the unfortunate position of having to ask him what his plans were in regards to that.
He emails me, "I guess I forgot to tell you, I was going to give you $2000 for each person in your family. Do you think that would be enough?". I was SHOCKED at this and replied to him, "More than enough and much too generous. I don't think that much is necessary".( I have three siblings that he is also doing this for, all with kids)
But in my brain, I'm calculating how much airfare, lodging, rental car, meals out, new outfits, etc are going to cost and I'm realizing it would pretty difficult to spend even half of that. So I get excited about throwing a huge chunk of change at my credit card. And he emails back a couple of days later..."You can always return what you don't use".
It might be like him to refuse the money back. But in case that's NOT the case, I'm stuck between trying to travel frugal as usual so I can make a huge dent in my cc debt. Or just blowing the walls off this trip. Maybe a quick trip to Disney, send for one my aunts who can't afford the flight, offering to pay for part of the party (which my dad is paying for t this point
I haven't told any of my sibling the particulars of this email, as I want to make sure my dad doesn't change his mind (not that that is his style, but it just seems overly-generous). But I guess I want to make sure we are all on the same page (one of my siblings is notorious for being cheap, so I can almost imagine him not offering to pay for nothing and pocketing as much as possible) and another sibling is very financially comfortable and has said numerous times that we shouldn't accept any money from my dad.
I'm a little overwhelmed....wwyd?