So I am having a rough day. And it's been a rough week. I ended up weaning my 22 mo daughter off my left breast entirely a few weeks ago (due to repeat milk blisters on that side), and now we are down to only nursing 3 times a day (from 8-12ish). It's been a few weeks of the 3x/day and it's been going alright, but she's still asking for "Mayna" ALLLLLL the time. Even though she knows my response will be "not until nap time" or "not until bedtime." Also, we haven't done any night weaning yet because we are still trying to give her time to adjust to these new changes, and NOW she is nursing more than ever at night!! And she's really restless, and for the last two nights has been waking up for chunks of time, which she never used to do. (I really don't think her 2 yr molars are coming in yet)
ALSO -- for her whole life I have had to nurse her during her naps. After about 30 minutes of sleeping she commonly wakes up asking to nurse, and then she'll go back so sleep. Occasionally I would have to nurse her again in another 30 minutes. For the last week I have not allowed her to nurse during naps, so now her naps are almost all 30 minutes! And her tantrums after the fact are so full of hysterics I can't help but feel like I'm f$@*ing up somewhere. Will she EVER learn that we are only nursing 3x/day? Will she EVER learn how to go back to sleep without nursing??? Am I traumatizing her?? I am so so so tired, and emotionally drained and I'm losing my patience and feeling distraught.
I have no support system here (in Mexico--we are living in Yelapa for 3 months this winter and won't be home till March 7th) and it's putting so much stress on me and my husband. If you have any suggestions or have a similar story, please tell me how you made it through. How did your kid learn to go to sleep without the boob?? (Also, I have tried singing to her, offering her something to snuggle, offering to hold her/snuggle her back to sleep, and I even try telling her "close your eyes, take a deep breath, go back to sleep." and it just puts her worse into hysterics. AND she tells my husband to "GO AWAY!" 100% of the time he tries to soothe her. It's heartbreaking) :(
People keep telling me "the only way to wean" is to literally leave the building for at least 4 days. Do you believe this is unethical? Is this really the only way to do it when your kid is this obsessed with nursing??
No need to cite Dr. Jay Gordon. We've tried everything.... (except CIO, which we won't)