We have 2 daughters and have co-slept with both of them since birth. When my younger daughter was born, my husband stayed with our high-needs oldest and I moved into a different room with our baby. Now they are 4 years old and 2 years old, and we still sleep in separate beds with each girl.
After 2 years, my husband is ready to be back in bed with me. We used to have sex on the couch during naptime, but now that my oldest doesn't nap, that's out the window, and intimacy is becoming a real problem in my marriage. (And, I'd like to have another baby at some point in the future! So many reasons to cultivate more connection between us and opportunities to DTD!) Something needs to change and I think shifting sleeping arrangements makes sense on a number of levels.
Both girls sleep through the night, but they are both pretty attached to bedsharing with us, especially our oldest daughter who has resisted several attempts to get her to sleep in a toddler bed, or in a bunk bed (that she picked out, and a room we set up with her input). Our plan at that time was to get her napping in the bunk bed, and then get her to sleep in there. But she dropped her naps within a few weeks of getting the bed, so we really only have nighttime sleep. She is a highly sensitive child and I don't know if she will ever make the choice to sleep independently. She is very attached to my husband.
My younger daughter might transition to her own bed. She's always been more adaptable. She still likes to be nursed almost all the way to sleep and that's fine with me since it only takes about 10 min. I thought maybe I could just start putting her to sleep in the lower bunk (and stay in the nearby room and plan to bedhop until she gets used to it?).
Suggestions? Thoughts? We have a king bed (that DH and DD1 share), a queen (me and DD2), and a bedroom with bunk beds. The bunk beds can be separated. I think it would be best or ideal if we could get both girls to sleep in "their" room so that we can sleep together and have another bed free for someday down the line if/when we have a 3rd.
Basically ANY ADVICE you can share about shifting one or both girls into their own room would be so incredibly appreciated!