Really, is he a 4 yo boy or a 13 yo girl???
He is so unbelievably rude and I am just done with it. How on earth do you keep your cool with all the slamming around, eye-rolling and not listening AND not responding to your requests? When he doesn't use nice manners, I remind him and he generally responds to that. But for everything else, like slamming doors and shoving things around, no response but more slamming when I say, "Something is going to break. Please be gentle." Then what? So he can't use whatever he was mistreating? No biggie. I have a whole trash bag full of his stuff that was taken away last week b/c he refused to put it away. He hasn't asked for it back yet. I reminded him today that he could have his toys back when the remaining ones were put away and when he was ready to put away the ones in the bag. No response. I'd love to just donate the whole thing since he doesn't seem to care, but I know he'll be hysterical if I do that. And the rest of the stuff is "my" stuff -- dishes, cups, other kitchen stuff mostly. So what, he can't use dishes anymore? I'm having a tough time finding "natural" or even logical consequences to this stuff b/c there just isn't anything. I get so frustrated I yell, and I think that's what he's going for. I've tried talking to him, asking if he didn't think a particular time that day that we were all happy and getting along wasn't better than when he was rude and being yelled at for it. He said it was easier to be rude and be yelled at, so no big deal. Great.... Now what??