Okay. I was never going to use timeout. I had read all the stuff about how it isn't good. But then my son turned three and I felt like I had no control over his negative behaviors (hitting, kicking, being rude etc) so I read 1 2 3 Magic and started doing timeouts. Well they don't work. In fact they ruin my whole day. He does not calm down during timeout and then will not calm down forever after. His mood is just ruined. And he is raging angry with me. I keep thinking it will get better as he gets used to the routine but no. Hasn't happened.
So I need something else. I need some help. How can you manage a child's negative behaviors without punishment or timeout? What can I do?