We have a signed will granting custody of DS to a relative if DH & I both die (plus two alternates). So I'm not worried about that.
What I can't figure out is what happens in between? Between the time DH & I die and the relative flies in from across the country and all that? Or if there were some other emergency, like we were both hospitalized & unconscious??
We have local relatives that we do NOT want to take DS, even in an emergency. We'd want a close family friend to take him instead. But how do I make this known?? I was thinking of putting a little card in my wallet, but would anyone look through my (admittedly sometimes cluttered!) wallet? And what if I didn't have my wallet for some reason??? And what if the local relatives tried to take him???