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[flavorfull1]

Hmmm, somehow I missed it was Monday until literally right now, oops.  I feel like a zombie, DS was up every five seconds last night coughing and was very intense today because he didn't feel good. He started with a fever and cough on Saturday and it has felt like the longest weekend ever.  I feel bad for him because he just wants me to hold him and carry him around but my body cannot do that anymore at all. I spent a lot of time trying to convince a crying toddler that sitting on the couch with me holding him is just as great as me walking around holding him, poor guy.  He does seem to be sleeping a little better tonight which is great, his fever finally isn't as high this afternoon so I hope we are turning the corner.  I had to reschedule my mw appt from today to wednesday. I am curious to see what I weigh and how she is measuring. I feel like she went through a huge growth spurt and I am just getting so excited about meeting her!

Still haven't heard back from the insurance company as to their verdict but I think it will come in the next week or so.  Part of me is fine waiting because I can continue in the illusion that they will say yes and everything will be fine and easy. 

Oh and about the hot at night thing- I am definitely waking up sweating. I had sweats really bad postpartum after DS was born and now I am not as soaked but definitely burning up. DH is sound asleep under layers and I am throwing off one sheet because I am so hot!

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

anyone have tips on surviving the hotness? My nightsweats postpartum were AWFUL, and I don't remember this happening before delivery last time. I think I'm going to sleep under a light blanket rather than my normal comforter tonight.

[Thursday Girl]

I don't have the hot problem, but my mom does. She puts baby powder in her bed to keep things dry.

Hubs is out of town, not for very long though.

Edited by Thursday Girl - 2/7/12 at 6:06am

[Fern5Fern]

I'm starting to notice I'm warmer than DH in bed too, I keep waking up having thrown off the blankets.  It has been such a strangely warm winter here weather wise too.

DD was up throwing up most of the night on Sunday, and I ended up getting the bug too yesterday, nothing like throwing up and peeing your pants at the same time.  I feel better today though, if there is one thing about 3 months of intense morning sickness it makes a short 24 hr stomach flu seem considerably less terrible!  I have about 8 loads of laundry to catch up on today with all the pukey sheets and towels though, fun fun.  

We had a really fun weekend, we took the kids to this crazy indoor play place with all these bouncy houses and inflatable climbing wall slide things.  By this point in the winter we are desperate for physical activities that the kids can do inside.  I wasn't sure they would like it but the kids had so much fun, and watching them was hysterical.  They were both red faced and sweating from the physical exercise, and DD was so brave (frighteningly so), there was this really high climbing wall/slide that most parents were helping their 5 and 6 year olds up, and when DS (4) took off to do it himself, DD was right on his heals.  I though my DH was going to pass out he was so nervous, but it was designed so they wouldn't get hurt if they fell, it was more just a matter of them being scared.  She worked so hard to get up there and then both kids came down this huge slide together shrieking with delight, it was so fun to see.  I wonder however, what that lack of fear as a personality trait is going to be like when she is older.  

[AnnaB77]

I am also horribly hot. I have the heat turned down to 54 at night. My poor DD sleeps with 2 quilts and 3 comforters. I also get really hot and sweaty during the day. I wish I had bought more short sleeve Maternity shirts when they were on clearance. Now the exact same shirts that were $4 are $25 again. It is not worth it for just a few more weeks.

My best friend is throwing me a baby shower in a few weeks. She is going all out. I have never had someone do so much and try to make something so special for me. I feel so lucky!! I want to do something really special for her to let her know how much I appreciate her.

I am sorry to hear about so many sick kids. I can't imagine having a sick toddler right now. I hope everyone gets better soon.

[Mom2SammyJoe]

I am not sleeping well and have had a sick kid, too. I took DS to the dr. on Thursday for pink eye then hung out with both kids at the store waiting for the prescription. The dr. mentioned that he was likely coming down with something, probably an ear infection since only one eye was infected. Sure enough, he woke up Friday morning with an ear infection. I had to take him in again (less than 24 hours later) so they could look in his ear and write another prescription. Fortunately, he is feeling much better, and this is only the 2nd time in his life he's had antibiotics. Maybe I could have waited it out, but DH and I had a jacuzzi suit booked for that night, and I knew my mom would be okay taking care of him if I had taken him to the dr. DH and I enjoyed what will likely be our last night alone for a long time, and I knew the kids were fine with my mom.

As far as being hot, I do okay during the day, but am not comfortable at night. We heat with wood, so I have been shutting our bedroom door so it stays cooler in there. That helped last night, but my sleep was still really disturbed. As tired as I am, it seems like I would sleep like a rock. I took a quilt off the bed, too, but now the blankets aren't heavy enough and don't feel right. We'll figure it out.

[hazelbranch]

I am having a pity party over here... I have a sick (but on the mend) DD, now I'm sick and can't stop sneezing or blowing my nose (insert leaks here), and today I've managed to twist my ankle to the point that I'm walking around on crutches.  Being this pregnant on crutches blows... and it is especially awesome when you can barely breathe out of your nose and keep your pants dry. 

[csekywithlove]

Sorry I haven't posted much, school and preparing for Eleanor is really taking over. 

I hate to hear that everyone is feeling bad, my DH and DSS are in the same boat. DSS seems to constantly have some sort of congestion in the winter and DH just can't sleep or hurts or... I dunno. He tends to make a mountain out of a mole hill. I am just ready for spring.

We found out from the allergist on Monday that DSS's only allergy is to get this, cats! And a mild allergy to dogs. It is the exact same allergy that I have. So strange. But I can handle that instead of peanuts, coconut, molds, etc. I just have to make sure he isn't around cats at all. I can only really see this being a problem when he gets older and has friends with pets. But by that point I hope that our house is like grand central station for kiddos, so I will love having the extra kids around. 

Last week ladies were talking about problems with their partners and I am right there with you ladies. DH and I are clashing something horrible. I went to bed last night (1 am because I couldn't sleep with this wonderful acid reflux) and not ten minutes after I got in the bed DH is talking about how he can't sleep and leaves the room. He usually does this, goes downstairs and outside to have a cigarette or eat a small snack and come back to bed. He didn't, so Miss Hormonal me just laid there and cried for a bit. I am not a crier. At all. But I just feel like I am doing everything I can to prepare for this birth and he is supportive, but he doesn't know how to be supportive in the way that I need. I love him so much and want him to have an active part in my labor and birthing our daughter. I am definitely checking out that book though. For now I just hope that he comes to bed tonight and we maybe watch a good movie and snuggle. 

On a happier note, I am going to get my double stroller tomorrow and take advantage of the Babies R' Us 25% trade in promotion. I am very excited about my stroller. 

[NCMtnMama]

Sorry everyone is feeling so temperature-challegned these days. I haven't noticed that yet, but it's probably because I'm always cold, no matter what.

And the sicknesses ... ugh, sorry you're all having sick kiddos and families. 

My kid is fine, but we got the "Fifths Disease is going around" email from DD's school yesterday. So I may have been exposed to that, and it's potentially very harmful to a developing baby. So today after my MW appt I had to get a blood test to see if I'm positive for exposure. I have 2 days to worry about the results of that...fun!

My MW seemed more concerned with the fact that the baby is still breech than the Fifths, though, so she gave me a bunch of inversion exercises to try. I did those tonight; they looked ridiculous of course. 

[saudade]

Funny that you mention night sweats, I've been having them too! My bedroom is kept really cold at night and almost every night for the past month I've been waking up sweating. I'm hot easily all the time as well, but I don't remember the night sweats from any of my other pregnancies so I looked it up and it's a common pregnancy thing caused by hormones. Normally, non-pregnant I'm one of those "always cold" people.

[justKate]

Wow, kiddo sicknesses going around!  DD is mostly recovered from her stomach bug, but she keeps telling me that the "hiccups want to come out" which means she's going to puke, even though she's really not.  So we're staying home for another day, just in case. 

DH is on duty today/tonight, which means he won't come home until the end of the work day tomorrow, and I'm actually really looking forward to having the quiet time.  Shame on me, right?  No real plans, since I've got myself in pain again from messing with my dresser refinishing project (just my normal hip stuff). 

Tomorrow I'm having another ultrasound (please be my last!) to take another peek at babe's kidneys.  Apparently there was too much fluid in them last time. This is the problem with ultrasounds in general.  They see something that is really nothing and then everyone freaks out about it.  But I'm going to do it, just to ease everyone's mind.  I really feel like everything is fine.

Guess I should get started on my day!  Hope everyone starts feeling better! 

[dealic]

Every day I am taken aback by how close we are getting to meeting our baby girl! As of tomorrow, I am 31 weeks and have only 5 weeks left of work! I can't wait to be done. 

Last week I was talking about trouble at work. It was with a specific coworker. Well after that, we had a meeting about it with my boss. I felt my boss handled it very well, but could still foresee that nothing would change at work. I was very wrong, but not for a good reason. The next day, her husband had a heart attack and we have since found out that he passed away.  She is off work now, on bereavement. I don't know if she will come back right away or not.

On happier notes, my husband has a question for you all. He wants to know if other people play with their baby in utero or if we are just weird  Its become a regular event around here. She starts kicking me, and he puts his hand on my belly to feel. Then, since she will usually kick wherever you press, he will push down in other spots to see if he can get her to kick his hand. Or he will wiggle my whole belly which makes her squirm. Sometimes, we even initiate this when she isn't kicking, by trying to figure out how she is laying in my belly. I have showed him her back, and bum and such. That usually wakes her up, so its onto a session of playing. We are usually giggling by the end of it and cheering her on as she responds to our game.

[chiromama01]

dealic--I love your game with baby!  You're either not weird, or we're in the boat with you ;)

I hope all is well for everyone dealing with stress, I think as we get closer and closer, the small things are starting to get to me more, so things seem, well, magnified. I went to the mw today, and i'm still at 1cm, but now my cervix is softening, whereas before it was thick and firm, it's now thick and soft, so i'm wondering, to all of you moms who've been down this road before, is a softening cervix really an indication that birth will happen sooner rather than later or that things are progressing too quickly, or is it just another finding to put on the list???

also, my dh and i were planning a babymoon soon, hopefully 1st week of march, to fla. it's about 5 hours away.  mw said i could go once i get to 36 weeks, but not before.  I'm ok with waiting, but given the status of my cervix, would u think it safe to be away from your hospital and care providers at that time?

[justKate]

dealic, I don't think its weird or anything.  We did that a lot with DD, and she was always quick to play along.  We've tried to play with this babe but she isn't as responsive.  I'm hoping that is an indicator that her personality will be less, ah....spirited than DD's.   That sucks about your coworker's husband.  Hopefully it doesn't make things worse for you since the boss doesn't seem all that responsive.

chiro, so your MW doesn't think you should go?  Could you find a "just in case" hospital near where you're going in FL?  In case you're going to the Keys, I've had a baby there and wouldn't recommend it if there's any chance of having a preemie....

[dealic]

Kate, I am fully expecting this baby girl to be rather... spirited... My mom keeps laughing at me and saying she already sounds like me and well... I was about as demanding as a baby can be. My boss was great, but I work in a group home and she's not there on a regular basis. So she doesn't actually have much ability to change things. But I can't imagine my coworker will be in a frame of mind to care about petty things, if she comes back. Honestly, my big worry now isn't the previous drama. Its how to act around her when she's just had such a big loss. I am on cloud nine right now, being so close to meeting my baby girl that I dont' feel I have the ability to be as supportive as I normally would. I'm too far into my own little world of happiness.

A babymoon sounds lovely. My husband is on reading week soon. I wish we could do a small getaway, even for a weekend. Its not in the books but it would be so nice.

[prettyisa]

I try to play but baby usually doesn't want to play back. And my wife gets nervous because I'm poking my belly, so I have to do it in secret now...

[dealic]

Well my husband is so used to me doing weird things that he doesn't bat an eye at the poking my belly thing. I also love expressing colostrum. He glances over, sees me doing it, and says "You milking yourself again?" 

[chapluqa]

I feel my belly all the time, trying to figure out how baby is positioned at any given moment.  Just yesterday I found out I can express colostrum - it's so weird and cool to see my breasts actually in action (even if it's only a few drops). 

This week I got my thesis examiners' reports back and now I have lots of corrections and revisions to do in the next few weeks (and then I'll finally get my PhD : ), and I also got some casual work on a research project my friend is working on - so it's time to get my brain back in gear and take a break from the housewifey stuff I've been getting into lately. It's good to have work to do but I'd be lying if I said I didn't enjoy having time off from the more intellectual activities. At least it's only temporary - soon enough I'll be in full on baby mode and will probably miss the academic stuff!

[justKate]

ha ha prettyisa, my mom freaks out when I poke the baby too.  I don't think she minds. 

[chiromama01]

so we're well into the second 80hr work week for dh, and i"m about to lose my mind.  i'm exhausted and i need a break.  12-15 hours days are just more than i can handle right now, but he's never home, so i don't see how i have a choice.  my mom is ill this week and so she hasn't been able to help with dd, so i'm essentially on my own.  in addition, the search for a new assistant continues. the one i thought would work, just doesn't seem to be working out.  now i have to start over.  i'm beyond stressed and not handling things very well today.  

sorry for the vent, but ugh, i just cant seem to catch a break today.  i hope you ladies are having a better day than i am...