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post #21 of 43

Chiro, I hear you, I am losing my mind half the time with how much Hubs is gone.

post #22 of 43

I've been through the hubby working all the time thing, we have a very seasonal business and DH works 100+ hrs a week July and August, and it is completely miserable.  This is our slow time of the year business wise, and I appreciate every minute that he is home and able to help out.  

 

I had a great appointment with our midwife yesterday, measured right on, good BP, but baby still isn't truly head down, more pointed downwards on a diagonal transverse.  She said it is still early (I'm 29 wks) and third babies can take longer to get settled because there is more room in there.  Besides back pain and being annoyingly tired everything is going pretty smoothly.  Next appointment I get a supply list and then appointments every 2 weeks, getting close!

post #23 of 43

I'll try to keep up with this week!

 

All if the viruses going around are not fun, not fun at all. I just went through a full week of 2 of my kiddos with the influenza. DH was gone for a long weekend during that time too. It's only by a small miracle that I haven't gotten sick considering the fact that I shared a bed with 2 little furnaces while DH was gone.

 

Night sweats. Luckily I don't have to deal with those. I had to deal with that after my frist was born but I think it was all of the fluids that they pumped into my body during labor. That's the only time that I was swollen too. After hearing all of your stories, I'm hoping to avoid that all together!

 

Those of you with Dh's working long hours. I don't envy you. When my DH is gone or work, it's so tough. I am such a partner parent that even just his presence at home makes me feel better.

 

AFM - I am soooo overwhelmed right now. I've been pretty lax about getting things done. Now I'm fretting over what I'd all like to have done before the babe is here. I'm currently 32 or 33 weeks respectively. We haven't even settled on a name. I still have my favorites Julia for a girl and Henry for a boy. Dh isn't on board and anything he suggests is so completely of my list of liking that I have to hold back gasps.

post #24 of 43

Ugh, chiro and Courtney.  I relish the time without DH, but only because its so rare these days.  Three years ago he was gone overnight twice a week and it sucked.  Not so much before DD was born (that was fine) but after she arrived I was pretty miserable about it.  Sorry.  It sucks.

 

I finally made a chiropractor appt for next week, so of course I'm feeling better.  Sort of sucks because my insurance doesn't cover it at all, so I hate to go if I'm feeling okay.  But I guess it will be good to see what she thinks of my pelvic alignment or whatever.  I'm driving a little ways but its a crunchy family-owned practice--they don't vax, homeschool their 4 kids, and the wife has had a HBAC.  Anxious to see what she thinks.

 

32ish weeks now and my next appt is in two weeks (four weeks from my last appt).  My guess is we'll go every two weeks after 34, then once a week at 38, 39, and 40.  Not sure if I'm up for all of that, but we'll see.  No call from radiology or my OB office about my follow up U/S on babe's kidneys, so I guess there's no emergency going on.  Something to ask at my next appt I guess.

 

I have to say that pregnancy is not super easy on me.  I'm sort of surprised.  I just feel fat and awkward all of the time.  I guess that's normal, but geez.  I don't have that much to do other than be pregnant so it seems like it should be simple.  Not sure if this time is harder than last because I'm a little older or because I have a toddler now, or if work was a healthy distraction.... anyway, not a complaint, just sort of doing a brain dump.  redface.gif

 

 

So.  Question.  How soon should I start:

 

1. Prepping freezer meals?  I don't want them to get funky.  Babe probably won't arrive for another eight weeks.  I'm going to shoot for 10 meals.

 

2. Washing baby's clothing/linens?  Again, don't want them to get funky.  If I do wash them before the dressers are done, they'll be sitting in a plastic bin until they're finished.

 

3. Airing out the car seat and bouncy chair?  These are two new items that need to off-gas.  They just take up space, so I don't want them in the way.  Plus the longer they're out the more interesting they'll become to DD, who loves to climb on such things.

 

 

 

post #25 of 43
Hi all! Sorry to hear of all those sweaty nights! That's sucky greensad.gif

I'm doing well this week. I was meant to have my last driving lesson on Weds evening, but I was so exhausted at work all day I called and rescheduled. I'm sooo not used to having some kind of appt or obligation every night of the week! Prenatal classes, driving, chiro, mw, etc etc. I'm a total homebody, so me no likey! I like to just be at home, cooking, reading, knitting, having a bath, watching trash tv. wink1.gif

This weekend I hope to finish up painting our master bedroom.

Hope you all have a great weekend. And those of you missing your partners, I hope you're reunited soon! smile.gif
post #26 of 43

Man, it sounds like everyone is having similar weeks to mine!

 

I've been switching from hot to cold every night which is making it really hard to fall asleep! Dh has been working pretty much every night this week, which means he then sleeps all day and I never see him. I had a scare on Tuesday with possible early contractions, or at least painful crampy non stop braxton hicks ones. Midwife had me run out to get cal-mag which has been helping, but I guess my activity level has been way too much and I need to settle down. Easier said then done when I'm the only one here!! Thankfully last night dh decided to stay home from his meet ( he helps coach girls gymnastics and the season is almost over) if I agreed to sit down and not do anything. My plan is to just make it to 36 weeks ( that's my safe time after which I can birth at home) but I feel like with all this warming up my body's been doing it won't be long after that. I think dd's sick again. Trying to decide this morning if she's good to go to school today. She tends to get a bit of a cough with allergies, which I think this is. But I'm feeling a bit poorly today too. Frick. I'm looking forward to having dh home tonight and relaxing. I was going to go to yoga, but I'm thinking sleep sounds better!! 

 

Hope everyone's littles start feeling better soon!

post #27 of 43

Playing with the baby- This is probably my favorite thing to do during the day. My mom will sit there and laugh at me on her lunch break because that is when both DSS and I play with her. It may be weird but it's sooo much fun!

 

Colostrum- About two weeks ago my breasts actually leaked. I was so amazed. So far that is the only time I have leaked but I am able to express colostrum at any time now. It's so interesting. 

 

AFM: DH starts his new job Monday and he is so excited about it. We had to wait two weeks after he was initially hired. His new employer wanted the medical records from his ACL reconstruction on his left knee (July 2011) and there was some horrible communication between the doctor's office and the employer. But it is all settled and Monday is the day!

 

We took DSS to the doctor yesterday. He has a cough that we haven't been able to get rid of for about four days. Found out he has bronchitis and she believes that he has allergy induced asthma. I feel so sorry for DSS if it isn't one thing, it's another. Since his allergy testing (blood work) he has been very anxious about going to the doctor. I just hope that this can get cleared up and he can have a normal week next week.

 

Tomorrow we are going to try and get Eleanor's room painted.... But we will see how that goes. DH is notorious for hating change.... as is DSS. But my mom is off work this weekend and she is bound and determined to get this room ready asap. I'll post pics of the progress if we make some. Now I am off to study some archaeology. Have a great day, ladies!

post #28 of 43
Kate—I don’t think so, either! I mean, I always like a little massage, right? I’d put out the things to air now (more time can’t hurt) and I’ve already started washing baby clothes. I figure I may as well get that done in stages since nothing bad is going to happen to them in the interim, and I won’t want to do it later. Hoping for good advice on the freezer stuff, since I’ve been wondering that, too.

Chiro—ugh. I can’t imagine. I’ve gotten so lazy (last night I made my wife do absolutely everything--turn on the tv, put in a movie, get me water, move the dogs. And she wasn’t even watching it with me!). I think she’s going to break soon and tell me to stop being ridiculous, but I’m so grateful that she does these dumb little things. I hope you get everything sorted very soon!

Sorry to hear about the hot-cold stuff, everyone! I seem to mostly be the same temp as usual (cold), but now there are too many pillows in bed and I get frustrated trying to turn from one side to the other in my sleep.

Lately I just feel like every single moment needs to be devoted to something important, but I don’t want to do ANYTHING. We met with our tax accountant (my taxes are a complicated mess, unfortunately, so this year we called in professional help!) and he encouraged us to refinance our house and put DP on the title and mortgage. And to set up a living trust. And to redo our wills, powers of attorney, and all sorts of other crap along with the second parent adoption we have to do. So now I feel like I need to find time in between the breastfeeding class and birth classes that we’re required to take to use the birthing center to find a lawyer and do all this paperwork. And we’re buying a minivan from my aunt, so that needs to be set up, too. Oh, and baby showers. And my dad wants to come and fix things around the house. And I’m called to jury duty on top of it all! I feel like my head is going to explode. All I want to do is cross stitch…
post #29 of 43
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Kate—I don’t think so, either! I mean, I always like a little massage, right? I’d put out the things to air now (more time can’t hurt) and I’ve already started washing baby clothes. I figure I may as well get that done in stages since nothing bad is going to happen to them in the interim, and I won’t want to do it later. Hoping for good advice on the freezer stuff, since I’ve been wondering that, too.
Chiro—ugh. I can’t imagine. I’ve gotten so lazy (last night I made my wife do absolutely everything--turn on the tv, put in a movie, get me water, move the dogs. And she wasn’t even watching it with me!). I think she’s going to break soon and tell me to stop being ridiculous, but I’m so grateful that she does these dumb little things. I hope you get everything sorted very soon!
Sorry to hear about the hot-cold stuff, everyone! I seem to mostly be the same temp as usual (cold), but now there are too many pillows in bed and I get frustrated trying to turn from one side to the other in my sleep.
Lately I just feel like every single moment needs to be devoted to something important, but I don’t want to do ANYTHING. We met with our tax accountant (my taxes are a complicated mess, unfortunately, so this year we called in professional help!) and he encouraged us to refinance our house and put DP on the title and mortgage. And to set up a living trust. And to redo our wills, powers of attorney, and all sorts of other crap along with the second parent adoption we have to do. So now I feel like I need to find time in between the breastfeeding class and birth classes that we’re required to take to use the birthing center to find a lawyer and do all this paperwork. And we’re buying a minivan from my aunt, so that needs to be set up, too. Oh, and baby showers. And my dad wants to come and fix things around the house. And I’m called to jury duty on top of it all! I feel like my head is going to explode. All I want to do is cross stitch…

 

 

 

I've hit the "overwhelmed with stuff to do and I feel like crap" barrier as well. I don't have near as much on my plate, but yes it's so exhausting to think sometimes! As for jury duty, I would have your midwife or OB write an excuse for you. At this far along during your pregnancy, that's a bit much. 

post #30 of 43

I had my ultrasound and follow-up appt today.  The baby is measuring 5 pounds which is about 3wks ahead.  The OB and I talked about how this compares to DS as he never measured that far ahead.  He thinks that the ultrasound from DS was off a little as he weighed 8 pounds 6.5 ounces at 37wks.  Heartbeat was strong at 158 and moving around alot.  As for my cervix, it was about 2.8-2.9 two weeks ago and has shrink to 2.3-2.5 today.  It is still closed at the cerclage and on the internal exam the cerclage was holding tight still.  We had a talk today about c-section as the baby is measuring so big.  The end of December he was saying that if I made it 37wks then anytime after that we could do a c-section.  Today he talked about if I started having contractions at 35wks and the baby was still measuring big he would be okay with doing a c-section.  I told him I was hoping to make it to 39wks.  I guess only time will tell.  I go back again in 2wks for another ultrasound and appt.  I suppose I really should be working on getting the nursery together.

post #31 of 43

remark--a 5lb baby, though measuring ahead, doesn't sound too big to deliver.  Even if you go into labor at 35 weeks, and he's large for 35 weeks, is he still too large to deliver vaginally at 35 weeks?  I guess I'm a little confused, we're you more comfortable with a c-section or was that just your provider's take on things? 

 

for all those who have "hit the wall" and are overwhelmed...OMG, i'm so there.  Hit the wall yesterday, total meltdown mode tonight. Dh stopped by tonight (between his regular work day from 8 to 5 and now his extra work (involuntary, I might ad) from 6 till who knows when)  and i completely broke down.  I vented about how this potential new job has my whole life on hold and how I feel like my entire world could be turned upside down with one email from the feds.  i feel like i have no stability, and I can't even make decisions for myself, with regards to my practice, etc.  I told him I'm terrified about being on my own with 2 kids for 6 months while he's in training.  He said he didn't want to terrify me, and I responded with...well wouldn't you be terrified???? 6 MONTHS!!!!! It's a LONG FREAKING time!!!!!! I'm terrified I can't handle it all, and I'm even more terrified that at some point i'm going to hate my kids, my life and him.  I'm terrified that I'll never get my body back, that I'll never get another full nights sleep, I'll never see the bottom of the laundry hamper, and I'll never get another dinner together without ordering takeout. (seriously, we drive by outback, and my daughter points and asks if they've made our dinner yet...)  It felt good (and feels good) to vent. to finally let it all out without caring how it would make him feel.  selfish, maybe, but necessary at this point.  So here I sit, after shipping dd off to nana's, and sending dh back to work, with my guacamole, crackers, and cheese stick for dinner, and yes, a small glass of red wine.  (might I add, to whomever invented the reduced fat cheese stick, and to whomever purchased it, it's an insult to cheese...yuck!) So i'm going to enjoy my evening alone and wish all of you ladies, whom I am SO very grateful to have in my life, a wonderful, stress free evening...

 

and thanks for letting me vent, twice in a row...

post #32 of 43

A hard week over here too ... I've had a sudden onset of pelvic pain which seems to be getting worse every day. I am terrified of not being able to get it resolved and am so worried it's just going to keep getting worse and worse. Ugh.

 

I have seen a physio and she is optimistic, and has given me exercises to do but they hurt like hell (she said that would be normal for a while) and no improvement yet. And I have an appointment on Monday with my excellent massage therapist.

 

I am off work next week and it can't come soon enough! But in the meantime it looks like I have a birth to attend tonight and it is the last thing I want to do. I'm worried about being exhausted and moving the wrong way and doing damage that will be even harder to reverse.

 

Poor poor me.

 

Forcing myself to be thankful for: happy little baby squirms, an A on my dental check up today, two more days of work, health insurance that covers all the appointments I'm booking, my dear partner.

post #33 of 43

Chiro: It would not be a guarented c-section at 35 weeks but a possibity depending on the size he thinks the baby is measuring.  With DS I was pushing for about 12 hours before the on-call doctor showed up and then insisted on doing vaginal with suction.  It was a horrible experience and one I never want to go through again.  He was 37wks and weighed 8 pounds 6.5 ounces at birth.  There was concern of shoulder dystocia after she had started the delivery.  She also had to use suction at full force to get him out.  DS didn't cry for a while and suffered a fractured clavicle.  He also ended up back in the hospital the day after we brought him home due to a lethal level of Bilirubin due to the bruise. I am really afraid of having another birth like that.  I am really hoping that this one can stay in place until 39wks. 

 

I hope that the extra time that your DH has to put in will be coming to a close soon and that you can relax and have some well deserved "me" time. 

 

Take care everyone.

post #34 of 43

remark that sounds terrible! I hope which ever way it goes it turns out better than your previous birth!!!!  so sorry to hear about that! Good luck keeping baby in and keep us posted!!

post #35 of 43

Wow, another week MIA, this time because I was in the hospital due to stress....really need to learn to let go of some of these responsibilities/expectations :p

 

I'm home (and SO grateful) now, but baby has dropped, so I can't imagine I have too much longer before the relaxation is over. Hopefully I'll get through the next week so I can make up the two exams that I missed while I was out last week. And then Monday I'm going to the P.O. to send out my gift exchange!!! :)

 

Sounds like everyone's having a bad week, thankfully no illness here, but on a college campus everything always comes around eventually :p

post #36 of 43

Zuzu - I hope that you are feeling better. I cannot imagine the level of stress you are under with having to attend classes. I'd never survive. We all have our challenges I suppose.

 

I did get our linen closet and girly hair stuff organized today and the dishes are washed, dried, and put away. Sometimes miracles do happen! If I can keep this up I won't feel so overwhelmed.

post #37 of 43

zuzu - Sorry that you were in the hospital, hope you can try an relax this week and jst take it one day at a time. 

 

I finally got the cirb together yesterday with the help of my DS.  DH was sleeping as he works third shift.  Still have to organize the room and get the clothes washed.  DH has to bring the mattress up and the box with the bibs and burp clothes in.  My best friend a small gathering last night for me with my mom and sister and her mom, sister and friend.  It was nice and I got a couple gift certificates and some things off my registery. 

 

Take care everyone.

post #38 of 43

I've had a boy name and a girl name in my mind for the past 2 years and can't get them out of my head. Unfortunately DH doesn't like them. I don't know what to do besides ignore it and avoid settling on names.

post #39 of 43

uggh sorry for hard weeks illnesses and hospital visits.

 

I have been working on reducing our expenses, the internet is what I am haggling with right now. Thankfully next month is the last month of our contractual 2 year obligation with busch gardens so that will be an extra $60.00 a month and I am hoping to knock off at least $50 from our internet bill (and we have to keep it, the kids need it for school and I will not be able to have them use the library, not with having to drag the other kids along and paying to print stuff out.)  I have told Hubs we need to chart every single expense for the next 3 months to see where the small amount of money coming is is going and then figure out from there if we can knock off some more spending. Things are pretty bare bones in the spending department so I am not sure how much we can save that way. Bills are all pretty much as low as they can go except for the 2 mentioned. We shall see. We have even begun discussing if we should pull the girls from their fancy private school, while it doesn't cost money it is affecting Hubs time at home with the family.  I guess that will depend what we can find in the way of public schools.

 

On the baby front I am feeling pretty settled I have my MUST haves (clothes, diapers, car seat my boobs already making colostrum), names for boy or girl.  Hubs assurance that he will take off at least 4 days and for the first 2 weeks drive the girls to and from school. (which means he will be home by about 6:30pm at the latest).

 

The baby did just head butt my cervix which felt awesome. (sarcasm)

post #40 of 43

this has been a hard week here.  i've written my post and had it deleted 3 times now, so hopefully this one will stick.  DH and i had a huge fight last week, but i think we came to a conclusion.  i've just been feeling really underappreciated, unsupported, etc.  he of course doesn't see any of it.  finally we came to the conclusion that we just need to communicate better.  i need to ask for help and he needs to ask if there's anything he can do to help.  i'm just feeling very overwhelmed!  the house is a mess, but i'm so exhausted all the time that i can't seem to get anything done.  i've been trying to work on a cleaning schedule for myself, but in order to do that the house needs to be clean to start with.  i've been working a lot of weekends which doesn't help. 

 

i came down with some kind of horrible bug over the weekend.  thursday night i was up all night with the worst heartburn i have ever experience, and none of my usually cures seemed to work.  i ended up moving to the couch around 2am hoping that sleeping in a semi-sitting position would help, but it didn't do much.  i probably got a total of 3 hours of sleep that night.  i had to work friday, so i managed to get DD and i up fed and ready, but of course as soon as i put my toothbrush in my mouth everything came back up.  i was hoping it was just a case of morning sickness, so i didn't bother to call in.  dropped DD off at the sitter and went to work.  felt good for about an hour but then got heartburn again mixed with nausea, exhaustion, a headache, and a sore neck.  finally called my boss and she was able to get someone to come in and work for me friday and saturday.  i was able to get some sleep friday afternoon before DH went and picked up DD.  i'm finally feeling better today thankfully.  felt about the same yesterday as i did on friday, but with a little diarrhea thrown in the mix which was real fun.  i was planning on cleaning and starting to paint DD's room today, but i am just so tired and now she has to go down for a nap which usually lasts 2-3 hours, so i won't be able to do anything until she wakes up at least. 

 

my next appt is on tuesday and i'm thinking about having him check me because i just have this feeling that i am going to go early.  no real reason why i feel this way though.  i think i'm just probably anxious over the whole having to give birth again and not feeling prepared at all.  it feels like if i was all set and ready to welcome this baby now, that he would be 2 weeks late, but if i don't have anything done, he'll be really early. 

 

on a happier note, some friends are throwing us a coed baby shower on saturday!!  i'm excited because my mom's coming up from san diego for the weekend so i'll be able to see her as well as some friends i haven't seen in a while.  hope you all are doing better than i have been!

 

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