I just got a call from my DD's kindy teacher. Apparently my daughter took her bright red play lipstick into school today and shared with all her friends during their afternoon recess. The teacher thought the whole thing was hilarious and took the opportunity to talk about the differences between lipstick and lip gloss (the girls thought it was lip gloss) and to talk about how it feels etc etc. She also brought up how the lipstick doesn't really come off and how important it is to only use makeup when an adult knows that that it really shouldn't go to school. She was very nice about it and really just found it funny and cute so there's no problem with the teacher or school.
But I have no idea how to approach it at home.
I plan to reiterate what her teacher said. The issue is she keeps sneaking the stuff. She's got to have a stash of it somewhere because every few days or so she will come out and have makeup smeared across her face. I really don't mind her playing with her play makeup but she doesn't ask. I need her to ask because sometimes it just isn't a good time to put on makeup and she leaves it out and her little brothers find it and eat it. I pointed this out to her several times yesterday alone and still she ignored me and took it to school.
I'm really bothered by this. There are some things she just doesn't listen to me about. Makeup is one of them. No matter how many times I've talked to her about asking and explained why she needs to ask, she doesn't do it. Using toilet paper is another, she will not wipe her butt clean (TMI, I'm sure, I'm sorry). Every single time I explain to her about how unhealthy it is, yeast infections, bladder infections, etc, she still won't do it. If her little brothers get angry and hit her, she'll just sit there and take it and scream in their face which only makes the issue worse. No matter how many times I tell her to just get up and walk away, she won't. For the life of me, I don't understand WHY she continues these things.
So I guess what I'm asking is, what now? I've tried talking and explanations. Its not doing anything. What happens now? More specifically, what do I do with the makeup at school situation?