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[Knitting Mama]

Originally Posted by folkgirl 

 In the past I've dealt with major jaundice + low milk supply/slow weight gain, so this is no just a preference but something that's really important to our nursing relationship.

I know how low supply goes, too. I had breast surgery 12 years ago and I didn't make anywhere near a full supply with my first. I am really hoping that what I hear from other BFAR ladies is true, and that their supplies got bigger the more kids they have. But I will be relying on my husband a lot as well, in hopes of getting my supply up ASAP when this baby comes.

[lakeruby]

That Christmas present analogy really resonates with me-- I love the anticipation!  We are not planning an U/S, so really couldn't find out anyway. Plus, I like hearing everyone's guesses :)  This is our first, and we have names that we like for both genders, and I don't want to dress my child by their gender (i.e. pink or blue or dresses, etc) so I am very comfortable not knowing until the birth (even though in most ways I do consider myself to be a planner. I live by my lists! :)   I know people who have waited a little while after giving birth to find out (when possible) and just enjoyed bonding with their new offspring before learning the gender-- I would love to have that experience.

[ilovetchotchkes]

Originally Posted by lakeruby 

That Christmas present analogy really resonates with me-- I love the anticipation!  We are not planning an U/S, so really couldn't find out anyway. Plus, I like hearing everyone's guesses :)  This is our first, and we have names that we like for both genders, and I don't want to dress my child by their gender (i.e. pink or blue or dresses, etc) so I am very comfortable not knowing until the birth (even though in most ways I do consider myself to be a planner. I live by my lists! :)   I know people who have waited a little while after giving birth to find out (when possible) and just enjoyed bonding with their new offspring before learning the gender-- I would love to have that experience.

LOL and i'm the kid who would dig through my mother's closet to find my presents.... LOL! I'm so impatient.... 

We decided today that we're going to find out and keep it a secret between the 3 of us. (Me, DH and Mr Squishy) 

Edited by ilovetchotchkes - 2/20/12 at 3:59pm

[Sol_y_Paz]

Originally Posted by ilovetchotchkes 
LOL and i'm the kid who would dig through my mother's closet to find my presents.... 

Me too.  They would be hidden in various places and I would drop hints about it.  It was made into a game.  And then I had relatives who would "wrap" the gifts in a bag with tissue paper...  Now that was way too easy.

[intime0]

hahah!  It's funny how people are with presents.  LOL

Aimee, I'm BFAR. Quickly, so as not to derail the convo, I had 2 low milk....used SNS.  Last birth, NO PROBLEM.  Full supply.  But I started taking DPD from DAY ONE.  You should start a thread.  LOL

[Knitting Mama]

Maybe I'll start stocking up on DPD. It's SO EXPENSIVE to get here though.

[intime0]

Aimee, inhousepharmacy.biz  I start ordering about halfway through the pregnancy to stock up. It saves money to buy in bigger purchases.

IT WORKS.  I noticed that with my 4 year old. Just as I was starting to build my supply he decided that the SNS was too much work and stopped nursing.  that was hard.

[Knitting Mama]

Yeah, that is where I got it last time. It's still so expensive for us, though. 

[intime0]

Yeah, it's about $100 a pop. But we did the calculations and it actually ends up being cheaper than formula is per month.  AND if you factor in the health benefits to mother and child...well...you get it.  LOL

Too bad America can't be like more places and let insurance cover it.  (You CAN get it compounded but that's even more expensive and still not usually covered.)

[Ninetales]

We'll see how I feel on the day of, but I think I've come to terms with the fact that this time I just feel differently and want to know.  If I have any hesitation we'll have the tech write it down, but now when I think about finding out I just feel excited and not stressed.  If I consistently feel that way leading up to my next appointment I'll probably ask to know.

[folkgirl]

Originally Posted by Cecilia's Mama 

I know how low supply goes, too. I had breast surgery 12 years ago and I didn't make anywhere near a full supply with my first. I am really hoping that what I hear from other BFAR ladies is true, and that their supplies got bigger the more kids they have. But I will be relying on my husband a lot as well, in hopes of getting my supply up ASAP when this baby comes.

I hope that you see that larger supply, too. I am not BFAR but I do have PCOS and suspect I have less glandular tissue than average. I have been able to fully nurse both of my children (with the exception of a really, really rocky first 6 weeks with my oldest where we almost lost the entire BF relationship) but it's definitely not something I mess around with. I am really hoping that delayed cord clamping may help us avoid severe jaundice this time because I would love to have one less thing to worry about, but I know there are no guarantees.