I have the dynamic of a son in the middle of 4 sisters. Very often they all play well together, but more and more, recently, they've been disparaging each others' interests, which makes me sad.
My son wants to play duelling light sabers (they're foam), or spy laser tag (light up thingies), and his sisters' play is different. Especially he's at the juncture of his regular playmates (older sisters) are in 6th and 8th grade, and are in algebra and geometry, respectively. They have a lot less free time than they used to for play, which they are generally ok with, but he is really struggling.
I have the difficulty that I have little interest in the thing he wants to do (although I love to get going with the foam light sabers) and he wants to talk about whichever Lego enhancements he made to some space ship or something, usually laser cannons, etc.
SOOO, any thoughts about this? His brain goes 100 miles per hour--it's the telling about it that he's slow on. His academics "look OK" in school; they don't look as stellar as I know his brain is (trying to be unbiased here). Hoping that there will be opportunities to find out the direction of his excellence so he will feel engaged, excited, and interested as he gets older.
How do I respect his interest even when it is not interesting to me? How do I help his sisters not disparage his interests and help my kids come up with fair ways of alternating who chooses the game they play? It all seems related.