Do I need to be worried over Child Protective services ? - Page 2

[MOMMAame]

Thank you all for the advice and help. Yes we have a key hook next to the door with 2 keys that are identical. I think my nerves are really kicking in. I can't stop clean and safety checking everything so that if I do get a picky visit there should be nothing she finds wrong. Now our basement has a entry way but we have a second slide lock on that one. My problem is; is the basement is full of boxes and junk we haven't took to good will yet and car parts and tools because my husband is a mechanic and is currently fixing a car. But there is a gate at the top of the stairs and if she's smart enough to get through that we have a cover for the door knob that is child proofed. If the CPS people do look around will that be a problem ? Should I try to clean the basement too ? Ive never dealt with CPS before and never thought I would EVER deal with them and to be blunt it's freaking the hell out of me. And I feel embarrassed and feel like a crappy mom I know everyone has been so nice and supportive of me being proactive its just it's my child and I want to prove them that yes I am glad they take things seriously enough to visit but I want them to see it was yes my fault but I took care of the problem. And hopefully NEVER see them again. It really scares the shit out of me that these people have the authority to take someone's child away. Sorry y'all I just can't believe this happened and as a mom and a protective mom I'm going into panic attach mode because I'm cleaning everything organizing everything multiple times lol as crazy as it sounds. Well I have an early morning and hopefully no visits but If I do I'm going to calm down and be prepared to hear and understand what they have to say. So I'm going to calm my heart rate down and try key word try to get a good nights rest.  Thank you all again y'all have been a huge help and I apperechiate everything from the bottom of my heart a bigg thank you from me to y'all have a good night and God bless. 

[Mom31]

No- I really don't think you need to worry about boxes in the basement- your child is not allowed down there and you have it protected so she won't go down there- I would focus on the parts of the house she is in.

I truly feel you will be ok. I can't imagine what you are going thru- it sucks.

[AbbyGrant]

Don't worry about the basement.  I know I would probably be freaking out too if CPS was called on me because that is something I would never ever expect to have to deal with.   But trust me when I say they are not looking to remove children from their parents, especially for minor issues that have been addressed or for cluttered basements.  I know several people in social services, and from what I've heard, the bar is pretty low when it comes to keeping your children.  I hope you were able to relax and get a good nights sleep.  

[kathymuggle]

I agree with Mom 31 and AbbyGrant. 

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I know all sates are areas are different.

But, one of my daycare girls had many, many dangerous run ins with hospitals and other dangers before CPS stepped in.   She got out of her house and ran across a very, very busy city street in her underwear on Easter morning.  The police got quite a few calls for that one.  She got out of her house a few times and was brought back by the police without either parent even noticing she was missing.  And, finally, she got into her Grandfathers prescription medicines and spent almost a week in the hospital before CPS went to the house. 

CPS was very nice and helpful to them.  They were told to find a bigger apartment with more rooms.  They sent two women to help the mom organize all the girl's clothes, and the ladies spent two full days there helping the parents get themselves together.  They helped them install locks on all the exterior doors and childproof the pantry.  

There was never any talk of taking the kids away from them.    They were just there to help the overwhelmed parents get some things organized so they could manage better.

[MOMMAame]

Thank y'all so much. I didn't get a visit today so who knows maybe they have more important issues to deal with than mine. Or it's not sever enought to come have a visit I have no idea but I am thankful I found this website because y'all have been such a support system and have calmed me down a lot and I thank y'all so much !  I think I would have lost my mind if I didn't have everyone to talk to and get advice. Because my family isn't one to talk about stuff like this because they would frown highly down on you. So I felt kinda alone except for y husband who I know was trying to make me feel better by telling me everything will be okay. 

[MOMMAame]

We got a visit today which I'm glad because it was at lease on my husbands day off but she was really nice and kind and she said everything looked perfect 

and that she would like to stop by again to see my daughter awake and social because she had to wake her up from her nap too look at her room. But it went extremely well she looked at the basement and didn't say anything since we have taken a lot of precaution for her not to be able to go down stairs to the basement. I am so relieved 😄 so wasn't expecting a cps visit for valentines but at least it went great. Happy Valentines everyone 🌹💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💜🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹💘

[Mom31]

so glad to hear!!!