Can't shake weird feeling that this birth won't go like the others..... « Back to Group Discussions

[DeChRi]

I have felt this way from the start...is that normal pregnancy weirdness or intuition (which I generally have very little of, lol). 

I am due end of April, so am only 29 weeks.  Baby 1 was uneventful and came at 41w 3d (8lb, 2oz)....Baby 2 came pretty much eventfully at 38w 6d (8lb, 9oz),.....Baby 3 came at 38w 2d (8lb, 7oz) totally uneventfully. 

All pregnancies have been completely uneventful. I have ran, jumped, weight lifted, boxed, until the end of each, so I have been deemed to have really sturdy pregnancies.  The thought of an early baby never crossed my mind.  With #3 I had some spotting at 34 wks so I left hcp check me and I was 3.5cm then. Even then she waited another month and I was 8cm before I was sure I was in labor.

But this time, it all seems a bit off.  I can't explain it.  I was sick until 15 weeks, which I never was before.  I feel great now, but 10 days was FLOORED with contractions out of no where....like took me to my knees, started in the low front, peaks around 30 seconds and have reached around to my back, lasted 45-60 sec, 2 min apart, incredibly painful, and took 20 min to stop after getting in tub.  I was totally convinced I was going to have a 28 weeks baby on my floor.  And I am a total non-alarmist.  Dr said if I felt fine after, not to worry.

That Freaked me out.  Baby dropped low (TMI - with my babies, when the drop, because my cervix tucks behind them, I can actually feel their head in front of my cervix...I thought I was nuts until last pregnancy when hpc was like...hey, yep, that is her head!") and I can feel her head there. 

I am still moving and shaking hard, but have this weird feeling that this baby will come early and throw me for a loop.  And this is the ONE time I reallllly need her stay put until April 20th, lol.  I am not too worried since I have good sized babies, and I don't feel like anything is "wrong", but I almost feel like I want the dr to check me once to tell me I am all closed up and to relax.

Anyone else never ever been hit with paranoid in past pregnancies, then suddenly get a gut feeling that this one will different?  I feel a little crazy for feeling so concerned, but wondering how much is pregnancy paranoia and how much is my intuition saying 'get checked out' in case I need to tone it down a bit.  I cant quite get to my cervix or I would check it myself. Stupid belly in the way. :)

[adoremybabe]

Hmmmm. I think that there is something to be said about intuition. Mine is a little different in that from the very beginning of my 3rd pregnancy I KNEW I was going to have a baby that was at least 10 lbs. I did and from the very beginning of this one I feel like I am going to have a smaller baby possibly my smallest baby. We shall see if I am right.

Another thought that I have is that if you really feel like this babe will come early and have already experienced those preterm contractions, you might want to take it a bit easy. Especially since you'd prefer that this babe stays put for a while yet. Just my 2 cents.

[chiromama01]

De-- I'm so glad you brought this up. I've been feeling the same way.  We had all kinds of preterm labor scares with dd, and yet i NEVER truly felt like she was coming early. (she was 42 weeks, 9lbs) with this one, though, i've felt like he will come early since i was about 28 weeks, and at 29 i started with contractions, and sure enough was dilated (just to 1) at my next visit.  I am taking it much easier, but i still feel like we wont see far beyond 36 weeks.  I don't know why, but it's just a feeling I can't shake.  So i guess we won't have confirmation till the littles decide to make their grand entrance, but I know how you feel.  Also, I'm with adoremybaby, maybe you should take it a little easier!! 

[thomatuttle]

yes, this one definitely feels different from the last time around!  this whole pregnancy i have felt that something would be "off" with this one.  i don't know if it was because this one is a little bit of a surprise or not.  we were planning on trying to get pregnant in september in the hopes of having a baby at the end of the school year, but this little guy decided he wanted to be born sooner.  i just don't think i was really prepared for the whole thing so my brain has been off this whole time.  i told DH he other night that i think he'll be born early, but DH thinks he'll be late.  i think i'm going to have my OB check me on tuesday just because i have been feeling off for a few days and have been having lots of BH's.

[DeChRi]

Rational Me know calming it down would be the cautious thing to do.  I struggle to be still though...professionally I personal train for a living, and exercise is not only my hobby, but right now it is also my sanity, keeps my back and hips from hurting, etc.  If I Knew something was off I would totally, of course, cut back to whatever I needed to in order to make sure baby made a safe, well cooked arrival.  But I feel like I would like a once over from my Dr to tell me if that is the case.  I have, admittedly, been using workouts as my source of stress relief the last couple months and while I feel great, probably should make sure I get in more rest than I do. 

[justKate]

I would listen to your intuition and slow it down. 

I feel like this babe will be different from my first, but I don't have strong feelings about the birth.  Maybe when it gets closer to that time?  Sucks that you can't reach your cervix.  I can barely reach mine as of two weeks ago--I think because everything is so swollen in there (hormones?) that i can't get my fingers in. I was hoping to be able to check next month too, but looks like it won't happen.

I hope you're able to rest a bit more and keep babe in until its the right time for both of you.