Okay, so adoption has just now come on the table as a serious option for both me and DH. We had a rocky time of trying for bio kids. After a very easy first pregnancy I ended up having to transport from a home birth to the hospital where I ended up with pitocin and an epidural....but baby turned out fine. I then ended up back in the hospital with an eclamptic seizure the next week. Fast forward a year and a half and I had three miscarriages in ten months time...a chemical pregnancy, an unexplained loss, and a blighted ovum. Then last week I ended up in the ER...hemorrhaging from complications from the last miscarriage and ending up with an emergency D&C.
Needless to say, DH is terrified of us trying again for a bio kid anytime in the near future!!
Adoption was always something I'd thought of since my days of working with orphans and abandoned babies in Romania but it wasn't something that was really on my DH's radar...till now. We are looking into adopting either internationally from a Spanish or Romanian speaking country (as I am multi-lingual) or into fostering to adopt.
I have a couple questions now and will probably think of many more as time goes by!!
First, do foster care programs/adoption agencies discriminate against someone with say a nose piercing or dreads? I don't currently have either, but was planning on getting both this year...but I will hold off if that will negatively affect us getting placements.
Also, we don't have our son vaccinated at all and we didn't do anything more with our cat past the ones necessary to adopt her...and I've heard that they will ask about both kid and pet vaccinations.
We also plan to move into an RV in the future to travel the US...and eventually we plan on international travel/living...would we have to hold off on that till all adoptions were finalized?
We currently live (the three of us, our cat, and a fish) in a nice 3 bed/2 bath three year old house in a small neighborhood of a smallish town near a big city, know a lot of our neighbors, are plugged into a cool, non-judgemental missional community type church, and have a reasonable amount of debt (mortgage, one smallish student loan, and a decent chunk of medical debt...but that's it). We own one vehicle outright and lease the other. DH has worked for the same company for 5 1/2 years (since just before we married) and I've been a SAHM since our son was born 2 1/2 years ago...and was a nanny before that. Though I am the one with the college degree DH is tech skilled and can earn more than I could easily. So we have a good, stable, typical life...would we be locked into that till adoption(s) were finalized at least?