How do you handle it when your older child hits your younger child?
My DDs are 2 and 4. My 4yo hits my 2yo when she does not get her way. Example: 2yo called the escalator in the Corduroy book "stairs" and my 4yo slapped her on the back pretty hard. My 2yo wouldn't give her special dolly to my 4yo to put on the high chair, so she slapped her on the top of the head.
My 4yo has been becoming okay with time-out- her fits of extreme rage aren't as common or as bad as they were previously.. but I'm worried that shutting her in her room isn't healthy for her. Sometimes though, my 2yo needs a break and if my 4yo doesn't have time to cool off and think about what she did, she will just continue. If she's in a time out, we at least get a break from the hitting for a couple of hours. They'll have arguments at most.
4yo is in time out coloring in her room and 2yo is sitting on the couch reading Corduroy.
I guess I'm learning to get her to make (temporary) peace with her sister.. but what will stop the hitting altogether, or for the most part? Curb it, at least... I know that sibling squabbles are inevitable but c'mon... I wish she'd stop hitting her sister? I'm sure her sister feels the same way.
What's in your toolkit?
"Hands are not for hitting" "People are for loving, not for hitting" etc don't work. Are there any books I could read to her?