DS is 20 months. I have always nursed him to sleep, both for naps and at bedtime. When he was a baby I would occasionally work in the evenings or go out and DH would be able to bring him down with a bottle of pumped milk, as well as bring him down for naps during the day if he had him alone and I was elsewhere or at work.
However, after some recent months of me always being the one to bring DS to sleep, it stopped working for DH to do it, and the last several times DH was alone with DS he could not get him to sleep no matter what. DS would scream and cry and complain and ask for me. Each time I came home DH was worn out and felt defeated and useless.
BTW DS has been in daycare since he was one and the daycare woman was also not able to get him to sleep and eventually we had to switch that he only goes there mornings and naps at home.
I am getting kind of tired of him being utterly and completely dependent on nursing to sleep. I wish that other people could help him fall asleep besides me, but lately he adamantly refuses anyone but me, and anything but nursing down. I miss the freedom of being able to go out in the evenings (we have a regular babysitter who comes once a week and DS adores her, but we always have to come home before bedtime due to this situation).
I guess I just want some words of sympathy from more experienced mamas who've BTDT. Please tell me this will end. It scares me to think that he will be nursing-dependent for sleep until he's 3-4 years old and I have to keep doing this for another 1-2 years! At this point I have had to turn down work which I need due to the fact that I have to pick him up early from daycare, and can no longer leave him with DH past 8pm or for naps, not to mention I feel like I am tied to him and can only ever do things for myself in between his sleeping because I always have to be there when he falls asleep. I am considering "training" him to fall asleep without nursing but I fear that would just be too heartbreaking, I don't see him accepting it without a huge struggle and lots of pain. But I am getting weary here. Has anyone had luck with the Pantley method of getting rid of the suck to sleep association? Any experiences, advice, tips, or sympathy is welcome. Thanks!
Edited by P.J. - 2/17/12 at 6:01am