Lately I've been feeling kinda down about how people react to our decision to use GD with our kid. I've recently found out that several different family members and friends are talking behind our backs about it. Some have said things like: "Good luck, can't wait to see how that turns out!" in a doubtful, laughing way. Some call us naive for thinking we can raise our kid without spanking, grounding, or yelling. Another thinks if we just spanked our kid he wouldn't be so curious and exploring (he is a very into everything boy!).
I stand my ground, try to remind them that we DO have boundaries and consequences and that our son is expected to be a contributing member of our family. The fact that we choose to always respect DS and never hit him and that we use words other than no is the only way I think we and other family members differ on raising kids. And maybe the fact that DS is so very curious and active, they probably think if we spanked he would be less inclined to want to get into everything. And honestly, though DS wants to climb or get into everything, we don't let him. We keep him safe and make sure to let him know our boundaries. He's not a wild child, he just a very active CHILD.
Dang, it's just disheartening to hear that they can't wait until DS is a teen or grown up so we can see how silly our plans were. I'm just really down about it now and wish I had support, wishwishwish I could hear them say "Wow, he does listen" "Wow, it's amazing how that really works!" or something positive.
Thoughts? Anyone else feeling the same way?