Originally Posted by Onemoreontheway
You didn't write a book. I asked. :)
I see your babe is 2. Good for you on early intervention!
Things do change and get easier. Always new challenges.
Easier would be nice. We actually started the assessment process at 22 mos. He's almost 29 now. I was thinking something was "off", but I was expecting SPD. I was blindsided by the ASD Dx. And yet at the same time it was a huge relief.
Little guy started reading early too - he was reading by 22 mos. I can't wait until he has the attention span to actually sit down and read a book - even a board book. Right now the really hard part for me is that the only thing that holds his attention for more than 5 minutes is TV or the iPad. And not only do I feel badly about my use of that to keep him busy, but then I also get plenty of judgment from other people on it. Other people who obviously don't have an ASD kid that they have to deal with all day every day, and have no idea. Even DH doesn't really have any idea - which was part of our big fight this weekend. The longest he's ever taken DS on his own was 3 hours. I literally cannot get anything done unless he has media to distract him - he'll interrupt me every 5 minutes. But that means a lot of times things just go undone - like housework. Big bone of contention there.
ANyway... blah, blah, blah. It's a tough row to hoe, and it's really helpful to hear that it does get better as they get older. His communication skills right now are so basic that it is difficult. He has this HUGE vocabulary, I mean stunningly huge, on par with a 4 year old according to the experts, and yet he can't use it except to echo. He's making progress with ABA, but I'm just hopeful that his therapists can start controlling him better soon. We're supposed to start PLing next week, so that'll be a big load off of me (diaper laundry).
Originally Posted by forestmushroom
My daughter loves ballet, and I have always wanted to take the adult class offered at her studio. Seems like great, fun exercise!
My heart always goes out to ASD kids... most of the ASD kids I know are really cool kids! But they can be challenging... and I think a lot of people don't understand how hard it can be (I know I don't totally understand)...
Right now my 2 year old is eat chips watching some gardeners trim a hedge next door out the front window, without any pants or diapy on... I am so thankful for the gardeners entertaining him! He is telling me everything they are doing-- play by play. But he has been so occupied, I've gotten a ton of stuff done today and the time is passing so quickly!
I always loved ballet as a kid, to watch. But the teacher we had was definitely old school, into training ballerinas, not teaching kids to enjoy dancing. It really sucked a lot of the enjoyment out of it for me. I quit somewhere around 10, IIRC, which a part of me has always regretted. At this point I'm too big to go back to it. But once this baby arrives, DH is actually planning on riding my butt to lose some weight - chasing 2 LOs is going to require it. We're talking about setting up a "walkstation" for me if I can get a treadmill off CL. I may not have a whole lot of time to spend on the computer, but the time I would be spending, I'd be spending on the treadmill.
I agree that ASD kids can be really cool, but the hard part right now for me is the comparisons with other moms whose kids aren't ASD. The judgment, whether it's real or imagined. I don't have any friends with ASD kids a similar age, all my friend's kids are NT. Even non-mamas - my grandmother this weekend was getting judgmental about the fact that DS isn't PL'd yet, and yet even for a NT child, this isn't late. And yet at the same time I really struggle with not letting him "get away with" things just because he's ASD. It's a tough line to walk. And it doesn't help that I'm among the crunchier of my friends, so things like BWing, and even the fact that at 2 he's still getting formula (instead of being weaned to cow's milk at 12 mos on the nose) gets backs up. Heaven forbid I tell them that he still wants a boobie to hang onto as he goes to sleep, or that his night-time bottle is now (half) RAW milk (he only recently got willing to drink cow's milk, and our milk is farm fresh), or that breakfast each morning is sausage and egg. I feel like I'd be burned at the stake for heresy. Which is silly considering how crunchy this area is.
Anyway. Sorry. Obviously a sore subject right now, and since I have no one to talk to about it...
I did not get any canning done today, I'm too exhausted. But dinner last night was excellent. I went back for seconds of the veggies. Pork roast, roasted potatoes, roasted asparagus, hollandaise sauce (from scratch). And actually a really simple meal, since the roast and potatoes went into the oven together, the asparagus joined them the last 20 minutes, and then I made the hollandaise after I put the asparagus in. I think we'll be having more asparagus (and hollandaise) tonight, although I'm out of potatoes. I'll have to stop at the store after I pick up the milk share.
Baby is getting stronger by the day. DH was laying with his head on my belly last night while we were watching TV and she started kicking him in the back of the head. I wasn't sure if he felt it at first, but he did. Last week he could barely feel her with me moving his hand across my belly, and this week she's a LOT stronger. Strong enough to wake me up at night, in fact, which is interesting. I don't recall DS ever waking me up at night with movement.
MW appt tomorrow - DH is hopefully going to be WFH so he can get to know her too. Almost time for the afternoon therapist to show up, so I've gotta run.