We don't do any of the tests. The outcome would be the same regardless (aka, keeping the baby). I 'get' the benefits of having the knowledge ahead of time to prepare (dh has two young cousins -- both in their 20s at the time -- who have had children with DS), but I don't want to know.
I had a member of a DDC long ago who was doing UA/UC, but went into labor early, went to the hospital, ended up with a c/s and her son was born early and died because of a heart defect. Nothing could have been done about it even if they HAD found out early, and really, to me... the most beautiful part was that she said she was SO GLAD she didn't know ahead of time. She said she loved having a beautiful, normal pregnancy for the time she carried him. She loved him, appreciated him, and had no stresses or worries. She said she'd gladly do it all over again the exact same way.
That story has really stuck with me. Something about the joy and love of the unknown. I like that.
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