I don't want an abortion but I have no choice? - Page 2

[serenbat]

I got an ultrasound and I'm probably around 6 weeks,

please get a second opinion on that- you may not be- unless you know for sure do not go by that- it has been shown that pro-life places often exaggerate the weeks to make you think you are more weeks along so you do not abort - please check at an OP or other non-judgmental place so that you know for sure

[DexLGC]

Some people have regretted terminating, some haven't--my mother in law has twice, once because she was gravely ill and wouldn't have survived carrying to term, and once because they didn't have the resources to support a third child. She doesn't regret either one of them.

But you are absolutely right not to if you're uncomfortable with it. The point of reproductive rights isn't, "Yay abortions!" it's that you have a choice. Don't ever feel like you have to (or can't!) and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There are resources available, like JMJ said. If you really feel like you don't have the support resources, also know that some open adoptions do work. I know the bio-dad of a child his ex gave up for adoption when he was 19. He sees the little boy regularly, sends birthday presents,etc. It is possible.

No option is immune to heartache, and it's what makes choices like this so difficult--my heart goes out to you for needing to make it.

[sprout 1]

So more changes!! I decided there is no way I could get an abortion... I'll make this work no matter what. I really love this baby, and I'm getting so excited. Not sure how I'll make it work, but I will.

And surprisingly, I got a letter from the dad yesterday. He says he was so scared that night I told him, he wishes he could take it back, he could never go through with an abortion, and he'll always love me even if I don't ever talk to him again lol. I don't really know how I feel about him. I mean I have love for him... but he's kind of a loser. Then again look at the man I picked to be my husband/father of my kids, he just lost it and is even worse than this guy now. I guess you never can tell. 

I know I'm not going to get any help from the dad, and the last thing I need is another baby to take care of (not to mention his son, who is beyond a handful). But thankfully we have a while to figure things out.
Overall things are looking up... still sitting here feeling exhausted and pukey with 3 kids to take care of, but at least I know the dad is "supportive" of my decision. Next step is to tell the family. My brother somehow knows something is up, he's been texting me about beer for 2 days 

eta: just saw the info about the ultrasound. I thought it was fishy, I really did not recognize it as a 6week ultrasound, and the tech only could find it for a few flashes, not even long enough to get a picture. No heartbeat which freaked me out, but I figured I was about 5wks based on my dates so tried not to worry about it.  I don't think I'll go back to that place, they didn't really have it together and I don't dig the dishonesty.

[serenbat]

eta: just saw the info about the ultrasound.

awhile back there was a documentary on HBO about pro and anti and they talked about greatly altering the ultrasounds and I have also personal heard of this (mostly in cases farther along!!)

seek a reputable provider for accurate info

good luck with what ever choice you choose (or have made)

[Mom31]

Hugs mama... it will all work out.

[forever friend]

I was just wondering how you are doing now? You must be just under 2 months away from having your baby...I hope all is going very well for you. I wish I could help, emotionally, financially, etc... If you need ANYTHING please let me know!! MY mom was a single mom and I am so grateful to her for all of her hard work and LOVE she gave us!! Hugs and Love to you!! God's blessings on you and your children!! James 1:17 Every good GIFT and every perfect Gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of Lights  with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. He never changes His love toward you!!!

[Oliver'sMom]

Hugs to you!  You're an amazing mother and the love you have for your 4 children shines through your posts.  I've found that babies come on their time, not ours.  When my husband and I were dating in college, I got pregnant.  I was on the pill, and we used condoms, but it still happened.  Sadly, that pregnancy ended in miscarriage.

My point is, babies happen :)  Please don't feel ashamed or that you're an idiot for being excited about your pregnancy.  Yes, it will be hard, and yes, stupid people may judge you, but you get a gorgeous brand new human being out of the deal!  Love will conquer all.  Congratulations on making your final decision.  I can only imagine how hard this all must be.  You can do this!!