Originally Posted by lilyka
So long as you are not eating too little I do not see why giving something up would launch you back into an eating disorder.
I am Orthodox so we fast a group, all from the same things. (essentially vegan + no olive oil + no wine). no one will starve if you eat properly. Another upside to the way we do it anything that we would come up against from a mental/emotional perspective - such as an eating disorder or fear of relapse or depression - could be dealt with by keeping close contact with our spiritual father and frequent confession. And the fast could be adjusted to our needs in a way that would be most beneficial to us spiritually. Do you have a spiritual mentor you could work with? Someone who could walk through this with you and help you to use the fast for healing and wholeness rather than something that would cause you to stumble?
Respectfully lilyka, I think your post demonstrates some misunderstandings about eating disorders. I'm sure it was unintentional, but your phrasing came off (to me, not trying to speak for the OP) as a bit dismissive and insensitive.
An eating disorder is a form of OCD. It's obsessive.
It is very common for restrictive diets of all kinds to trigger relapses, because they're perfect for forcing ED sufferers to pay lots of attention to what is/isn't going into their bodies, rekindling harmful food obsessions.
Telling an ED survivor that they "won't starve" if they fast for one day is a lot like telling a sober alcoholic that they won't get drunk on one shot of tequila. Almost invariably, what will the alcoholic want after that one drink?
Anyways, Crunchy Mama, I agree with Lisa on this, 100%. When I went to Catholic high school, our teachers would highlight historical traditions, but made a point of not pressuring us to fast or restrict our diets. EDs are so common for girls in high school already. They explicitly stated this, every Lent. They even wrote a letter to parents, saying that they would not encroach on family practices/traditions, but that their policy was not to encroach on the developing bodies of young people. They encouraged us to channel our energies into engaging with our communities in new ways, or otherwise working on self-development projects towards compassion. I have never been Catholic, but I now can really appreciate the school's enlightened take on Lent.
Making healthy decisions that allow you to care for yourself and others is always the way of a truly compassionate God, no?
Hope you have tons of support.