Weekly chat feb 13-19 « Back to Group Discussions

[SilverMoonMama]

lol i posted on last weeks thread late last night and then realized no one will see it becasue that week is over so i figured i would just start the next week up and will actually MAKE A POST THIS WEEK! ^_^

 i am 9w2d today and i feel way behind in that i havn't had my first real ob appointment or ultrasound yet! i so wish i could have an ultrasound soon, i feel like i randomly just forget im even pregnant and then i have bad feelings that somethings wrong because i just dont feel like im really pregnant...ugh.

in happier news it seems DD has developed her first imaginary friend lol we were sitting in my car outside our house today and she started pointing out the window and saying "FROGGY! FROGGY! " i said where is he??? and looked out the widow for him but so no sign or a frog, then it hit me that it was WAY to cold out for a frog to just be hopping around....so i took her out of the car and said where is he???? and she ran over to a part of the lawn to point him out but obviously he wasnt there so then she ran over to the neighbors porch and pointed underneith it... i said oh he went under there??? and he said YEAH! so i looked for him but there was no sign oh any creature under there... so i said well i dont see him under there... and she started yelling "ARE YOU????ARE YOU FROGGY!???" and putting her fingers in her mouth trying to whistle for him lol we went past there two more times through out the day and both times she ran over to the porch calling for him

DH who has little imagination decided she must have seen a bird or a squirl go under there and thought it was a frog but she seems very sure it was a frog to me.....ramble over

[MissE]

LOL froggy, cute. my kids never had imaginary friends. maybe one day lol. i never had one as a kid

i'm 8+5 today...feeling good, no more nausea and definitely with a growing belly.

[goin' green]

Hi ladies!

I was traveling last week - just got back last night.  I'm 7w6d today, ate WAY too many grains while away and am really bloated and gained a few pounds.  Oh well.  I know it will all even out.  

Got some really crappy news this weekend too.  DH's step-dad has lung cancer, and it's already metastisized to his brain and they're suspecting spine as well (bone scan today will confirm).  

I haven't had an u/s, no appt scheduled.  Midwife and I are pretty lax on this stuff, I guess.  Happy to be 8 weeks tomorrow, though!

[Ava's Mama]

I am 10+4 today.  We have our first homebirth midwife visit Friday so I am anxious to hear the heart beat and then we will start telling more people.  Definitely have to wear my bella belt most of the time now :)

[beans]

I have my first appt with my midwife on Wed. I'll be 11 weeks. Despite the fact that I *know* I'm pregnant (symptoms, etc), I always take such great comfort in hearing that first swish-swish of the heartbeat. Once that's heard, it feels so much more official. I have mixed feelings on my need to rely on technology to confirm something I know is happening, but...meh...it's where I'm at.

Also, I'm having some major mood issues of late. Some crying spells, feelings of being completely overwhelmed, feelings like DH isn't being "there" for me. Ugh. Then I come out of it and am impatient with myself for not getting it together... So, I'm basically feeling a little crazy!

Other than those little moments though, things are ok. I want nothing but fruit, fruit, fruit. And it's PRICEY! But, it's what I want to eat- all day long. I have to choke down protein-y things. Pineapple and kiwi are where it's at.

[beans]

goin' green and Ava's Mama- we cross posted.

goin' green, so sorry to hear about the cancer- that's just awful.

Ava's Mama, I need the band every day now- there's no getting around it!

[hyde]

9w2d here. I think (*knocks on wood*) the nausea is letting up a bit, though that doesn't mean I'm off the hook with the vomiting. This morning I was able to eat breakfast with no issues, but an hour later I just got that oh no.. here we go again feeling. And there we went again.

I'm bickering with my husband too. The most obnoxious part is that I can have it out and be done with it (and these days with the combative hormones I've got going on it feels GOOD, rawr), but he'll be sulking for the next day and a half, which is such a PITA to deal with.

We've got an appointment this Friday.. MW is going to try to get the heartbeat on the Doppler. I'll be 9w6d so I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but really I'm totally geeked. We'd have scheduled the appointment for a bit later but she'll be on vacation the following week(s), and then we're traveling, so it would've been pushed out to like 14 weeks, which, who has that kind of patience? ;) 

Best wishes to everyone for calm stomachs and minds this week.

ETA: beans- "...feelings like DH isn't being "there" for me..." Yes! With you on this. Really he's been very good w/ taking care of food, driving me to appointments, etc., but sometimes.. man. I don't even always know exactly what it is that I expect/want, but I know when I'm not getting it. Heh.

[MindlessChrissy]

8w1d today and finally going for bloodwork. Hoping for good news. They want this done before I can get an appointment which is odd to me. Fingers crossed for great bw and hopefully I'll know one way or the other as to what's going on by next week.

[Ava's Mama]

DH is giving me a hard time because I DO NOT have a sex drive!  But he always tries to "seduce" me when I am sleeping and sleep is so precious!  It is weird because with DD my sex drive was really high, but this time I am dry as a bone and it hurts for two days after sex.  I think my hormones are different now (it took about a year post DD to feel comfortable down there having sex without crying) and I think I have some anxiety of hurting the baby.  Maybe one I hear the heartbeat I will loosen up!

[WindyCityMom]

Goin' green- I'm so sorry to hear about the cancer.  The same thing happened to my mother.. lung cancer, moved to her brain and her bones :( Peace to you guys during this difficult time.

SilverMoonMama- Your DD sounds like such a character!  That is adorable.  I remember having imaginary friends when I was around 4... my mother and grandmother got quite annoyed 

[Jend1002]

Goin Green - so sorry to hear about your DH's step-dad. 

Avas Mama- I want to love bella bands but I just don't!  I borrowed two from a friend and I just find them to be uncomfortable.  I wish that wasn't the case because I really need it - I am going with the hair tie thing for now and will likely pull out my mat pants this weekend. 

beans, hyde, and Avas Mama - I am having some DH issues right now too.  I really don't feel supported in the way that I need but I also can't put a finger on what it is I am needing.  Yesterday DH told me that he needed to talk with me about something then proceeded to tell me that my complaining about being tired or sick is getting on his nerves.  I just started crying and asked him what I could possibly "discuss" with him about that.  I have since kept quiet, but man...I am angry! He got so mad at me yesterday because I couldn't help him with our weekly meal planning.  I told him nothing sounds good and I can't even think about it.  I think that's what started the whole thing off.   Maybe I do complain a lot because I am hoping for some recognition for what I am experiencing and he doesn't acknowledge it at all.   Oh and hyde, I have a multi-day sulker too.  That seriously annoys me.  Avas Mama  - I have no sex drive AT ALL.  I am sure that is adding to my DH's angst.

Mindless Chrissy - Good thoughts to you on your bloodwork!
 

AFM - (as if the rest of this wasn't partly about me ) - I am 8w1d today.  I have my first OB appt. tomorrow with an ultrasound.  I hope this brings me some reassurance however I am definitely feeling pregnant now.  I just want to hear the heartbeat and I REALLY want to see only one baby!   All these multiples are making me nervous!  My belly really popped out over the weekend which caught me by surprise.  I am feeling especially chubby right now too.  I am planning on not telling my family or people at work until the end of the 1st tri so I am wondering how to keep this "weight gain" under wraps!!

[Monkey Keeper]

I'm so surprised by all of you poking out already. My uterus is really, really retroverted, so there's no telling I'm pregnant for a long while.  I feel firm from about halfway below my belly button down, but no start of a bump at all.  

goin' green-I am so very sorry for your family. What a difficut time!

husbands--UGH. Really, they just. don't. get it. Mine has been awesome lately, but I've kinda been demanding it :)

appointments-My first OB appointment is not until 3/5 when I will be almost 12w. I had a nurse appointment for paperwork and bloodwork and then an u/s for dating (wouldn't have had this unless we were unsure), so not any early than most of you!  I'm dying here...3 more weeks!

AFM- I have been so, so sick--with my 2nd bout of strep since I got pregnant. And this time it is thoroughly kicking my behind.  I am exhausted, my body hurts, it's bad. So bad that I called my OB in tears today worried about the baby. She was so reassuring, AFTER I actually got to talk to her.  The one nurse in her office just loooooves being a gatekeeper.  I really wanted an in-person appointment, and the nurse would not have it. But at least my OB called me, spent some time on the phone and reassured me. She said I'm probably taking so long to recover specifically because of pregnancy. The only thing that would have made me feel better than that was seeing a lil' heartbeat ;)  The next 3 weeks are going to drag, and I might have to hunt down my mw friend and her doppler to ease my crazy...

[judybean]

goin' green -- So sorry about such horrid news :( May peace, light and love surround your family.

husbands -- Mine is hit or miss.  Sometimes so amazingly above and beyond what is needed and sometimes so frickin' dense that I can't believe he's lasted this long ;)

appointments -- I have none yet. I've been in contact with my midwife on FB (we're friends ;) ), but haven't called to schedule a real appointment.  She doesn't see people until after 10 weeks anyway... but since I'm 10w3d, I guess I should call!  I would like to hear a heartbeat.  We're not planning on any ultrasounds or anything (haven't had them for the last two pregnancies either), but I don't mind a bit of doppler assurance.  Especially after a loss.

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I need to tend to the rice on the stove and get the stir fry going.  I want to sew some more baby clothes.  My BIL/SIL are expecting a boy in June and I got some new boyish fun fabrics to play with!  And of course I don't know what gender this babe is, but I have trouble thinking anything other than GIRL since we have four already ;) (and I'm certain our loss was a girl as well). 

Clothing still fits fine.  All my normal clothes are still going strong and I think that's a good thing.  Good thing too, since in the last four days I've had to sing at funerals at church (yeah.. an odd career.. wedding singers are much more glorified).  I made sure to eat plenty of protein-laden foods to tide me over through practicing beforehand and making sure I don't pass out during singing.  I did that once when pg with dd1.  Oops ;)  (now I ALWAYS eat something in the mornings).

[amydiane]

Originally Posted by SilverMoonMama 

 i am 9w2d today and i feel way behind in that i havn't had my first real ob appointment or ultrasound yet! i so wish i could have an ultrasound soon, i feel like i randomly just forget im even pregnant and then i have bad feelings that somethings wrong because i just dont feel like im really pregnant...ugh.

I'm 9w3d today and I haven't had an appointment at all (and don't have one scheduled).  We took a while to decide on our provider, otherwise I would have at least had one set up.  I've talked to the MW over e-mail and I'm going to try to give her a call tomorrow to get that done.

Originally Posted by goin' green 

Got some really crappy news this weekend too.  DH's step-dad has lung cancer, and it's already metastisized to his brain and they're suspecting spine as well (bone scan today will confirm).  

So sorry to hear this. :(

Originally Posted by hyde 

I'm bickering with my husband too. The most obnoxious part is that I can have it out and be done with it (and these days with the combative hormones I've got going on it feels GOOD, rawr), but he'll be sulking for the next day and a half, which is such a PITA to deal with.

I have the opposite problem with my hubby....I'll tell him what I'm upset about and he'll either get annoyed or sulky, but he won't say much.  Then an hour later, I'm still mad because nothing's changed and he's back to normal, happy, nothing's wrong.  We don't argue often but that makes me nuts!

Originally Posted by Ava's Mama 

DH is giving me a hard time because I DO NOT have a sex drive!  But he always tries to "seduce" me when I am sleeping and sleep is so precious!  It is weird because with DD my sex drive was really high, but this time I am dry as a bone and it hurts for two days after sex.  I think my hormones are different now (it took about a year post DD to feel comfortable down there having sex without crying) and I think I have some anxiety of hurting the baby.  Maybe one I hear the heartbeat I will loosen up!

Oh geez, I have none either.  And between the exhaustion and the nausea, ugh.  DH also will try when I'm half or mostly asleep and I'm like, "Seriously?"

Originally Posted by Jend1002 

beans, hyde, and Avas Mama - I am having some DH issues right now too.  I really don't feel supported in the way that I need but I also can't put a finger on what it is I am needing.  Yesterday DH told me that he needed to talk with me about something then proceeded to tell me that my complaining about being tired or sick is getting on his nerves.  I just started crying and asked him what I could possibly "discuss" with him about that.  I have since kept quiet, but man...I am angry! He got so mad at me yesterday because I couldn't help him with our weekly meal planning.  I told him nothing sounds good and I can't even think about it.  I think that's what started the whole thing off.   Maybe I do complain a lot because I am hoping for some recognition for what I am experiencing and he doesn't acknowledge it at all.   Oh and hyde, I have a multi-day sulker too.  That seriously annoys me.  Avas Mama  - I have no sex drive AT ALL.  I am sure that is adding to my DH's angst.

I hear you on the meal planning and DH grumpiness.  Usually I ask him if he has any requests for the week (he usually has one or 2), then I put it together and run it by him before going to the store.  Now, he just says that I should do it because I'm the one who's so picky right now.  He probably thinks he's being nice, but I have tried to explain to him that *nothing* sounds good, and on the rare occasion that something does, it could change at any moment, so planning it ahead doesn't really help.  So then we end up eating pasta or something because neither of us can decide until dinner time and then we need something quick and easy.  I usually like to cook and make most of our stuff form scratch or close to it, but even thinking about most foods right now makes me nauseous, so I can't really prepare them, either. 

AFM, I've been nauseous most of the time for several weeks, but it's mostly been manageable - annoying, yes, and it gives me lots of aversions, but there was only one night where I threw up.  Then it got worse a few days ago and I've thrown up a couple more times and been on the verge of it a lot.  I just hope it levels off soon.

[rubyrose]

Hi everyone.  Happy Monday.  I'm 7w 2d today.  I'm just anxiously waiting for each day to pass and this bean to stick. :)

I told a friend today who still has a stash of maternity clothes to save them for me.  Her baby is 1 yo, but she still has her entire wardrobe for me.  Thank goodness.

My clothes are getting tighter already.

[goin' green]

Originally Posted by WindyCityMom 

Goin' green- I'm so sorry to hear about the cancer.  The same thing happened to my mother.. lung cancer, moved to her brain and her bones :( Peace to you guys during this difficult time.

Thank you, and I'm so sorry to hear about your mom.  It just shows how little you know about something until you deal with it - once we discovered this - I have had SO many people I know say "Oh yeah, that happened to my ____".  More common than I thought.  So sad...
 

Originally Posted by PinkBunch 

appointments-My first OB appointment is not until 3/5 when I will be almost 12w. I had a nurse appointment for paperwork and bloodwork and then an u/s for dating (wouldn't have had this unless we were unsure), so not any early than most of you!  I'm dying here...3 more weeks!

I JUST got mine scheduled today too - for the same day as yours!  I think I'll be 10w6d.  Feels like forever away....  And likely no u/s until midway through for me.  I would kind of like one for dating, (and just to verify one bean!).
 

Originally Posted by Jend1002 

I want to love bella bands but I just don't!  I borrowed two from a friend and I just find them to be uncomfortable.  I wish that wasn't the case because I really need it - I am going with the hair tie thing for now and will likely pull out my mat pants this weekend. 

I'm with you!  I had them for my first pregnancy and I didn't care for them at all.  I just wear my clothes until it gets too uncomfortable to, and then i switch.  I'm at the point where all my clothes fit, but after I eat I totally feel like I have to unbutton.  But, I did just get back from Cali and I ate like a pig and way too much gluten/grains too, which doesn't help.  
 

[Flower of Bliss]

goin' green, I'm so sorry about your DH's step dad. 
 

Originally Posted by Ava's Mama 

DH is giving me a hard time because I DO NOT have a sex drive!  But he always tries to "seduce" me when I am sleeping and sleep is so precious!  It is weird because with DD my sex drive was really high, but this time I am dry as a bone and it hurts for two days after sex.  I think my hormones are different now (it took about a year post DD to feel comfortable down there having sex without crying) and I think I have some anxiety of hurting the baby.  Maybe one I hear the heartbeat I will loosen up!

I had a serious issue with painful sex postpartum with DD1 (after a 4th degree tear).  Finding lube I actually like totally saved our sex life.  My drive's been a bit low with nausea (and I've been sick twice, and DH threw out his back...), but lube makes a huge difference for me while BFing and while pregnant.  FWIW, I use Firefly.  It's a bit pricey, but so very worth it.  I feel very comfortable with the ingredients, it never gets sticky, doesn't dry out, and feels like my natural lubrication. 

AFM - I'm recovering from a sore throat.  At least I'm saying I'm recovering because I'm done being sick and plan to actually leave the house with the kids tomorrow.  It's sort of hard to distinguish symptoms of illness from symptoms of pregnancy.  DH, who has been working absolutely ridiculous hours including all day Saturday (home around 7pm) followed by an hour in the middle of the night Saturday night, left the office really early today, went grocery shopping (which I always do on the weekends, but I was too sick), came home, and took over with the kids and fixed dinner.  I'm so grateful for the break.

I'm 9 weeks tomorrow.  I have 2 more appointments with my RE - this Friday and next.  Between now and then DH and I need to sit down and fully settle on a midwife and set up an appointment.  I'm still mostly fitting in my regular clothes, but I've been wearing some maternity shirts that are just a bit long.  I'm buttoning my pants lower, so the extra length helps.  I can't hold up maternity jeans yet (at least none I have), though I am unbuttoning my regular ones at home   Looking forward to really looking pregnant.  The in between stage is so awkward.

[Carson]

I feel so strange you guys, so, well, normal!  I'm  9w2d and have felt remarkably different today.  No need to nap, clear headed at work, and not nauseous.  I even ate a salad! I am terribly scared because this is about the time my symptoms disappeared last time.  I know that I need to take solace in the stats, my RE said chance of m/c at this point (we saw 3 consecutive weeks of increased growth and heart rate) is only 5% but it's so scary.  Ugh, don't see my MW for 2.5 weeks, and it will be a really long wait...

[mymaya]

Carson, I am sending you the most positive vibes and virtual hugs. I completely understand about how this anxiety feels. For different reasons, I have also been experiencing various degrees of anxiety over the last 6 weeks; I was (and still am, to a lesser degree) also afraid of the outcome. While some people look down on me for seeking reassurance by getting blood tests, scans and genetic testing, we do, after all, what it takes to put our mind at ease. we all have our own, personal stories, and, hopefully, our share and capabilities of compassion and support.

I have had, over the past 6 weeks, a few moments (days, really) when I felt my symptoms went away, and it freaked me out. I was also spotting/bleeding for 5 straight weeks, and insisted on checking my progesterone, finally at 9 weeks, and the number was a border-line for me (for my gut feeling). I went on a supplement, and ever since starting it the spotting disappeared completely. no hint. my MW (yes, I am with a homebirth MW, while seeking unreliable blood tests and screening for Down's Syndrome and other syndromes...:) congratulated me on a "good call". 

I understand how feeling "normal" can be scary; I wish you peace and I am sure all is well.

mymaya.

[jodieanneanton]

Goin Green- Sooo soo sorry to hear about your Father in law.  A diagnosis like that is so hard to deal with.  I will pray for peace for your family in this difficult time. 

Sex-  Yeah.  I am not interested... generally speaking.  It's mostly because of nausea.  And I noticed that when we DTD, for at least the next day I have weird engorgement type pain down there... (Clitoris/labia area)... no fun.  I am hoping this goes away... I feel like I am going to be like this forever.  I am usually the one making the moves, but not now.  My husband has been reminding me that typically my second trimester is *much* different.  lol.  So are the two weeks before the due date until I finally have the baby one week late!  haha!

Husbands- Mine is being quite understanding.  But, I wish I could label things in the fridge as *MINE!* Yesterday, DH had a large glass of MY orange juice.  I almost had a fit but kept it in because I knew I was being irrational!  Now, I have to go grocery shopping tomorrow cuz I won't be able to wait until Thursday (my usual shopping day).  One day without at least 2 glasses of OJ is NOT acceptable! 

AFM- I had to skin a chicken today so I could make chicken stock.  (I hate the oily feeling of the stock when I skip this step.)  It was utter grossness.  It was the first time in 2 months I have dealt with raw meat!  At least I didn't barf!  There is a cold in my house and we are def needing some of mommy's chicken soup around here.  I can't tell if I will be getting this cold or am just dealing with my pregnancy congestion/tiredness...

In other news, our bluray player died.    At least we have a warranty, although I find best buy to be really really annoying regarding fixing/replacing products.  Anyway, this means if I want a nap today, I have to rely on our 2 VHS tapes...Brave little toaster and Charlotte's web.  Which our kids are not into now. 

Also, HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO ALL!  :)