Hubby defines a "good child" as an obedient child. I try and try to convince him otherwise but have been unsuccessful. Our 3 y/o is on the spirited side and rather high energy. When our 3 y/o "defies" dh, he feels like ds1 is being "bad". I think it is unreasonable to always expect such a young child to put aside what he would prefer to do to do what an adult is asking him to do. DH feels that our son is "disrespectful" to him because ds1 does not always do what dh asks of him.
How much obedience is reasonable to expect from a 3 y/o?