My 8.5 year old has been treading some unstable friend waters these days. She revealed to me last week that a girl in her class slapped her in the face, called her "gay" and talks behind her back. If it were just name calling, I would've resorted to my usual role playing with her, teaching her responses, but even here, I'm stumped. But I called the principle about the slapping. I don't hit my kid, so I don't expect her to get slapped at school either. Both girls were called down seperately. Bully girl denied the slapping but admitted she could have "accidently bumped" into my daughter. Teacher talked to both my daughter and bully girl together, too, and talked about community building and respectful behavior, keeping hands to themselves. What ever. blah blah blah.
The biggest issue: my daughter is drawn to this bully girl, and another "moody" friend (likes her 1 day, disses her, another). I have told her to ignore both girls and to foster her friendships with the nicer girls in class she's already friends with.
How can I cut her attraction to the mean girls???? I know it's building up her self esteem, and things like this, gradual things, but what can I do NOW, right this minute, to nip this in the bud??? I plan on getting the Queen Bees and Wannabees book. But I need ideas I can use now. Thank you!