We had been planning to child-led wean - BUT I'm pregnant with a high risk for premature labor (short cervix) and my midwife said I needed to wean my 4 year old. She was down to 1 or 2 short nursings per day before pregnancy. I wasn't sure I was going to be able to nurse much longer anyway because my nipples hurt so bad. I told dd my nipples were sore so I was going to count to 10 and then she'd have to stop nursing. This worked all too well, because dd made a silly game of it where she'd pop off before I got to 10, and I'd play mad with her that "hey, I wasn't even to 10 yet!" So after a few days of that, dd was just basically latching on (so painful!) and then popping off. So then we started doing "belly snuggles" instead of nursing. And that is sweet and will probably be even sweeter when dd finds out there's a baby in there. I didn't want her to associate weaning with a new baby so we haven't told her yet. So weaning went about as well as can be expected.
Still... sigh... I'm sad about weaning. I don't know if it's the pregnancy hormones or the end of my wonderful nursing hormones or what, but I'm just depressed. I've wanted to just be alone lately and not do anything with dd... and I know right now she needs me to redefine our relationship and reattach with her in a different way. I'm really sad about our special one-on-one relationship changing/ending, and I already feel torn between dd and the new baby... and I'm only 12 weeks pregnant.
Any words of comfort or encouragement?