My 5 year old son is a highly spirited little boy. Lately I am watching his friends progress in ways he is not. I am so confused on what are normal issues vs what is boy naughtiness, or potential ADD/AD-HA. I bring up AD/AD HA because I don't know what else to call it. What are issues I can handle through discipline or positive re-enforcement, or does he have a clinical issue.
Here are some examples. Last night at his wrestling practice the coaches have the boys warm up by running in circles, skipping and so on. My DS marches to his own beat. He runs in circles but starts to laugh a lot, calls the other kids poop pants, runs in the middle of the circle not in line with others. During stretches he is so naughty won't sit still. While the coach is trying to explain to the other young boys their instruction he will jump on the coaches back. The coach will say "One at a time, one at a time" and my DS doesn't seem to hear it. He just does what he wants. When leaving wrestling, he started to run down the hall, I said no running but he just keeps going. I do feel like he just disregards me so much. Then again I also feel like he is totally unaware of his actions. He just can calm down in a group activities.
I already feel like I am constantly rule setting! He needs lots of instruction. Doesn't use a fork, messy messy. Talks a lot! However, he will sit down in our basement with Lego's for hours by himself and creative plays (well for a long time not necessarily hours). When asking him to practice his tae kwon do he will not practice. When coloring he just makes huge scribble circles (calls them tornado's)...I see other kids drawing castles and things. When his teacher tells him to make a snowman, he draws it beautiful. But during his free color it is just big passionate circles in many colors.
At his afternoon preschool (it is a outdoor type program) he ROARS at people faces, really gives the teachers a hard time. They are easy going type teachers. I have found he teases girls and chases them. When asked to stop, he will but goes right back to it.
I feel over whelmed with what should I be disciplining, what it normal and what is not. I try not to compare him but last night in the group of boys, he was different than the others.
Lastly, my DS has a smile that makes a room light up. He can be so wonderful, just so much work. I don't want him to be ashamed of himself I want him to be a good choice maker and be confident. Lately, I am furstrated with gentle disciplin, and feel like cracking down. I won't! but feel like maybe I am too soft. Any advise? Thanks.