For example, I find this very interesting. Personally, I have felt the impulse myself to justify every medical intervention in my labor, and have many friends who have done the same (for everything from c-sections to epidurals to pitocin). Some of these were medically unavoidable, some were personal choices, for reasons such as pain relief. And you're right, for me, part of that is coping with it and forgiving myself - but part of the reason I feel the need to forgive myself is from perceived pressure from the "how natural was YOUR birth" pissing contest - part of it is feeling like I didn't handle the situation to the best of my ability, part of it is any effect it may have had on my son, etc. Just goes to show how differently women process things - like I said before, we need to respect the diversity instead of trying to pigeonhole everyone.
This part makes me feel bad sometimes. One of my main frustrations with birth interventions, in general, is that I truly don't believe we (midwives, doctors, etc.) know enough about what the long term effects can be. The entire process of labour, birth, bonding, establishing breastfeeding, etc. is so much more complicated than people treat it as being, yk?
Maybe I just don't run into the pissing contest aspect of it, because I'm the one who's really upset about my c-sections, and I don't think they were necessary in the first place. I can't justify them, because I don't believe they're justified. So, it's just not something I've ever run into.