My son is in kinder, just turned six almost a month ago. I don't know if the problem is myself as a teacher, the curriculum, or my expectations.
For a while we struggled with learning to read. This my fault for the most part I feel, as we didn't get a good reading curriculum or lessons for a long time. We now use a combo of ReadingEggs.com, Tanglewood School's phonics curriculum with reinforcement with Spectrum Phonics Level K, (just a sheet or two a day), and the Level 1 set of BOB books. He is reading more than he was...I feel like it's finally not memorization but he's actually decoding it in his head. We still have a long way to go however.
Our second struggle was/is math. I have him in Singapore Earlybird with reinforcement on IXL.com and this is where the biggest issues are now. Part of me wonders if the kinder standards are just too much for some kids. His mental math skills are almost none. If you ask him what 3 plus 2 is, he just looks at you blankly. He does not reach for his manipulatives or even use his fingers, he just says "I don't know." Skip counting by any number (2's, 5's, 10's) is a disaster, he just does not grasp it. Tally marks-nope! I feel he's just kind of coasting along.
We use mostly a Charlotte Mason method, using Ambleside Online Year 0 and an easy pack from Queen Home school. For the most part he seems to do OK in other subjects. I don't expect a narration or recitation at this age, but after reading through the lesson I will ask him "What's one thing you remember about this lesson?" and much of the lesson he will say he does not remember.
I worry especially because the time is likely going to come when he has to go to either a brick and mortar school or, if I'm fortunate, an online public school, once I start nursing clinicals in a few years. I don't want him behind when this happens and have to hear the criticism of parents leaving the teaching to the teachers and how I've messed him up (from teachers, family,etc). If I knew for sure that he was going to be home schooled permanently I wouldn't worry as much but since that likely won't be the case I do worry.
So I don't know if it's just me or if he's not developmentally ready for some of this or if I need a change in curriculum. I sense I need to switch math curriculum but which one will help him I don't know. I don't know if I may need to switch completely to an online school now, or to Calvert or Oak Meadow...something with a teaching advisory service. Or even put him in a brick and mortar school. I love love love being with him and teaching him but if I just don't have a handle on teaching him where he can process stuff then I'm doing him no favors and he'd be better off in some school where at least he might have a chance with being taught.
Words of wisdom..thoughts....anything and everything is welcomed.