A little back story first. When I got pregnant with DS (my first) DH and I discussed everything from breastfeeding to co-sleeping to discipline techniques. We were so sure that we had it all figured out.
Once DS was born everything changed for me. I decided that co-sleeping made more sense for a nursing mama, found that I could never spank my child (even when I tried) and that I wanted to nurse well beyond the 18 month goal I originally set.
DH and I have been through such a trying time over the last year and a half trying to make our differences in parenting philosophy work together. Now we are 2 months beyond our original nursing limit (which DH was a little hesitant about anyway!) and 4 months from DH's weaning deadline. Ok, he didn't impose it himself, when we got to 18 months and it was clear DS was no where near ready to wean DH let off the pressure but he is serious about being weaned by 2.
I guess my question is two fold. First, how do I convince DH that nursing beyond 2 is not a big deal? He's never been around a nursing baby other than DS and my nephew. The only cousin that he is close to in age and his siblings were all bottle fed and weaned by one or two. Most of our friends (much to my dismay) only nursed to a year if that long. I feel as though I'm always pleading my case for something and I'm so exhausted. I just want him to see it my way! (silly, right?)
The second part is how do I even begin to wean DS? I think I would be ready if he decided to self wean soon, but I just don't see it happening. Tonight as I nursed him to sleep he yelled "No! Nurse!" when I tried to unlatch him after 20 straight minutes of nursing. Most days he's down to only four or five sessions a day plus one or two at night - but I just don't see him dropping all of those in four months... please help!